Joined: 18 Jan 2007 Posts: 112 Location: Mesa AZ.,
Still Stuck In Limbo Posted: 02-14-07 00:02am
Well its been 46 days and my wife and I
are still separated. Lately we have seen
alot of each other. She says she wants to
spend time with me. She also says that in
part it's to test me. She is expecting me
to be abusive again. Well i'm really
trying not to. After realising what hell
I put her through I don't ever want to be
that way again. No decisions about us
have been made. The only thing we have
decided to do is to heal ourselves and
become healthy individuals before deciding
about us. So I wait. I don't even know
if she loves me. She hasn't been able to
say it since day two of our separation. I
love her very much and am trying to wait
this out but it is so hard and it maybe
for nothing. Two days, two weeks or two
months from now she could say, it's not
going to happen and I want a divorce.
Everytime she calls I dread answering but
am also glad to hear from her. Most of
the time I can't stop thinking of her or
worrying about her. I am in therapy and
looking for support groups but have not
found any yet.
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Kim_
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 6
Posted: 04-14-07 13:04pm
i cannot really relate to your situation
to give proper advise..but the closest i
can come to is when my parents split up 4
years ago..right now i think if she is
trying to see you at all then a part of
her still really loves you..after being
abused it is really hard to trust that
person again..so if she is still wanting
to see you and "testing" you then that
means that she really thinks that there is
a chance you will be the man that you are
trying to be now..i think that if you
still really love and care about her, all
you can do in this situaltion is treat her
the best that you can when she wants to
visit and keep looking for support groups
for advice..then give her the time that
she needs to gain her trust back..think of
when you meet someone you really like for
the first time..things are never rushed
then..you need to get to know eachother
all over again.even then there is always
the change of rection in the end..but it
is worth the chance right?
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