Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 128 Location: Edinburg, Texas, United States
Without a Paddle Posted: 02-13-07 00:39am
Ok, i'm hoping someone here has some
advice for me. I'm pretty much up a creek
without a paddle.
I'm 17 years old right now and a senior in
high school. I've only been sexually
active for a few months now. I'm the
youngest of all of my siblings and have
always been "the good girl", you know the
one who never messes up. A while back, my
mom got wind of me losing my virginity,
but when she confronted me about it, I
denied it. She felt that she could trust
me and believed me. At the time, I was
terrified to tell her because I knew she
would be disappointed in me. I may just
be panicking too much right now, but this
past month, I had unprotected sex. My
boyfriend pulled out at what we believe
was in time, but i've yet to get my
period. It's about a week late and i'm
absolutely terrified. My boyfriend's
mother is aware that the two of us are
sexually active and I believe she'd help
me to choose a test if I need one. I'm
considering going to get a home test to
check for pregnancy, but I know those
aren't always accurate and that my best
bet would be to get tested medically. I
just don't know if I should. I know that
getting this test would require me to tell
my mother that i'm not a virgin and she'd
pretty much come close to killing me when
that happens. If i'm pregnant, it would
just make things worse. Is there any easy
way to do this or should I tell her
straight out? I'm so unsure of what I
should do. Please help.
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littlesqueaks
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 296 Location: Caldwell, Idaho
Posted: 02-13-07 00:47am
Deffinantly time to have a test. A home
pregnancy test are pretty accurate after
having a missed period. Your mom will be
disappointed and possibly a little upset.
But lets say the test comes out negative,
if you are honest with your mom about
being sexually active then she can help in
getting you on birth control and protect
yourself from future scares. If you are
positive there is no way to deny it no
matter what. Just be honest with her,
your her daughter and she will love you no
matter what.
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Jules
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Posted: 02-13-07 04:11am
A home urine test is just as accurate as a
doc urine test. If I were you i'd get
myself a hpt straight away and find out
what i'm dealing with.
Good luck!
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Mabel
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Joined: 09 Mar 2006 Posts: 8957 Location: Grinning like a Cheshire Cat,
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Posted: 02-13-07 10:51am
Go to planned parenthood. You can get
tested for pregnancy for free - and the
bonus is, if you are not pregnant, you can
get free birth control.
Do you seriously think your mom thinks you
are being honest with her? If she
confronted you about sex, she has a pretty
good idea you are having it - she probably
expected you to deny it.
No one needs to help you pick out a
pregnancy test! You can do that by
yourself. You can even get the
equate/walmart brand, it is just as good
as any of the others.
The sooner you test, the more options you
have. Good luck!
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DueInMay
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2007 Posts: 15 Location: Edmonton Alberta
Posted: 02-13-07 11:33am
Take a test as soon as you can.
As far as telling your mom and having her
disapointed in you , she might get upset
and say shes mad, but in the end your her
daughter and she will support you
just sit down with her and talk to her one
on one. If you are pregnant just lay it
out there by saying something I know this
might disapoint you but I need to tell you
something and all I can ask for is your
love and support.
My mom was pissed off when I told her I
was pregnant, and im engaged..Lol but she
eventually came to reality and that im not
the only one going through it
lots of teens get pregnant and make it
through it just fine. And im sure that
after the shock is over your mom will be
there and support you through it...If you
are pregnant.
Good luck with everything!
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Aryeani
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 128 Location: Edinburg, Texas, United States
Posted: 03-08-07 22:44pm
Sorry. I haven't replied. I tested myself
and I'm not pregnant. So big relief there.
My mother also now knows and we're working
on getting me on birth control. Thanks to
everyone for the advice =)
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Kia
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Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 03-09-07 03:15am
that's really good to hear.
And great that mom is being supportive and
helpful.
