This is not so much a physical question,
but a mental question.
I am a 22 year old virgin, and it is
honestly killing me inside...
I got hated on for it in high school, and
now i'm in university and I have no doing
it clue what to do with myself...
I'm a good looking guy (so im told) and
i'm in great shape, and have no problem
attracting women...
But I just seem to do exactly the wrong
thing...
When they wanna date, I try for a one
night stand... When they want a one night
stand, I try to date...
I don't want people to know I still
had/have my v-card, cause of the pain I
had to go through back in the day... Kind
of a catch 22, no?
Some advice, please.
This is the only thing I think about,
day-in and day-out.
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Becky
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jan 2006 Posts: 6230 Location: London, England
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Posted: 02-13-07 09:06am
I think you should stop thinking about
women purely based on sex and try for a
relationship. Sex is best in a
relationship .I.M.O and you will feel much
more relaxed and hopefully it wil be more
enjoyable for you making love as a pose to
having 'sex'
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Color of Paper
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jan 2007 Posts: 171 Location: Long Beach, Ca
Posted: 02-13-07 11:16am
First off theres no shame in being a
virgin. Sex has very little to do with
experience when with the right person, its
all about emotions and mental condition.
Being 22 years old and a virgin isnt that
big of a deal, I know its tearing you up
but youve saved yourself soooooooooooooooo
much drama its not even funny. Keep your
head up, I see a little shine of
confidence in what you were saying while
describing yourself. Hold onto this,
dont let it get you ego cocky but let it
reasure you that there is someone out
there for u.
^_^
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 02-13-07 13:55pm
There is no reason for people to find out.
Why would they? It's not their
business and has nothing to do with them
unless you want it to.
Honestly, if you are a 22 year old
university student getting made fun of for
that, I would say the problem is not your
virginity, the problem who you choose to
tell. It really isn't a big deal. Many
people are still virgins at your age and
even later. If anyone your age actually
makes fun of you for it, I would say that
they have serious issues.
You do not have to be ashamed of your
virginity, but I don't see why you need to
tell everybody and their brother either.
I would only share that information with
women you plan on possibly being intimate
with.
If you and the women you meet tend to not
be on the same page, just discuss things
right from the beginning. Talk about
what you both want and expect from the
other.
