12 Weeks.

I agree with the last post. At this point you need to have some self-respect and do what is right for you and the baby. There is obviously no respect in the relationship if he can say those things easily to you and respect is very difficult to get back, once it is gone. You really do need to think of yourself and the baby. Not to mention the medical issues you might end up having due to stress and physical harm, it can start as just an arm, but you never know how much worse it will get.
Good luck!!!!!

i dont really want to get into this, but i just want to tell you...he doesnt love you or your child, no matter what he says, if he did he would no treat you like that, and if he did because he had a problem he would try to fix the problem, no one deserves to be treated like that

how will you feel if he not only hurts you around your child (which will in turn hurt the child, trust me) but he starts hurting your child, either emothionally verbally physically or even sexually...he doesnt sound like a great guy, from what ive heard i wouldnt put it past him

my father was/is abusive (id really perfer not to go into detail) i like it much more not having him in my life then having him here...or being dead
let your little one see his/her daddy sometimes after he/she is born (supervised, preferable with another person there in case anything happens) then the baby will still have daddy in their life and maybe one day realize that they are better off without him...kids arent stupid and kids arent deaf (well not all) they will hear the fighting even if they dont see it, they will see the bruises no matter how hard you try to hide them, they will feel the stress anger and terror

please if you cant leave for yourself leave for your child

and yes i speak from experiance...lots of experiance

~alicia~

I am so sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time with your partner. You didn't say in your post, but do you have a support group outside of you boyfriend, such as family and friends? I hope so, if you do, it will be a little easier to leave him.

One of my biggest concerns is that if he is being physically abusive to you, then he is also going to be an abusive father. (in fact, he is already being an abusive father, as physically hitting you, could hurt your unborn child.

I hate to tell you this, but it is probably only going to get worse. Having a child is stressful, even in a good supportive situation.

I live in Texas, so I am not that familar with resources in Florida. However, there are probably several agencies that would be able to help you. There are agencies in which you can live on a campus, and they will help you find work, be supportive, help you with job skills, etc. You can live on the campus for like two years. You could do a little research to see what is in your area.

Remember, you are going to be a mother. You must protect your child. You cannot stay in an abusive relationship and be protective of your child. Also you do not want your child to grow up in an environment that is stressful and unsafe with parents who scream and yell at each other.

Good luck. I am going to say a prayer for you tonight.

Jordan, your post is wonderfully supportive but look at the date. This is a very old post. I have been guilty of that before.