Long story short. I was married for 2
years to my ex-husband, we had a son. I
have been married to my husband now for 2
years in July. WE have our fair share of
problems but overall we have a great
marriage and most of the time we are best
friends.
Anyways, my ex-husband picks up my son
about every 2 weeks. Sometimes my husband
is there when he comes and sometimes he's
not. everytime he'll ask me a bunch of
questions about, how long did he stay,
what did you guys talk about, where was he
in the house etc.....
I always answer these questions with
complete honesty and he might leave it at
that but there are times where he just
goes beyond the insecurity limit. Like
today for example my ex was driving down
to pick up my son and it took him a bit
longer for whatever reason and my husband
came home while he was here (they were
getting ready to go sledding) and he
flipped out on me in the garage and said
"what do you think i'm stupid?" He called
here at blah blah time and he should been
here a long time ago. I said, I dont know
what to tell you ask him why it took him
so long. He got pissed off and peeled out
of our driveway. My six year old who had
just gotten off of the bus saw him and
heard him do this. Might I mention that
my husband (current) and I have a daughter
that is 1 year. So all together there are
three children in this home. My ex still
had his jacket on and had been here for
approx 15 minutes.
Now, way back when....I left my ex husband
for Brad(now husband). It was a bad
marriage to begin with but before any
papers were signed I was gone with Brad.
There was some pressure from my family for
the first few months and I did go back and
forth between the two, fighting my heart
vs other people's advice. So Brad had a
lot of pain from that and even though I
was indesicive he stuck with me and now
here we are.
When we talk about this stuff he always
brings all of that up and obviously he
still holds on to all of it or it wouldnt
be such an issue here. SO I guess I dont
know how to approach him, I want to be
sensitive to his feelings but at the same
time. enough is enough. What about my
feelings now, does my marriage vows and 2
years of commitment and love not mean
anything to him or is he so irrational he
cant see beyond his own doubts. Please
help me-I know it seems complicated. I
cant see through this muck, I need an
outsiders view.
