My friend is bulimic and I really need
advice about how to help her.
She makes herself sick after EVERYTHING
she eats and I recently discovered a
carrier bag full of sick in her room.
I have known about her illness for 3 years
now but have failed to anything about it
due to fear of losing her friendship. A
housemate forced her to tell her mum about
her problems 2 years ago but since then
she has relapsed and now makes herself
sick in private and never spoke to the
girl who tried to help her again.
I'm worried that if I try to help her she
will also think I am interfering. I want
to help her but I just do not have the
guts to approach her about the topic as
she is very touchy about it. I've
contemplated speaking to her mother in
private and beg her to get her daughter
help - is this a good idea? How can I make
her mum understand what has been going on
for all these years and rely on her to
help her daughter?
Are there any other ways I can get my
friend assessed by a doctor?
Any help or advice is majorly appreciated.
Eating Disorders don't just affect the
individual, they affect their friends and
family too and I need to help her. Thanks.
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Catt101
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 May 2006 Posts: 109 Location: ,
Posted: 02-23-07 18:31pm
i think no matter what u should be careful
how u approach this, if it were me and u
went to my mother behind my back i wouldnt
be very happy and prob not talk to you,
why not try to understand her at first and
start talking to her about it, but if she
feeling uncomfortable try not to push her
to confide in u, for the doctor its up to
her if she wants to go, just try to show
her ur there for her first before you go
beyond that
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cln1812
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jul 2006 Posts: 530 Location: La Porte, TX
Thanks: 2
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Posted: 02-24-07 22:05pm
Anorexia very nearly killed me, and
bulimia can do the same to your friend.
However you approach your friend or her
mother, I doubt she is going to like it,
at least not at the time. If you approach
your friend, she will deny there's a
problem until she is blue in the face; if
you go to her mom, your friend will be
hurt and defensive. It's a no-win type
situation. If you could persuade your
friend to see a therapist, I think that
would be a step in the right direction,
but it's not likely to be easy. I had to
hit rock bottom for myself and make the
decision to recover for myself, no one can
do it for you.
