Ok if it's not a troll
post....then this guy is really freaking
me out.....i fear that one day they are
going to find the girl in the crawl space
of his house. Good luck there buddy.
just to
note this.....There aren't a lot of people
that are in love for life. Go and
sleep with a few strippers and then you
won't take love so
seriously.
Very good point. And dood, if this girl
does fall out of love/lust/like with you
down the road then it obviously wasn't
meant to be.
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pjsands
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Oct 2006 Posts: 17
Posted: 03-02-07 11:10am
hopefulmjz
wrote:
Just to let you know, if she
insanely agrees to this child and you
break up down the road, even that is not a
gaurantee for a connection to her forever.
My brother and his ex wife have a son
together and they haven't seen each other,
let alone speak to each other since he
left her. My nephew was 15 months old when
they split and he's now nearly 12 years
old. There is no connecton at all. My
nephew lives with his mom 1 week then goes
to his dad for a
week.
I guess that's a possibility, if her new
b-f hated me or had issues with us having
contact. So it's not a 100% way to have a
connection forever with some sort of
contact?
But family relatives generally stay in
contact with the other family members.
It's a better way than any other. There is
no other way?
I gave to go, I will bring baby into
conversation see her reaction, ask if she
thinks they are cute or something. We
haven't talked about them before.
Thanks so far. Keep fingers crossed for
tonight, I'm nervous
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pjsands
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Oct 2006 Posts: 17
Posted: 03-02-07 11:11am
hopefulmjz
wrote:
Sunflower_pie81
wrote:
Ok if it's not a troll
post....then this guy is really freaking
me out.....i fear that one day they are
going to find the girl in the crawl space
of his house. Good luck there buddy.
just to
note this.....There aren't a lot of people
that are in love for life. Go and
sleep with a few strippers and then you
won't take love so
seriously.
Very good point. And dood, if this girl
does fall out of love/lust/like with you
down the road then it obviously wasn't
meant to be.
I will handle that the best I can if it
happens, but I still want to be in contact
with her, a friendship. Bye for now!
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Bridget
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Posted: 03-02-07 11:13am
pjsands
wrote:
I will handle that the best
I can if it happens, but I still want to
be in contact with her, a friendship. Bye
for now!
i'm still friendly with my ex-boyfriend
who i dated from 16-18. i did not have his
child and we still talk 11 years later.
you are seriously weird.
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hopefulmjz
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Posted: 03-02-07 11:14am
It had nothing to do with any new partner
on either sides....they didn't date anyone
right after the break up. My brother will
not contact her because she is
psycho....she begged my brother for a
baby, and lo and behold she ended up
pregnant. But she did not care for the
baby, or even show interest in him..all
she wanted was my brother to be at her
side 24/7. And that was impossible since
he worked 14 hour shifts 5 or 6 days a
week to support all of them (she had a 5
y/o daughter when they got married as
well) so she could stay at home with the
baby...the one she begged for then wanted
nothing to do with him.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 03-02-07 11:30am
I hope you realize that you sound like a
stalker. A seriously obsessed stalker.
You're sounding paranoid and scared, and a
little bit immature/scary when you talk
about finding ways to keep this girl
attached to you. You don't sound like you
would care about your child at all - only
the "connection" to your girlfriend.
It's highly doubtful you could provide
everything your child would need. If your
girlfriend dropped out of school to care
for the child, and you went to school and
worked, you would never see each other,
and you wouldn't have enough money to
support all 3 of you. Unless maybe if you
got on benefits, and even then I doubt
you'd be living the life the three of you
deserve.
If you loved her, you wouldn't ask her to
sacrifice her education. You wouldn't
sacrifice your own. If it's meant to be,
it will be. And if it's not, you shouldn't
subject your child to the nastiness of
divorce. Keep yourself, and your
girlfriend, on the right path. Get your
education. Get good jobs. Save your money.
If you're still together by then, maybe
get married. And if things are going
great, then consider having a child. One
foot in front of the other, hmm?
And in the meantime, consider getting
help. Professional help. You sound obsessed
and paranoid, and right now if I
was your girlfriend, .i'd be putting in
for a restraining order. Do you know how
many people have killed their
girlfriends/wives because they were scared
of losing them? Get help.
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Moo
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Posted: 03-02-07 11:31am
pjsands
wrote:
I guess that's a possibility, if her new
b-f hated me or had issues with us having
contact. So it's not a 100% way to have a
connection forever with some sort of
contact?
of course it isn't - there are plenty of
people who only see one parent (plus, did
you read that at birth you'd actually have
no rights over the child automatically
unless married?)
pjsands
wrote:
But family relatives
generally stay in contact with the other
family members. It's a better way than any
other. There is no other
way?
The other way is to tell her how you feel
and get on with the here and now of your
relationship instead of worrying about
what will happen down the line if you do
break up.
BTW, how long have you guys been dating?
pjsands
wrote:
I gave to go, I will bring
baby into conversation see her reaction,
ask if she
thinks they are cute or something.
We haven't talked about them before.
Thanks so far. Keep fingers crossed for
tonight, I'm nervous
ARe you serious? Lots of people find
babies cute, it doesn't mean they want to
have one. I'm 10years older than your gf,
engaged and "babies being cute" is by no
means a reason to have one and just
because i think that doesn't mean i'm
going to rush out and get pregnant because
of it!
This just proves you are in no way mature
enough to bring a child into the world and
be a father to it - you're not thinking
about the child, you're thinking about
yourself!
Stop being so hung up on what may happen
in the future and any contact you will
have and get on with your life!
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Sunflower_pie81
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Joined: 17 Jan 2006 Posts: 5041 Location: to hell with this crap
Posted: 03-02-07 11:34am
no there isn't anyway to have 100%
connection to her even with a baby. you
will never be her family member, unless
married...which you haven't even mentioned
yet. then if you get a divorce you till
aren't family. only to the poor child you
are trying to put into this mix. there is
a great great great possibility that you
will will not be loved forever the way you
are.
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Bridget
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Posted: 03-02-07 11:40am
AyaMiyaki
wrote:
I hope you realize that you
sound like a stalker. A seriously obsessed
stalker. You're sounding paranoid and
scared, and a little bit immature/scary
when you talk about finding ways to keep
this girl attached to you. You don't sound
like you would care about your child at
all - only the "connection" to your
girlfriend.
It's highly doubtful you could provide
everything your child would need. If your
girlfriend dropped out of school to care
for the child, and you went to school and
worked, you would never see each other,
and you wouldn't have enough money to
support all 3 of you. Unless maybe if you
got on benefits, and even then I doubt
you'd be living the life the three of you
deserve.
If you loved her, you wouldn't ask her to
sacrifice her education. You wouldn't
sacrifice your own. If it's meant to be,
it will be. And if it's not, you shouldn't
subject your child to the nastiness of
divorce. Keep yourself, and your
girlfriend, on the right path. Get your
education. Get good jobs. Save your money.
If you're still together by then, maybe
get married. And if things are going
great, then consider having a child. One
foot in front of the other, hmm?
And in the meantime, consider getting
help. Professional help. You sound obsessed
and paranoid, and right now if I
was your girlfriend, .i'd be putting in
for a restraining order. Do you know how
many people have killed their
girlfriends/wives because they were scared
of losing them? Get
help.
well said!
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tigresacanela24
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Joined: 11 Nov 2005 Posts: 5261 Location: Treat your children well, eventually they'll choose your nursing home.
Posted: 03-02-07 11:46am
AyaMiyaki
wrote:
I hope you realize that you
sound like a stalker. A seriously obsessed
stalker. You're sounding paranoid and
scared, and a little bit immature/scary
when you talk about finding ways to keep
this girl attached to you. You don't sound
like you would care about your child at
all - only the "connection" to your
girlfriend.
...And in the meantime, consider getting
help. Professional help. You sound obsessed
and paranoid, and right now if I
was your girlfriend, .i'd be putting in
for a restraining order. Do you know how
many people have killed their
girlfriends/wives because they were scared
of losing them? Get
help.
Couldn't have said it better myself.
Muchy thankies, mah dee-yah!
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Mommie2Be_6106
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Feb 2007 Posts: 23 Location: Naples, Florida
Posted: 03-02-07 11:46am
Wow, this guy is dumb..lmao
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Sandbox Party
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Joined: 25 Jul 2006 Posts: 7276
Re: Want to Get Her Pregnant Posted: 03-02-07 12:00pm
pjsands
wrote:
Hi I'm 18 my g-f is 16. I
have not discussed this with her yet, the
deal is I want her to have my baby asap.
How is the best way to bring this up to
her? How do I start? I don't want her to
freak out. Plzz
help!
wow.
you totally need to get a life and stop
making yourself sound like an
over-obsessive boyfriend.
To want a child at your age is foolish; to
want a girl who's only 16 to have a child
while she's still one herself, is
illegal.
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chicagocole24
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Feb 2007 Posts: 43 Location: illinois
One Day Posted: 03-02-07 12:11pm
come spend a day with my three year old
and tell me youstill want to have a
kid....... IT IS HARD WORK, 24 hour job,
no breaks and very expensive. I love my
son I love my life but I had to work very
hard to gt where I am. enjoy your youth,
it will never come around again.
