caca tough one!! I think that if she really cares about her grandson that she will most propably understand were you are coming from... Maybe not from the beginning but if she thinks it over shell realise that this is important to her daughter and she would do her best...? I dont know your family but I know how hard it is... Try and talk when she is sober and tell her that it will really mean alot to you if she were there for the birth of your son and without her it wouldnt be the same... I dont know!!!! You know your mom better than anyone else youll know what to say when the time comes...

I had a similiar problem a few months ago except it was with drugs and I got really sick and tired of my mom getting all drugged up everynight and making a scene in public. I never really knew how to talk to my mom to where she would understand and see how I felt. So I sat down with my mom and told her how I felt and how much it hurts seeing my mom all on drugs. She told me it was none of my business but I knew deep down she cared. Then I started crying and I told her if she had any feelings for me she'd stop completely. So I would just sit her down and explain to her what's been going on. She might not understand at first but trust me, if you tell her you love her and you really want her to be there for you when your in labor, she'd stop. She loves you a lot I'm sure and she'd do anything to make you happy. I hope this helps. I tried, because I can totally understand what your going through

that is a toughie! it's easy to say "oh just talk to her" but when someone is dependant on alcohol it could make her feel like the whole world is against her because someone asks her to refrain from drinking for a bit. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that extra stress on top of being so close to having your boy! Obviously you have to say something to her hun, you have to be firm, this is your child birth and a family member being there and being drunk is absolutely not something you should have to deal with when the time comes, nor shoudl you have to worry about that at all. Let her know , without being judgemental (as hard as that is...l i know!) that you won't accept it when gabe's on his way. I'm sure it will hurt her a bit, but before she goes on a tirade because she doesn't like the subject , let her know how it makes you feel that you even have to discuss this with her. I hope maybe that helps a bit, just be strong and just remind yourself that the best thing that will ever happen to you is getting really really close! and if she's in a position where she can't stop until he comes, remember it will be a beautiful joyous experience with or without her, even though I'm sure you'd much more prefer her there. stand your ground you have every right to want the people who are with you during the birth of your son to be sober.
good luck. i hope all turns out good and try to stay positive!

Well I think like tha first person said if you sit her down while she's sober and explain to her what you just said here.your scared that you'll go into labor and have no one to tak you to the hospital.tell her you really want her to be there and be sober for the experience of her grandson being born and you know she woldn't want to miss it and ask her if she will stop drinking for you until he is here.if she goes off on you,tell her it hurts you that she doesn't are enough about you or her grandson to stop and see what she says.other than that hun i'm not sure.I know how hard it is to talk to an alcoholic about their problem. . .good luck and tell us what happened!

I know how you feel. This is probably going to be one of the toughest things that you'll ever have to do. Maybe start by asking her who is going to drive you to the hospital when you go into labor. Then when she says that she will tell her that she can't if she's been drinking. I don't know kind of make it seem like you've never considered her as a ride because she drinks every night. I don't know, I'm no good at this tactful crap, I usually just say exactly what I feel whether it hurts feelings or not... If it were me I'd just say if you keep drinking you can't come because I don't know when this baby is coming and I can't afford to take any chances. I need to arrive at the hospital in one piece and I don't want to be embarrassed by your drunken behavior in the hospital. But that sounds pretty bad. Sorry, I'm no help. But I tried

oh god K im so sorry....i dont know your mom and how she takes serious talks but its worth the shot...no she wont be able to drive you and no i wouldnt want my mother smashed falling over everything and saying weird stuff slurring her words either....try to talk to her ...worse case scenerio you call a cab girl....labor is progressive and hardly ever like in the movies where she gives birth 10 minuters later...you have time...hugs!

talking from experience....no matter what you say to her is gonna make her upset since she is in denial so might as well just tell her how you feel.

dude video tape her when shes crocked.. do it for a few days to get the point across that it isnt a *social thing* and that she really has a problem.. show her when shes sober how she acts.. and tell her you refuse to have that around .Gabe. Also say that you hate watching her kill herself (because thats exactly what shes doing.)

ALso let her know that you want her to be sober at night incase you go into labor because you want her to be able to be the first person you come to if it happens. (that may not be true but it will definately help i think.)

maybe have all the people that love her be there for support kinda like an intervention if possible??? sorry hun kids shouldnt have to raise there parents ( not saying you are a kid in that phrase but your moms kid)

i would not beat around the bush. she is an alcoholic and i would tell her that. i would say that she is about to be a grandmother and you dont want your child being around that. she has a choice. she can try to get help and quit or she can continue to be an alchoholic and be a bad influence for her new grandchild. i would never get in a car with someone who had even one drink.
maybe i am a little to blunt for some peoples liking but i dont play games. i would tell them straight up that i dont want that around my child. i realize its a hard addiction but if you want it bad enough you will change.

if she is so in denial maybe she needs to see her drunk self on film. i did that to my mom once, she isnt an alcoholic but when she did drink she became a total retard and made a fool out of herself and she didnt belive it until she saw it on camera.

my mother in law is same way and when my sister in law went into labor, my sister in law said absolutly said no alcohol the whole time you are here...... If you dont respect this, you will need to go home until you can.... Im am sure my mother in law snuck some but we all keep a close eye on her (all the family) so she couldnt get ahold of it. just tell her that as soon as ou feel your first contraction she needs to stop drinking that way by the time you go into labor she should be sober.

make sure she knows that this is about you and the baby...not about her, so she an get mad but you love her and just concerned

My mom had a drug problem and she ended up leaving my when i was 14 and came back when i was 18, i would always tell her that she had problems and she would get do mad and she would leave and come back and things would be okay for a day then the same thing, no matter what you say to them there are still going to do what they want they dont care about anyone but themselves and their high or their drink. but you know my mom ended up missing out when i was growing up and she can never get those years back and i hate her for that but she probably hates herself now too, she has been clean for going on 4 years i think. you have to let them decidide if they want to stop. but just tell her how it is dont worry about hurting her feelings cause im sure she has hurt your feelings before . ..

It sucks that you have to do it, but I would sit her down when she is sober and explain to her that you want her there if she is sober, but if she's drunk you don't. I don't think your hospital would allow her to be there if she is smashed, so you can take it completely off yourself and tell her that.
I wouldn't rag at her or lecture her, chances are she knows she has a problem, but isn't willing to deal with it yet. Be respectful of her feelings, as I'm sure you will.

i dont really knwo what to say that could help you because i dont know your mum or anything and all the general things have already been said

but i just wanted to say, i hope it works out and she gets the point without too many problems and you have her there for you when you need her

if things turn out not well im here for you (as im sure veryone is) you dont have to do it alone *hugs*

~alicia~

do you live with your mum?

yeppp.

me & .chris live with my parents for the time-being. i know .chris will be able to take me to the hospital, so .i'm not worried about that. i just really want her to be there & i know she wants to be there, too. it'd break her heart if she missed the birth of her first grandbaby.

I just wanted to tell you that when you talk to her you need to mention that she needs to stop drinking so that she can enjoy her grandson's life.

I hope that she understands.