Joined: 25 Aug 2003 Posts: 1762 Location: Venice, Florida
Major Family Problems Posted: 02-10-04 12:07pm
Hey all. I am having some really bad
family problems right now. It really
sucks. But what happened is, my
step-dad's parents stay with us january
thru march every year right? Well this
year, my grandpa developed a habit of
touching mine and my moms butt and boobs.
I truly thought it might have been an
accident by the way it was done and plus,
he's on so much medication that sometimes
he dont even remember my name. And on top
of that, he's got signs of dimensia. But
I told my mom about these times when they
happened, and she said it had happened to
her too. And so she asked my stepdad to
talk to him about it. 3 times. But the
fat b***ard never did until it happened
again friday. Cuz he did it twice in less
than a minute and there was no way it
could have been an accident. Then he lied
sayin I was bent over and I know for a
fact I wasn't because I can't bend
over!!!! But it started a lot of caca
with my family. My grandma came in and
basically called my mom a liar to her face
and disrespected her majorly in her own
home!!! I mean, she's never liked my mom
but this was way out of line. But thing
is, they left and are staying somewhere
else until they go home. Well, my stepdad
and brother have been visiting with them,
and no one really told my little brother
what happened exactly. Now that b*tch is
feeding him full of sh*t and lies. She
totally turned the story around. And I
think she is pressing my step dad to
divorce my mom, (they were already on the
verge of it anyways) and last night I got
up and they were arguing in the
garage....I mean really loud. I really
think they are going to. I know my mom
would be better off without him, but I
don't want her to work 2 and 3 jobs like
she used too. No one should have to do
that. And sometimes I feel like it's my
fault, because a bug part of the reason he
wants a divorce is because of josh....He
doesn't want a baby in the house and he
doesn't want to listen to him
cry.......But oh well. He shouldn't be
such a heartless selfish a**hole. And I
told my mom I was sorry for causing all of
it and she told me don't be because it
wasn't my fault. She told me i'm more
important than my stepdad is because she's
loved me longer and i'm gonna be hers
forever guaranteed. He won't. I just
feel really bad, I don't want her to have
to go through this....She is seriously on
the edge of a nervous break down. And
just to add to it, my little brother told
my stepdad that he wanted to go with him
if they divorce because he doesnt want to
see my mom every day. I swear to god I
f***ing back handed him for that. I don't
even like the kid and really don't want
him to live with me but it about broke my
moms heart when my stepdad told her what
he said......Like he was rubbing her face
in it. I dunno.....I am really
confused.....I know she'd be better off
emotionally with a divorce, but she's had
it easy the past few years because he
brings in the money and she only had to
get a job cuz she's helping with josh and
my step dad refuses to. So I really don't
know. Part of me wants them too, part of
me doesn't. What do you think? Sorry I
made this so long. I just needed to vent.
I am really stressed right now.
Awww chic, I am so sorry. I can't
believe your grandpa would do that. It
seems so...... Wrong...... Oh i'm
sorry.
Listen, you didn't cause any of this!
You don't deserve any of this! You are
too good of a person to have to deal with
this bullsh*t and you do not need the
stress. Calm down and take a break.
You are not to blame for any of it! And
him blaming not wanting a baby in the
house. That is just a selfish immature
response! And it's a stupid reason for
not being happy! Girl, you and your mom
are too good fro his crap.
Love,
chanda
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honeycoco
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Nov 2003 Posts: 375 Location: georgia
Posted: 02-10-04 12:22pm
Im sorry your going through all this
stress right now but it will get better.
Your grandpa was way out of line and your
grandma was too for defending him. Your
little brother will realize someday that
he needs his mother and should respect her
and not say awful things like that. It
sound like it will be hard on your family
finacially if he leaves but their are govt
programs and what doesnt kill us makes us
stronger. Please dont stress and think
its your fault because its not.
Chrystal
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KissyBai912
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2003 Posts: 1762 Location: Venice, Florida
Posted: 02-10-04 12:27pm
Thanks chanda and chrystal.....I know it's
not my fault.....I just really wish it did
not have to be this way......I mean I
really don't know how my mom deals with
it. But I guess we'll get thru it.
Just like when he was having an affair.
But i'm trying not to stress it until my
mom gets home. I intend to let her know
that I heard and that I was listening last
night. She probably knows....She
actually told me too. Cuz she asked if I
had heard them talking about something a
few nights ago and I said no I try not to
listen and she said well maybe you
should.....U might learn something. I
don't really know what she meant but at
least I get to be here for her the best I
can. But I am so pissed I feel like
going in their bedroom and getting all of
his stuff and throwing it out on the lawn.
It would be gone in an hour considering
we live on like, one of the main roads
here. It directly intersects with
highway 41 about 3 1/2 blocks away. It's
tempting but I don't wanna make things any
worse. But thanks for responding. You
girls are so nice....
