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Sail Away
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Joined: 16 Oct 2006
Posts: 1170
Location: Missouri
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What Sould I Do?
Posted: 02-17-07 14:52pm
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I feel so sorry for brayden right now
guys, I feel like he shouldn't be around
my 3 year old niece anymore and i've tried
to talk to my mom about it but she ends up
pissing me off.
My mom has been over here a few times with
my niece to visit with brayden, and my
niece (dashawntay) has always been *so*
good with him and she always talks about
how she loves her baby cousin and etc.
Well her dad is in the army and she went
to kentucky because thats where he lives
at right now, she was down there for a
week and came back and was the biggest
brat. It drives me crazy now...I can't
stand to be around her anymore. I know
she's just a little kid but omfg!!! My
sister isnt the best parent but she still
gets toys and stuff, and brayden always
gets new toys anytime we go to wal mart or
something...So everytime my niece comes
over she likes to play with his toys,
which is totally fine by me. But then
brayden tries to play with them too, and
she takes stuff out of his hand and yells
at him. And I tell her "you don't touch
him like that and don't speak to him like
that either" and she started crying, so my
mom was like "brayden takes stuff from her
too" and I was like yes he does, but he
only does that because she's showed him
how.
I've tried to help the situation but I am
just fed up with it, I cannot be around a
little kid that treats my son that way.
And I think about when brayden goes to
school and if some kid picks on him...Oh
god it just makes me so angry... I've
taken boxing lessons since I was 10 and
i've always stood up for myself and if I
ever got picked on i'd ignore it until
they took it to the next level or if I got
really pissed off then i'd take care of
it, so I think i'm gonna get brayden into
boxing really young, so if a kid ever
picks on him like that he'll know what to
do.
But for real guys, how the heck can I
control this situation? I feel like I
don't even wanna try with it anymore I
just don't want brayden to be around
her!!!
And my daughter has never been like
this....She's around brayden all the time
and they play perfectly fine together,
they *share* but if brayden is gonna be
around kids like that and if they're gonna
teach him rude and mean stuff like not
sharing and taking stuff away from
eachother then i'll just homeschool him
because that's ridiculous.
 helppppppp
i have been trying sooo hard to make
brayden different from other random kids,
I want him to make something of himself
and not be some lowlife that picks on
everybody. I remember when I was in
school and some of you may not know this
but I quit going to public schools when I
was in the 6th grade because of a few
girls there that wouldn't leave me alone,
I got in fights with them all the time and
my grades started dropping.
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Nataliachick7
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Joined: 02 Apr 2006
Posts: 1535
Location: Wisconsin
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Posted: 02-17-07 18:01pm
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Well I was going to say that that is how
most toddlers are...We have a 3 year old
family member that was taking toys away
from my son and I just told him to share,.
And I was told thats how a lot of
toddlers are...
But you said your daughter isnt like that.
So I think a lot of it has to do with the
parenting style too. If your neice isnt
being parented correctly then she will
prob have an attitude. If it was me
personally, I would say this is my house
and I dont allow this in my house. I
wouldnt allow her over until she changed
her attitude.
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ThriftyGal
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Apr 2006
Posts: 2982
Location: Ontario, Canada
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Posted: 02-17-07 18:15pm
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She's pretty much your mom's
responsibility right? And you did what I
would say someone in that situation should
do, talk to the one responsible for the
child's behavior. But since your mom
isn't doing anything about it I think that
in your house you can take over. If she
does something that's not acceptable give
her a consequence, like a time out. If
she screams and cries... Who cares.
That's what kid's do when they don't get
their way. Let her cry it out and I
think eventually she'll figure out that
when she comes to her aunties house she
shares, and if she doesn't she get's in
trouble, and if she throws a fit then she
still doesn't get her way. I think if
you're consistent with it and don't give
in when she gets mad she'll eventually get
the message. But if your mom gets angry
at you doing this then i'ld say just tell
her that her and your niece can't come
over until you two can agree on dealing
with the behavior and fixing it. I mean
the little girl can't be blamed for acting
like this, it's what she's been allowed to
get away with. Good luck!
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taya
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Nov 2006
Posts: 100
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Posted: 02-18-07 01:27am
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My cousin .Memory had her daughter,
.Braelynne when she was eighteen, and
braelynne was sweet when she was little,
and then when she grew up (particularly
when her little sister, .Faith, was born),
she became a total brat. This was beyond
sibling rivalry; she would hit .Faith and
break her toys and now .Faith, who was the
sweetest little girl i've ever met, is now
completely taking after her sister
(.Braelynne's four and .Faith is two.) it
makes me so mad that .Memory lets
.Braelynne get away with teaching .Faith
these things, and I think you're right to
get upset; definitely don't let your niece
corrupt .Brayden like this...I know she's
little, but you need to get your mom's
support and lay down the line.
Good luck!
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Sail Away
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Oct 2006
Posts: 1170
Location: Missouri
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Posted: 02-18-07 02:28am
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Thanks for the replies guys.
I'm not gonna let her hang around brayden
for a while but I just feel so bad for
doing it because shes so young and I know
it's not her fault. But I know my mom
seems to baby her a lot because of my
sister, but my sister is actually a good
mom when she's sober, and she's doing
really good lately but it's like my mom
works every day of the week and the only
time she gets a break is on weekends, well
every weekend she has my neice. Like this
weekend she spent the night on friday, and
went home at like 9:00, came back at 11:00
because my sister ended up getting drunk.
I just can't stand the thought of brayden
acting like that when he's older. My mom
was like "ohhh you just dont understand
that brayden takes stuff away from her too
and she tries to play and he gets in the
middle of it and makes her mad" well for 1
he takes things away now because she
taught him that and for 2 she yells and
screams at him aswell and like I said, my
daughter has never had this problem, ever.
Her and brayden get along so well. I
don't know if its because of how she was
raised so differently or if its because
she's just that mature for her age. Maybe
both.
I feel so over protective though, I dont
know how i'll handle it if he gets picked
on in school. Ahh.
No sex until your 50 brayden!!
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006
Posts: 6806
Location: Florida
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Posted: 02-19-07 10:28am
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you know I totally agree with you
.d.Another thing is,she is 3 and she
should know a little better how to treat
others and not to be mean and take things
from other kids.brayden is at a stage
where is is *just* learning things like
that and she is teaching it to him.All you
can do is raise him right girl,and if that
means not alowing others who are bad
influences around so be it.Maybe you could
teach her some?Your her auntie,maybe you
have some influence on her so you can work
with her a bit unless you feel you
shouldn't have to to because she is not
your child.to me it sounds like your doing
a good job with bray and I don't think
he'll turn out bad! 
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candita_sky
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 02 May 2006
Posts: 522
Location: in the land of pooh bear
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Posted: 02-19-07 11:15am
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next time you know she is coming over i
would put all toys up except the one your
son is playing with and if she tries to
take it away say no it is his toy you
should of brought your own then she will
learn not to take his. it worked for me
when i had same prob with a couple of
neices and nephews. i didnt know you had a
daughter congrats. i am a little behind on
everyones storys sorry
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Sail Away
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Oct 2006
Posts: 1170
Location: Missouri
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Posted: 02-19-07 16:38pm
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| sadie lynn
wrote: | | next time you know she is
coming over i would put all toys up except
the one your son is playing with and if
she tries to take it away say no it is his
toy you should of brought your own then
she will learn not to take his. it worked
for me when i had same prob with a couple
of neices and nephews. i didnt know you
had a daughter congrats. i am a little
behind on everyones storys
sorry |
I don't want her to think she can't play
with his toys because she can, she just
needs to learn to share. And she does have
toys over here but brayden always has new
stuff so she wants to check it out.
Actually, I gave my daughter up for
adoption when she was born. I was too
young and too stupid to raise a baby!
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candita_sky
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 02 May 2006
Posts: 522
Location: in the land of pooh bear
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Posted: 02-20-07 11:36am
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sorry i hope that i didnt upset you. but
you werent stupid if you knew that you
couldnt raise her hun but you do have a
beautiful lil man .he def is a
heartbreaker. 
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Sail Away
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Oct 2006
Posts: 1170
Location: Missouri
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Posted: 02-20-07 14:34pm
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| sadie lynn
wrote: | |
sorry i hope that i didnt upset you. but
you werent stupid if you knew that you
couldnt raise her hun but you do have a
beautiful lil man .he def is a
heartbreaker. |
No it's fine. I'm okay with talking about
it actually! And thanks!
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tdr
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Location: Somewhere else...not here., PA USA
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Posted: 02-20-07 22:15pm
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I babysit for two different families, one
has a nine month old (ten in .March)
little girl named .Lucy, and the other
family has a three year old named .Addison
and an eleven month old (she turns a year
on .March 23rd!!!) named Genevieve. Adi
does .n.o.t like .Genna at all, and .i
think it's so sad. But she exhibits the
same sharing "issues" that .Dashawntay
does. Basically, what her parents and .I
do is she is allowed one hour of .t.v per
day (this can be replaced with something
else) and if she yells at .Genna or takes
one of .genna's toys or anything like you
mentioned, she loses her .t.v time. If she
goes the day without doing anything mean,
she gets a .saf-t-pop.
It's a decent system, actually.
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Sunflower_pie81
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Joined: 17 Jan 2006
Posts: 5041
Location: to hell with this crap
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Posted: 02-22-07 17:49pm
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hey 'd' i didnt' bother to read over the
other posts, but i would have to say that
i wouldn't let my daughter hang out with
children like that. no brats around my
little brat. (jk) but you know that if a
child hangs around another child they pick
up on ever little thing that the other
child does and if the child is a brat or
disrespectful or naughty then children
pick up on that. just like they pick up
on us being stressed, angry, happy,
sad....they feel the vibe. so children
that around other children that are brats
and get whatever they want and treat other
children badly isnt' good on the. you are
a good mother and i am sure that you will
make the decision on what is good for your
family. i think limited time with her
would be ok...until she starts acting a
fool then tell them to leave.
or you know have her in your home and if
she starts acting that way you can say
that people don't act that in your home
and she can sit on the couch until she
decideds that she will be ok.
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Sandbox Party
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Joined: 25 Jul 2006
Posts: 7276
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Posted: 02-22-07 19:57pm
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i dunno.
maybe Brayden can show that little girl
how shes supposed to act. Be a good
influence.
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Sunflower_pie81
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Location: to hell with this crap
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Posted: 02-23-07 10:05am
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| rainfire1424
wrote: | i dunno.
maybe Brayden can show that little girl
how shes supposed to act. Be a good
influence. |
yeah maybe.....but you neva know
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 02-23-07 11:29am
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| Sunflower_pie81
wrote: | | rainfire1424
wrote: | i dunno.
maybe Brayden can show that little girl
how shes supposed to act. Be a good
influence. |
yeah maybe.....but you neva
know |
lol @ neva.
my gangster homie.
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006
Posts: 6806
Location: Florida
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Posted: 02-23-07 11:43am
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| rainfire1424
wrote: | i dunno.
maybe Brayden can show that little girl
how shes supposed to act. Be a good
influence. |
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 02-23-07 11:46am
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| Melissa_20
wrote: | | rainfire1424
wrote: | i dunno.
maybe Brayden can show that little girl
how shes supposed to act. Be a good
influence. |
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well if Brayden is as good a kid as
Dalicia says he is, maybe something could
rub off.
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