How Often Does the Cheaters Relationship Work Out Posted: 02-15-07 06:29am
Once a couple breaks up, does the one who
cheated regret it? Does he/she normally
stay in the relationship that caused the
break up? How does that affect the
children?
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Color of Paper
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jan 2007 Posts: 171 Location: Long Beach, Ca
Posted: 02-15-07 11:10am
Very board questions there. First off
most humans will regret cheating...But I
say "most"...Not everyone. Also it
really depends on their motives for
cheating. I would say that most people
who "cheat" on someone they are in a
relationship tend to either mend the
relationship or they just get skrewd both
ways...No pun.
As for children...It all depends on age
and how aware they are of whats going on
in their parrents life. I mean givin the
age of the kid parrents still need privacy
with there personal lifes.
All in all cheating is disgusting and I
will say this every time I hear about it.
^_^
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raven53
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Sep 2005 Posts: 54
Posted: 02-18-07 15:07pm
From my own personal experience, my
husband regretted cheating on me, and we
did stay together, though it was not easy
at first. It takes a long time to gain
trust back, and it can only be done when
the cheating party shows their partner
that they are truly sorry. It is
terrible for the kids, unless you try to
keep as much from them as you can. They
will take it through their lives. Some
will learn from it, and some will be
scarred. For example, my son, who was
the eldest when the affair occurred, never
married because "i never want to be hurt
like you were." so there are reprocussions
on the whole family when someone cheats.
I just wish the cheaters would stop and
think about the devastation they cause to
not only their family, but their extended
families as well. I can tell you, it's
alot harder to forgive and take them back
than it is to divorced, but it's worth the
effort if you both want it.
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RedDelight
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Oct 2006 Posts: 131 Location: I'm a Yettie!
Re: How Often Does the Cheaters Relationship Work Out Posted: 02-18-07 19:49pm
paullois
wrote:
once a couple breaks up,
does the one who cheated regret it?
Does he/she normally stay in the
relationship that caused the break up?
How does that affect the
children?
humm.... To be honest...I think it would
be harder staying together. You will
always be paraoid.. I would be- of what
he is doing or up to. When people
cheat... They know it's wrong. What's
amazing, is that they have no conscience
when they do it...Because they go through
with it anyways. I have to ask, where is
your sense of pride? No one diserves
that type of treatement...Period.
It has to affect the childern. Believe
it or not, they can detect negativity more
than one would think. Even if you try to
to "mask" the problem..They can pick up on
things you think they wouldn't. Don't
under estimate them! It could be as
simple as not hugging/kissing your hubby
before he leaves for work. Or your tone
with him.
I would promote a positive environment..
And if that means divorce..Then so be it.
I've been cheated on.. And it hurts.
It made me very leery and feel not good
enough, despite the effort on the ex's
behalf to try to prove to me it could be
fixed. Some things can't.
