NiCKiDEE5206
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12 Weeks.
Posted: 02-22-07 00:53am
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I am 12 weeks along and so far, it's been
nothing but emotional freaking stress for
me. I know that .I can come on here and
type away knowing someone will reply back
because .I have gone through a lot. I
thought that being pregnant, .I'd have a
better life and start new. Well, no! My
fiance yells at me over the gayest things
and he knows how emotional .I get so .I
start to feel upset and take my anger out
on him and we go through a lot of physical
abuse. There are times where .I just want
to say .F.*.C.K .Y.O.U. have a nice life.
Because it seems like he doesn't care
about nothing but himself. But that's most
guys, right? I'm trying to look for a job.
I had an interview yesterday and .I failed
a stupid math quiz so .I didn't get the
job. I've looked in papers for jobs,
nothing. So, all .I do is sit here all by
myself while .Nick (my fiance) is a work.
I am sorry for writing a lot but honestly,
.I can't talk to him about this because
guys don't ever want to listen. And .I
know my girls will make me feel better,
right?  I know there are a
lot of girls who leave their
husbands/boyfriends all the time because
they don't treat them right, but .I really
want .Nick to be a part of this baby's
life and mine. I can't do anything about
nothing because right when he gets home
he's plssed off at something and takes it
out on me. Wth? Were trying to look for an
apartment, we found one for $536 plus
first, last and security so we need to
save up about $1500. It's so hard living
out on your own and .I am only 18 years
old. I wish .Nick would be more supportive
but .I know that coming on to this forum
will help me because my girls will make me
happier. Thanks for reading this. I hope
to get a reply. I really need someone.
.Randee })i({
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tinkinpink84
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Posted: 02-22-07 04:22am
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it seems all guys are like that but also
at the same time they dont know how to
handle our mood swings and stuff . if he
is a real @$$ i wouldnt be trying hard to
keep him in your life, i mean if its
better off him not be there then just get
out of it no sense in being togehter just
for the kid if your both miserable ya
know?
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Becky
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Posted: 02-22-07 05:04am
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your fights get physical? and you're
pregnant 
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Jules
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Posted: 02-22-07 05:28am
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He can still be a part of your baby's life
and not be your boyfriend. That is, if
you think it'll be safe to have him around
a small child since it sounds like he has
no problems with hitting a pregnant
woman...wow what a catch, hang on to that
one!
If I've misunderstood you then I
apologise.
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Lauren_Jay
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Posted: 02-22-07 08:30am
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Hey, I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so
low about everything. Me too! I can relate
to the partner thing, my boyfriend of 18
months and I had to split up a few weeks
ago because he just irritated me so much
and just wasn't sensitive to my feelings
plus he kept lying to me about stupid
things and he's more immature than me and
I'm 15, he's 18. So now I'm gunna be a
teenage single mother, but as others have
said, you don't have to be his partner for
him to be involved with the baby, you just
have to come to an agreement, if you're
not happy, remember its partly hormones
playing up but you can't stay in a
relationship unhappy 'cos when the baby
does come along, it won't have the
complete attention he/she will need. I
totally sympathise with you and hope
everything works out hun.
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Lauren_Jay
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Posted: 02-22-07 08:32am
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Oh and yea what? His fights get physical
sometimes? I'd totally woop a dudes a$r$e
if he hit me when I was pregnant. Don't
stick with that mate.
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 02-22-07 08:39am
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Girl if he hits you then you need to run.
They have places to help you. There are
women's shelters all over the country and
organizations to help you find a job and
an apartment. There are places that will
even help you get the things you need for
your baby. Hitting in a relationship is
not acceptable and not normal. Get away.
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strawberry_fields
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Posted: 02-22-07 20:25pm
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im having alot of trouble with my man as
well we have been split up now for about a
week but u know how it is were still
talking all the time one min i hate him
yelling at him then im begging 4 him back
but his just so immature its all a game 2
him do u think his begged 4 me back no way
he dosent love me and i have realised im
much betta on my own its just really scary
thinking about being a single mum im only
17 is 24 medical question wat kind of guy
dose that pluss we recently came back from
america and got married and his left me
already!!! he just abandons his wife and
baby.He cant understand wat im going
through the other day i had 2 beg him 2
come 2 my docters appointment do u think
he came nope!!! it really hurts he really
must not love me then i worry about wat is
he up 2 ive never really trusted him he
always makes me feel like caca he cant
take his eyes off other girls and wen i
yell at him 4 it he never admits it never
how can i be wrong everytime medical
question me!!! anyway ill shut up now
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NiCKiDEE5206
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Posted: 02-23-07 01:12am
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| tinkinpink84
wrote: | | it seems all guys are like
that but also at the same time they dont
know how to handle our mood swings and
stuff . if he is a real @$$ i wouldnt be
trying hard to keep him in your life, i
mean if its better off him not be there
then just get out of it no sense in being
togehter just for the kid if your both
miserable ya
know? |
I know what you mean. But it's not
everyday. I mean, today we didn't have any
fights or anything. He just makes me so
upset to the point where I want to leave
and never talk to him again. Guys are so
confusing. One day their all I love you
and the next there like f*ck you health
forum.
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NiCKiDEE5206
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Posted: 02-23-07 01:13am
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| beckster06
wrote: | | your fights get physical?
and you're pregnant |
.Ohh yeah !! I mean if they get really bad
he doesn't beat me or anything but he
holds me down on the bed and puts all his
weight on my arms so I won't move. He's
punched me in the arm and gave me bruises
and kicked me, but nothing to the point
where a hospital needs to be called.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 02-23-07 03:46am
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sounds like he doesnt deserve the
privillage of being in your or your childs
life.. Being a father is something that
should be earned not a god given right.
If he acts like that to you whats he going
to be like with a crying baby? You so
early on id get out while you still can..
Your a momma now..You need to look out for
that baby of yours. If he feels he can
get away with hitting your arms whats he
going to do when he gets the balls to try
something more
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Becky
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Posted: 02-23-07 04:11am
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| NiCKiDEE5206
wrote: | | beckster06
wrote: | | your fights get physical?
and you're pregnant |
.Ohh yeah !! I mean if they get really bad
he doesn't beat me or anything but he
holds me down on the bed and puts all his
weight on my arms so I won't move. He's
punched me in the arm and gave me bruises
and kicked me, but nothing to the point
where a hospital needs to be
called. |
please..............
.l.e.a.v.e. him!!
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Becky
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Posted: 02-23-07 04:13am
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| NiCKiDEE5206
wrote: | | Guys are so confusing. One
day their all I love you and the next
there like f*ck you health
forum. |
if someone truly loves you they would not
say 'f*ck you b*tch'. you seriously need
to get out of there. if he is like this
whilst you are a carrying his child then
he is capable of anything
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 02-23-07 04:23am
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Hmm .. Also if its this bad now it will
not get better ...Trust me! I got married
at 18..to an emotionally abusive ass. Get
away from that situation. Trust me you
can find better. I know first hand how
rough it is but like i said you need to do
what is best for you and that baby. Plus
stress is harmful to the fetus..Hitting
your stomach or not he is already causing
damage during your most crucial phase of
pregnancy.
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Sunflower_pie81
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Posted: 02-23-07 09:44am
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you know that if a relationship is bad
when you become pregnant it will only get
worse. when he holds you down and you are
struggling to get a way do you understand
how much stress that puts on your belly?
you use your stomach muscles to try to get
a way. that is only going to hurt you and
your baby. ok so he doesn't injure you
'enought to go the the hospital' but one
day when he is mad enough to not just hit
you in the arm he my hurt you very badly
and cause you to loose your baby. then he
will have hurt you for life.
i think that you are being very childish
staying with him. and you are going to
put your child at risk for abuse if you
stay with him. if you decided to stay
with him someone needs to take your baby
away from you so that it doesn't run the
risk of abuse.
good luck to you, and hopefully you make
the right decision
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 02-23-07 09:54am
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| NiCKiDEE5206
wrote: | | tinkinpink84
wrote: | | it seems all guys are like
that but also at the same time they dont
know how to handle our mood swings and
stuff . if he is a real @$$ i wouldnt be
trying hard to keep him in your life, i
mean if its better off him not be there
then just get out of it no sense in being
togehter just for the kid if your both
miserable ya
know? |
I know what you mean. But it's not
everyday. I mean, today we didn't have any
fights or anything. He just makes me so
upset to the point where I want to leave
and never talk to him again. Guys are so
confusing. One day their all I love you
and the next there like f*ck you health
forum. |
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Sunflower_pie81
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Posted: 02-23-07 10:47am
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| Melissa_20
wrote: | | NiCKiDEE5206
wrote: | | tinkinpink84
wrote: | | it seems all guys are like
that but also at the same time they dont
know how to handle our mood swings and
stuff . if he is a real @$$ i wouldnt be
trying hard to keep him in your life, i
mean if its better off him not be there
then just get out of it no sense in being
togehter just for the kid if your both
miserable ya
know? |
I know what you mean. But it's not
everyday. I mean, today we didn't have any
fights or anything. He just makes me so
upset to the point where I want to leave
and never talk to him again. Guys are so
confusing. One day their all I love you
and the next there like f*ck you health
forum. |
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i agree 100% i dont' understand why you
would want a guy that hits you in the arm
kicks you, and pins you down around your
child. I understand you love him, but
love doesnt' hit punch kick pin you down,
yell and scream at hyou call you a doing
it health forum.
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 02-23-07 11:25am
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I think most of us here are speaking from
experience when we tell you all this so
please listen.Its for your benefit hun.We
are here for you.
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 02-23-07 11:27am
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im refraining from giving advice on this
post specifically... I dont want to dredge
up you know what.
But girl, please get away.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 02-23-07 11:34am
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It seems like every post you create is
laced with drama of some sort. I'm not
digging at you. But you've been told time
and time again that your situation isn't
ideal for raising a child in. Your child
can not be
raised around cursing, violence,
and negativity. It is damaging.
You've said you have no food in the house.
You've said your boyfriend is violent and
mean. You've said he puts his hands on
you.
For the love of your child, go back to
your parents. I'll quote .dr. phil here: a
child would rather be from a
broken home than live in one.
Please stop making excuses for him. Be a
strong woman and walk away.
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