Ok, Iam due in anywhere from 3-5 weeks and
I am having major problems! My baby's
daddy and I have been together for 3 years
and up until about November or so we were
engaged, then all of the sudden he quit
looking for us a place to move to and quit
coming around a lot and quit calling and
all. The last day of december my family
saw him out eating with a girl and a bunch
of his friends and when my dad confronted
him he said the baby wasn't his but then
he came home that night and acted like
nothing happened and all. Since then I
have only heard from him a few times and I
have not seen him at all. He called a few
weeks ago wanting me to go out to eat with
him b/c he had some "good" things to talk
to me about and I agreed. I got all
dressed up and waited on him all night, he
finally text me and said he got off work
too late could we go the next night and I
agreed and he never has called back.
I talked to him briefly on valentines day
and he didnt ask how the baby is or tell
me happy v day or anything, he really
didnt have much to say. I also found out
he still hasn't told his parents im
pregnant. Just a few minutes ago my
sister and I were riding through town and
I saw his truck at a restaurant, although
he is suppose to be at work.
I am just so frustrated with him, I don't
know what the deal is, I mean it's obvious
that he is trying to worm his way out of
everything but I feel bad for my son b/c
he won't have a dad. It angers me off
also b/c I have spent like all my money on
baby stuff and I am having to stay with my
mom for now. I have spent like $2,000
dollars so far and now I am broke and he
makes a lot of money and blows it on
himself and beer and won't help me at all.
I am struggling to go to college and keep
up and I just don't know how to handle the
situation. I can't ever get him to talk
to me or meet me somewhere b/c he always
has an excuse so im lost.
Anyway, just wanted to get that off my
chest so I can concentrate on my homework.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 02-20-07 13:35pm
Call him (or text him) and tell him you'll
be filing for child support when the
baby's born. When he contacts you like
"what" tell him exactly what you just told
us. Go from there.
Oh, and file the paperwork when the baby's
born anyway. I don't think you want to be
married to someone who's acting so shady,
and he doesn't sound like he's very
reliable to help out when it's needed.
Ask your mother to help you file the
paperwork. I'm sure she'd be happy to.
Good luck.
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Emma2
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Posted: 02-20-07 13:38pm
I agree with laura. don't expect him to
come around and why would you want him
anyways ..he is no good.
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arcadia
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Posted: 02-20-07 13:41pm
hey .kezia. i'm sorry he's being such an
asswipe. you don't need somebody in your
life like that. after 3 years he treats
you like this? nuh uh, i don't think so!
he doesn't deserve that beautiful baby
you've got in your belly.
i agree with .laura.. file for child
support. i might even file for child
support for .chris to pay, even though i
know he's not going to leave me or screw
me over. but it's a good idea, anyway.
just in case.
i know it's hard, but try to move on. it
really is his loss if he doesn't want
anything to do with his son. he'll be
kicking himself really hard in a few years
when he realizes what he's missed out on.
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kezia333
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Posted: 02-20-07 14:01pm
Thanks everyone! It helps to get some
reassurance sometimes. I plan on filling
for child support and all when the baby
gets here but as soon as I do I am in for
a rough ride I know. I live in a VERY
small town and my baby's dad just happens
to be really well liked around town and I
know when I fill he is going to start some
caca and make it hard for me to live here.
He is such an ass, I never in my life
would have thought he woudl turn out like
this, I mean up until like a few months
ago everything was fine and all of the
sudden just one day it all changed. Who
knows but anyway....
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 02-20-07 14:05pm
He's the deadbeat who's screwing around on
his pregnant girlfriend/fiancee. He should
be embarrassed, not you. If someone came
up to me talking mess, .i'd tell them to
tell their buddy to support his son, 'nuff
said.
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 02-20-07 14:08pm
AyaMiyaki
wrote:
He's the deadbeat who's
screwing around on his pregnant
girlfriend/fiancee. He should be
embarrassed, not you. If someone came up
to me talking mess, .i'd tell them to tell
their buddy to support his son, 'nuff
said.
yeah,but guys are
retards laura.they would just talk sh*t
right along with him.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 02-20-07 14:15pm
I guess .i'm not easily rattled then. I'd
be like "I don't care what he does with
his life as long as he supports his child.
We're done talking now." .i wouldn't let
some problem make me feel bad for ensuring
my child had support. Any decent mother
would do what she needed to for her little
one.
If they got stupid with me .i'd tell them
that if he wanted to party and act like a
kid, he should have kept it in his pants.
Now he gets to be a grownup and pay for
his child. And if he has a problem with
that, to take it up with the court. And in
the meantime, stop acting like a teenage
girl and sending his friends to talk smack
for him.
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 02-20-07 14:25pm
AyaMiyaki
wrote:
I guess .i'm not easily
rattled then. I'd be like "I don't care
what he does with his life as long as he
supports his child. We're done talking
now." .i wouldn't let some problem make me
feel bad for ensuring my child had
support. Any decent mother would do what
she needed to for her little one.
If they got stupid with me .i'd tell them
that if he wanted to party and act like a
kid, he should have kept it in his pants.
Now he gets to be a grownup and pay for
his child. And if he has a problem with
that, to take it up with the court. And in
the meantime, stop acting like a teenage
girl and sending his friends to talk smack
for him.
oh no! i'm not saying
that should discourage her from gettnig
child support! as you said,he stuck it in
and if he didn't want a child he should
have kept it in his pantalones! lol I was
just sayingf most men aren't mature enough
to say somethig like that to a
deadbeat.they would laugh along with him.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 02-20-07 14:32pm
Well no, I meant if those men approached
me to talk smack. Who cares what they say
to themselves? if
any of them came up to me and said
something stupid, I would run my mouth
(loudly) and make them feel retarded by
the time I walked off.
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 02-20-07 14:57pm
AyaMiyaki
wrote:
Well no, I meant if those
men approached me to talk smack. Who cares
what they say to themselves? if
any of them came up to me and said
something stupid, I would run my mouth
(loudly) and make them feel retarded by
the time I walked off.
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if
any of them came up to me and said
something stupid, I would run my mouth
(loudly) and make them feel retarded by
the time I walked off. 