Hi I have known my ex since I was 14 im 21
now, and have been with him since a year
and half ago. Until recenlty of course.
He had some family troubles and started to
show hatred towards me, it really hurt me
to think of him like that. He said he
needed 'me' time, which I gave to him, but
he also came round my house and slept with
me twice. The same day he said we was
over and he couldnt do this anymore.
We never had the perfect relationship,
argued alot and one of us said we would
change. I would do everything for him,
but it turns out his mates and weed would
end up being all he needed. He was out
every night only fitting me in
ocasionally. I feel so used and hurt, cos
I really do love him so much.
We broke up last year and then he started
coming back on the scene. What should I
do? Leave him alone to learn from his
mistakes or not?
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DLosGirl82
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Oct 2006 Posts: 47 Location: NH
Re: Posted: 02-18-07 11:51am
Hi there!
I went through a verrry similar
experience several years ago (i'm 24 now)
- I was with my high school boyfriend for
years on and off, up until about 2 years
or so ago. He treated me the exact same
way your ex sounds like he's treating you
- he only spent time with me when he had
nothing else going on, and his friends
always came first. Leaving him was
seriously the hardest thing i've ever had
to do - it's so difficult to leave
something that's been such a huge part of
your life for so long. But i'll tell
ya...Leaving that relationship was the
best thing I ever did. I wish my ex the
best in life and hope he's happy, but now
i'm with the love of my life who treats me
the way a girl should be treated and I
never would have known what that feels
like if I hadn't left my ex. My advice to
you would be to just let go, as hard as it
is. If it's meant to be, it will happen,
but maybe in the meantime you'll find
somebody better who treats you as you
should be treated. Hope this helps hunny,
good luck!
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RedDelight
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Oct 2006 Posts: 131 Location: I'm a Yettie!
Re: Theres Nothing Now Posted: 02-18-07 19:57pm
~*klo*~
wrote:
hi I have known my ex since
I was 14 im 21 now, and have been with him
since a year and half ago. Until
recenlty of course. He had some family
troubles and started to show hatred
towards me, it really hurt me to think of
him like that. He said he needed 'me'
time, which I gave to him, but he also
came round my house and slept with me
twice. The same day he said we was over
and he couldnt do this anymore.
We never had the perfect relationship,
argued alot and one of us said we would
change. I would do everything for him,
but it turns out his mates and weed would
end up being all he needed. He was out
every night only fitting me in
ocasionally. I feel so used and hurt,
cos I really do love him so much.
We broke up last year and then he started
coming back on the scene. What should I
do? Leave him alone to learn from his
mistakes or
not?
hi klo
humm. Seems like he wants you to be at
his "convinence." screw that-! He needs
to learn from his mistakes. You said
yourself, you never had a perfect
relationship with him..Arguing. And his
weed and mates were why he left you?
Hon... No no no! You are better than to
accept this type of treatment. I hate
when partners think they can just walk all
over the other, since they know just how
much you truely care...And use it to their
advantage. I know you feel hurt, and
used.. You have a right to- look at what
he chose the 1st time around? Why risk
getting hurt again...?
There are so many people out there.. I am
glad that you realized a flag, and
questioned this!! That is a good thing
that is showing to
yourself, that you are more cautious this
time around..And you don't want to get
hurt like you did before. That is a
great step in a good direction!! An
awesome friend of mine [yes you melissa!]
pointed out a good thing to do in this
type of situation. Write down a positive
and negative list on this partner of
yours. Which side is bigger?
Good luck!!! Keep your head up!
-=red=-
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~*klo*~
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 353 Location: eng
Posted: 02-20-07 04:34am
thank you so much you two, that really
helped. I think whats happened is for the
best, but its so so hard to accept i wont
be with im again, cos i keep thinking of
the good times etc. But i guess the bad do
outway the good.. and he does need to do
alot of growning up. Im sure then he'l
realize what he has lost, cos i was always
there for him. It sometimes made me want
to record him , cos what he said and done
was so ridicuclas.
Also when we used to have arguements if he
didnt walk away he would get violent, one
time he ripped my necklace from my neck,
he trew me on the floor, he pushed me on
the side of a road and hit a cars
windmirror cos he couldnt control himself.
Im sure if i can get through the next few
weeks, with my friends ill be just fine.
Its going to be hard to trust anyone
again.
