This Hurts Too Bad, Please Help! Posted: 02-21-07 23:47pm
i am 21 years old and recently found
someone who's actually worth giving up...
a LOT... for, and we tried, but the truth
is, it hurt way too bad, and though i
wanted to keep trying, i couldn't because
i was in too much pain. i know losing
your virginity is supposed to hurt, but i
felt like i was being torn in two! is
there ANYTHING i can do to make this
easier? i didn't wait this long for the
right guy, just to leave things at that!
please help.
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Llewellyn
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Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 02-22-07 00:37am
No, losing your virginity is not supposed
to hurt. Pain during sex is never
supposed to happen. It happens a lot, but
it almost always can be avoided if people
just know a little bit about their body.
The number one cause of pain during sex is
not enough lubrication. Many girls have
sex without knowing when they are
lubricated enough, without having enough
foreplay, and without buying extra
lubrication.
The second most common reason is being
nervous and tense. Being tense makes your
vagina tighten up. That can make
penetration painful.
The third, and least common, reason that
sex might hurt is various problems like
infections. So if the pain persists even
with adequate lubrication and when you are
fully relaxed and comfortable, tell your
ob-gyn about it.
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shnookadilly
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Dec 2006 Posts: 11
Posted: 02-22-07 02:03am
its ok dont worry too much. i just lost my
virginity a few months ago and yeah it
hurt like heck the first couple of times.
I geuss it was because i was nervouse that
i wasnt experienced like him. i dunno. but
the pain started going away after about
the 3rd time and was completely gone after
about 5 or 6 times.
ya just gotta suck it up and try to enjoy
it. it helps to think about how much
pleasure you're giving him. because since
its your first time you're usually pretty
tight down there and guys love it.
good luck.
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moony239
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Feb 2007 Posts: 3 Location: asheville
Posted: 02-22-07 17:04pm
thanks so much for your responses, i
really appreciate it! i wasn't tense or
nervous or anything, and i was definitely
ready. what i've considered MIGHT be part
of the problem is that maybe my hymen is
too thick; i know some women have that
problem and it has to be surgically
removed, but then... if that's the case,
why was it never a problem historically?
LOL then again, considering how little
women's health was considered
historically, i guess we have an answer
right there.
again, thanks for the responses. i'll
definitely take them to heart!
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Tylanas
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Posted: 02-22-07 22:38pm
moony239
wrote:
thanks so much for your
responses, i really appreciate it! i
wasn't tense or nervous or anything, and i
was definitely ready. what i've
considered MIGHT be part of the problem is
that maybe my hymen is too thick; i know
some women have that problem and it has to
be surgically removed, but then... if
that's the case, why was it never a
problem historically? LOL then again,
considering how little women's health was
considered historically, i guess we have
an answer right there.
again, thanks for the responses. i'll
definitely take them to
heart!
It was as much a problem back then as it
is now, I assue you ^_^ We just talk about
it more now! Just like you said haha.
What you can try is slow stretching. See
how many fingers you can comfortably slide
inside, and begin gently holding it open.
Do it in the shower or bath when you are
relaxed, and there is no tenseness. This
method could prove helpful enough to widen
and loosen the hymen enough for sex. It
doesn't have to break! My hymen was a
string, so big open spaces, and no need to
break it during sex. Lucky me! My first
expereince wasn't painful at all.
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moony239
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Feb 2007 Posts: 3 Location: asheville
Posted: 02-22-07 22:45pm
eiri, you're so lucky! LOL apparently
mine is made of industrial-strength rubber
or something. anyhoo... i'm going
to try stretching. thanks for the input!
anyhoo... i'm going
to try stretching. thanks for the input!