Joined: 17 Feb 2007 Posts: 172 Location: west virginia, united states
a Healthy Mother ='s a Healthy Baby? Posted: 02-23-07 19:56pm
i know it's important to take extra good
care of yourself while you're pregnant
& i've been doing my best so far.
eating healthier than i used to, talking
about how i feel & voicing my worries,
trying to stay relaxed, stopped any
harmful medications, i'm done drinking
& i never smoked.
but, will all of these really matter much
in the end? i know so many girls who
abused themselves in some way or another
while they were pregnant & yet, they
gave birth to healthy babies. my one
friend, even though i bothered me to no
end, smoked almost a pack a day & her
daughter turned out perfect. while, my
other friend, took extra good care of
herself & did everything right, gave
birth to a son with a list of problems. as
much as i know that [proper] self care
goes a long way, i can't help but feel
[when i'm at the height of all my worries]
as if my baby is going to be born as it is
supposed to regardless of my caution.
sometimes, it just doesn't seem fair.
on a much happier note, my boyfriend &
i went baby shopping today! i bought the
cutest booties. they've got little ducks
on them. makes up for wasting 4-hours in
the ER last night.
Re: a Healthy Mother ='s a Healthy Baby? Posted: 02-23-07 19:59pm
AuDacia
wrote:
i know it's important to
take extra good care of yourself while
you're pregnant & i've been doing my
best so far. eating healthier than i used
to, talking about how i feel & voicing
my worries, trying to stay relaxed,
stopped any harmful medications, i'm done
drinking & i never smoked.
but, will all of these really matter much
in the end? i know so many girls who
abused themselves in some way or another
while they were pregnant & yet, they
gave birth to healthy babies. my one
friend, even though i bothered me to no
end, smoked almost a pack a day & her
daughter turned out perfect. while, my
other friend, took extra good care of
herself & did everything right, gave
birth to a son with a list of problems. as
much as i know that [proper] self care
goes a long way, i can't help but feel
[when i'm at the height of all my worries]
as if my baby is going to be born as it is
supposed to regardless of my caution.
sometimes, it just doesn't seem fair.
on a much happier note, my boyfriend &
i went baby shopping today! i bought the
cutest booties. they've got little ducks
on them. makes up for wasting 4-hours in
the ER last
night.
just because a baby born to a smoker or
druggie *appears* to be healthy doesnt
mean it wont have problems later on. i can
almost guarantee babies in that situation
will grow up to have one if not more of
these problems:
those are all problems that dont show up
until later in life.
people like that are ignorant and make me
furious. its sad that you cant quit a bad
habit for an innocent baby.
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Bridget
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Re: a Healthy Mother ='s a Healthy Baby? Posted: 02-23-07 20:31pm
AuDacia
wrote:
i know so many girls who
abused themselves in some way or another
while they were pregnant & yet, they
gave birth to healthy babies.
they got lucky.
Audacia
wrote:
sometimes, it just doesn't
seem fair.
it's not.
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ladylee70
Extremely EHEALTHy
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Re: a Healthy Mother ='s a Healthy Baby? Posted: 02-23-07 20:35pm
Above post - so true!!
I dx kids with learning disabilities in
the school setting. Drinking, smoking,
drugs all have a high correlation of
learning disabilities or problems with
executive functioning (i.e., initiating,
planning, finishing tasks....).
On a personal level, my mom smoked
throughout her entire pregnancy with me. I
was not dx with ADHD or Dyslexia until
college. I always knew I had problems. I
also had asthma as a child, was a product
of a premature birth, and was the shortest
and skinniest girl in school until my 11th
grade year. I was usually about 2 years
behind socially and academically compared
to same age peers. In addition, I had a
very low immune system as a child and
often missed several days of school a
year, which didn't help my social and
academic difficulties. Although I was born
premature, I was pretty healthy. I now
have significant anxiety disorder to top
it off. As a result, it appeared like I
was healthy. My mom smoked between 5 and
12 cigarettes a day with me (maybe even
more). My mom had two boys before I was
born and didn't smoke when she was
pregnant with them. They had no problems
like I had.
All of the factors mentioned above are
defined as "correlation" which does not
imply "causation" meaning that I have no
proof that my difficulties were "caused"
by my mom smoking. Reading a great deal
of research, testing kids for learning
disabilities and the such, and based on my
own personal experience I do believe that
even smoking causes harm.
Sure, there will always be a few cases
where kids do come away unscathed. Just
know that you aren't playing roulette with
your baby and taking that chance.
I also used to be a smoker (started at age
12 and quit and age 18 ). It is very
difficult to quit, so any pregnant person
that does smoke but is attempting
everything to quit gets my support! It has
been 14 years since I have smoked and I
still get smoking dreams and the smoking
desire still creeps up. It's such a
difficult habit to break.
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Sunflower_pie81
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jan 2006 Posts: 5041 Location: to hell with this crap
Posted: 02-23-07 21:28pm
I can tell you that you can take 100%
perfect care of yourself during your
pregnancy....and your baby be born with
defects or problems. when my mother was
pregnant with me she jumped off a 5 story
building into a dumpster, she was stabbed
3 different times, she was sexualy
assalted, i was born adicted to herionI
really shouldnt' have ever been born or i
should have some very bad problems. But i
don't. I had got pregnant, i took 100%
perfect care of myself and I got really
sick and my baby was born with a heart
problem. Why this happens i dont' know.
it's not fair your right.
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Mommy35
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Sep 2006 Posts: 3165 Location: Vacationland, USA,
Posted: 02-23-07 21:30pm
The others are right, the people that
drink, smoke, or do other things and have
what appear to be healthy babies got
lucky. Or things crop up later in life.
I think if you take good care of yourself
by taking vitamins, eating well, drinking
plenty of water, limiting your stress, etc
and .God forbid your baby is born with
something wrong, at least you can say with
confidence that you did everything you
could do to take care of him/her and what
happened was destiny.
For those losers who do drugs, smoke,
drink, and do things that are not healthy,
not that I'm saying they deserve to have a
baby with problems, because the baby
certainly doesn't deserve that.... but
they will have to live with the guilt of
what they did to their unborn child, and
what they didn't do to prevent it.
