okay so, me and my boyfriend are very
sexual. we're into just about everything
and i consider us to be very sexually
compatible, amongst other things. last
night, we were having phone sex.. and
caught up in the moment, he began
expressing his feelings about having sex
with a close friend of mine and began
pressing me about having sex with other
men. in the moment, it was all in good
fun.. but, afterwards there were some
negative feelings on both ends.. and he
got really enraged about it. fyi: this
friend of mine that he was talking about,
he's never personally met. she is a female
friend that i had a few sexual encounters
with so, i could see how she might play
into some type of fantasy but, i still
feel that it was over the top and
borderline disrespectful. in the end, he
said that it was '' all for phone sex ''..
and it wasn't how he really felt but, how
could you get off to an idea that you have
no interest in? obviously the interest is
there. in his defense, i also expressed my
desire for a threesome with another man,
but i did not get personal and include any
name, especially not his friends names. i
ended up breaking it off with him and he
is begging me back. i'm still very bitter
about the situation and i just can't get
past it. should i try to let it go and
work it out? or did he cross the line?
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flipper
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Posted: 03-03-07 16:37pm
I think that it probably was "all for
phone sex." I get the same way- do and
say weird things when I get caught in the
moment, and then later I'll go, what the
hell was I thinking? Point is, I wasn't.
I think the thought of doing something, as
great as it sounds, is usually a lot
better than the actual doing. For some
people that's not true, but for me it is,
cause yeah, you get stuck with the
afterthoughts.
I think it's cool that he'll get down and
dirty with you like that over the phone,
some guys just wouldn't. Him talking
about your friend that he's never met
sounds harmless actually. It was probably
just the first person he could think of.
(And also- awesome that he didn't freak
out over your threesome idea. Some guys
would just be sooo turned off by that.)
Honestly? I don't think he crossed a
line. He could have just as easily been
talking about Angelina Jolie- another
woman that he's never met. If you like
him, and miss him, I'd definitely show him
a little mercy.
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Makoto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jul 2006 Posts: 263 Location: Japan
Posted: 03-04-07 06:46am
You were just as bad as your BF. It does
not matter if you mentioned names or not.
What is in a name, what is the other
person anyways?? They are just meat who
they are or who it is gonna be does not
matter one bit.
You guys have crossed a line now. You have
to think about if having a relationship
with a person who wants a threesome and
knows that you want a threesome is worth
the time.
If I were to ever do a threesome I would
not have including some one I really care
about. Relationships that sometimes
include a third member sledom work or go
the distance.
So, I suggest if your BF is just for now,
until a better guy comes along, then take
him back and have fun. Chances are you two
guys having much of a future are slim to
none. So in the meantime he could be some
one that can be lots of fun. He could give
you things to remember and you could do
the same for him.
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