Painful Intercourse... Please Help Posted: 02-13-07 01:08am
Hello,
(i hope i'm posting in the right place and
am not to graphical in my descriptions)
i have a quesion about a problem my
fiancee is having...
About 2 months back, she went to her
doctor for her normal check-up, but at the
time, she was extremely tender and
swollen. After this showed up, it was
very painful for her during any attempt at
intercourse. Prior to this, we had used
a spermicidal condom.
Anyways, she went to the doctor and he
said that the pain/swelling was most
likely caused by the spermicide, and all
of her test came back normal.
Since then, when we attempt the missionary
position, it causes her pain as soon I am
about half way in. If she is sitting up,
such as on the side of the bed or on the
edge of the couch, the pain isnt as bad,
but still there. The only thing that
seams to work without discomfort for her
is when she is on top, and even then, its
not always completely comfortable. The
pain is very localized... Right side
from her point of view (from mine, left if
im in front of her)
-edit-
we havnt been able to really enjoy sex
like we used to... Every time we do
it, we dont do it again for atleast 2
weeks and we've waited up to a month
before trying again and still no change.
-end edit-
other things dont seem to cause pain, such
as oral sex, fingers, or tampons, so it is
quite strange.
We have only been sexually active for a
litle over a year, and we havnt been with
others so an std is basically ruled out.
She was planning on going back to the
doctor but she doesnt think she can get
into see him, since it isnt an emergency,
before our wedding date.
This has been very hard on her and her
confidence. No matter what I say or do,
she still blames herself when the problem
arrises.
We have never had problems like this
before the use of the spermicidal
condom... And things have always been
very enjoyable for the two of us.
Also, her doctor put her on birth control
about a year ago to treat extreme pain
during her period. The pain was to the
point that she was using heating pads (to
the point of blistering her skin) and ice
packs (to the same extent) because it was
the only thing that would even slightly
help. Now that she has been on birth
control, the pain is pretty well
non-existant anymore. I didnt know if
this might have anything to do with it or
not, so I thought I would mention.
Lubricants also dont seem to help much.
If anyone has any idea what could be
causeing this or what we could do, please
help.
Thanks in advance.
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Llewellyn
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Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 02-13-07 01:38am
Lack of lubrication is the number one
cause of pain during sex, so I would
suggest trying different kinds. She
could be allergic to some. Keep track of
what you try and see if any certain brands
are better or worse. Water-based is your
best bet, especially if you use condoms.
Some medications make women experience
vaginal dryness, so make sure she talks to
her doctor about any medications that she
is taking.
Her doctor really should be able to give
her something to make the swelling go down
if that is still there. If her doctor is
very busy, and she does not think that she
will be able to get in to see him or her
soon, she could always try another doctor,
a family planning, or a planned
parenthood. It would not be a bad idea
to see someone else to get a second
opinion anyway.
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acidburn52383
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 7
Posted: 02-15-07 01:53am
For valentines, we tried a new
lubricant... Which greatly helped...
Just slightly tender instead of the
sharp pain she was having... But
shortly after orgasm, she started to
become sore... And if its like the
last few times, she'll be hurting in the
morning...
Any idea of why this may be happening?
-acid-
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honeys04
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Joined: 12 Feb 2007 Posts: 26 Location: Virginia
Posted: 02-15-07 11:24am
What kind of pain is it that she is
experienceing and where is the pain....Its
it kinda deep inside her much like a pain
u would get if a man was to enter u too
deeply and kinda hard to kinda make a
sharp pain or is it a pain like around her
vagina as u insert into her???
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acidburn52383
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 7
Posted: 02-16-07 13:18pm
The pain was on her right side about
2.5-3" inside... And the pain was
sharp.... No matter how gentle I
was...
W/ the lubricant... Most of the pain
is gone and no pain in the morning
afterwards... So apparently it
helped...
Still not sure why this all of a sudden
started happening... And it doesnt
make sence that the lubricant would help
considering she is ushually well
lubricated on her own by the time we do
anything...
-acid-
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mrs happy
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Posted: 02-16-07 13:51pm
Possible cause ovarian cyst, or have you
changed your shower gel? Get
hypoallergenic toiletries see if this
helps she could be sensitive to a number
of substances traces on your hands
nicotine aftershave earwax soaps even
sperm ! Etc be scrupulous for awhile and
see how it goes. With luv.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 02-16-07 16:33pm
mrs happy
wrote:
possible cause ovarian
cyst, or have you changed your shower gel?
Get hypoallergenic toiletries see if
this helps she could be sensitive to a
number of substances traces on your hands
nicotine aftershave earwax soaps even
sperm ! Etc be scrupulous for awhile and
see how it goes. With
luv.
the showergel is an interesting comment,
as my bf and I use shampoo as a lubricant
in the shower, and had someone else yell
at me on here for it. I do notice a bit
of discomfort, but nothing beyond that,
and it as only noticed afterwards, going
away quickly. It's not hypoallergenic
shampoo, but since i'm not allergic to
anything, period, that's probably why i'm
able to use it with no major problems.
