Im only 20 years old and I cannot seem to
get a hardon when I know im going to have
sex...When me and my girlfriend are
hanging out and we just spontaneously have
sex im fine...But on special occassions
like valentines day or an anniversary I
cant seem to get over the fact that it
might not work and I end up making it not
work because I think about it too
much....
I have told myself to rela and it will
work but it still is in the back of my
head that its going to happen again!!
Have any of you had this problem and if so
how did you fix it? Im starting to become
very frustrated! Please help! Thanks
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mrs happy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 32 Location: u.k.
Posted: 02-16-07 10:39am
Special occasions usually mean alcohol,
try complete abstinence from alcohol some
men are very sensitive to drink , make
sure you have a healthy diet plenty of vit
e in your food also a modest zinc
supplement might be helpful. Don't worry
talk to your girlfriend about your
problem.
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osubuck
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Feb 2007 Posts: 3
Posted: 02-16-07 10:42am
No we didn't drink anything...And I have
talked to her about it and she is
amazingly understanding but I mean theres
only so much a girl can take right?
Maybe I should try taking some supplements
and such...Thanks for the advice I hope it
works..
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mrs happy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 32 Location: u.k.
Posted: 02-16-07 10:56am
Just another thought try telling your lady
that you are not going to have
intercourse, instead you wish to give her
a wonderful oil body massage get the
setting just right warmth, perfumed oil,
flowers, candles, ( not to close to the
bed) sweet music , she will feel so
relaxed she won't miss the sex but you
will have shown your love in a selfless
way. With luv.
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mrjsmith
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Dec 2005 Posts: 25 Location: New York
Posted: 03-05-07 00:40am
Sorry for the late reply. Just going
through these.
Look at it this way. I've had serious
performance anxiety, to the point where
the girl and I just don't have sex. You
guys do have sex, but on big occasions you
get worried about it? It could be a LOT
worse.
The girl seems to dig you. You aren't a
porn star. Do what you can and have fun.
I agree with Mrs. Happy. Get a book on
sensual massage, (look for "Art of Sensual
Massage") and one on oral sex (suggest
"She Comes First"). Practice. Not only
will you be giving her a lot of physical
pleasure, she'll appreciate your efforts.
At the root, that's what a relationship
is. Hanging out and doing stuff for each
other. Plus, if you feel like she's
having a good experience, regardless of if
you're having actual sex each time, you'll
reduce your worry. Then you'll be able to
have sex, but hey, it'll be optional.
