I've had a positive pregnancy test, two of
them in fact, and I have no desire to
continue this pregnancy. I've been
married for five years, we bought a house
a year ago, and almost all of our money
goes to pay off student loans and our new
mortgage. Neither of us is ready to have
a baby and neither of us wants to continue
this pregnancy. My husband is very
supportive of me, he says he will accept
whatever I decide but I know he's not
enthusiastic about the pregnancy.
I've looked online and the nearest
abortion clinic is about two and a half
hours away. I've made an appointment to
confirm the pregnancy for tomorrow and
I've also made some prelimmenary
appointments to the nearest clinic,
listened to their recording, and asked the
lady some questions over the phone. My
question is, if you were me, would you
choose the medical or surgical method? If
you've experienced either method, what do
you suggest? And if you've experienced
both methods which would you recommend to
me?
Thanks.
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Birch
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Posted: 03-05-07 22:02pm
I'm sorry to hear about this. It sucks.
I have had a surgical abortion. It was
over very quickly, minor discomfort, with
moderate cramping for about 24 hours
afterwards. I had "laughing gas" so I was
kind of out of it. I actually fainted
during the procedure; not because of the
procedure but b/c I have low blood
pressure and medical things tend to make
me pass out.
I did the same thing you did; compared the
two methods and determined that, for me,
the medical abortion did not have enough
"safeguards" for me to be comfortable. I
wanted to be at a clinic during the acutal
abortion so that I was taken care of.
Personally, I do not like to take
medicines of any kind so this was also a
factor for me.
You don't need to justify your reasons for
having an abortion. We understand
without them.
Best of luck to you!
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hill_al
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Mar 2007 Posts: 13
Posted: 03-06-07 00:32am
Birch
wrote:
I'm sorry to hear about
this. It sucks.
I have had a surgical abortion. It was
over very quickly, minor discomfort, with
moderate cramping for about 24 hours
afterwards. I had "laughing gas" so I was
kind of out of it. I actually fainted
during the procedure; not because of the
procedure but b/c I have low blood
pressure and medical things tend to make
me pass out.
I did the same thing you did; compared the
two methods and determined that, for me,
the medical abortion did not have enough
"safeguards" for me to be comfortable. I
wanted to be at a clinic during the acutal
abortion so that I was taken care of.
Personally, I do not like to take
medicines of any kind so this was also a
factor for me.
You don't need to justify your reasons for
having an abortion. We understand
without them.
Best of luck to
you!
Thank you for saying that
I don't have to justify my reasons. I've
been on a few different forums today and
felt backed into the corner to justify
myself when I just wanted some
information.
I'm leaning toward the surgical as well
just to get it over and done with and not
worry about it not being completed. I
would like to have the follow up at my
regular doctor's office if possible so
that I won't have to make the long trip
twice. The clinic staff told me that they
would do their best to arrange it.
Thank you for replying.
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Moo
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Joined: 20 Feb 2006 Posts: 1066 Location: London
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Posted: 03-06-07 08:47am
Personally I would opt for surgical. I
have had a surgical ab but I have also
been given misoprostol (vaginally) for an
embryo that died in my uterus (miscarriage
but refused a d&c - didn't want
surgery) and it was a terrible experience,
totally awake with full feelings of the
pain etc... - I imagine that's what having
the full medical abortion would be like.
With surgical it's over quickly and I also
chose to have general anaesthetic.
I've had a positive
pregnancy test, two of them in fact, and I
have no desire to continue this pregnancy.
I've been married for five years, we
bought a house a year ago, and almost all
of our money goes to pay off student loans
and our new mortgage. Neither of us is
ready to have a baby and neither of us
wants to continue this pregnancy. My
husband is very supportive of me, he says
he will accept whatever I decide but I
know he's not enthusiastic about the
pregnancy.
I've looked online and the nearest
abortion clinic is about two and a half
hours away. I've made an appointment to
confirm the pregnancy for tomorrow and
I've also made some prelimmenary
appointments to the nearest clinic,
listened to their recording, and asked the
lady some questions over the phone. My
question is, if you were me, would you
choose the medical or surgical method? If
you've experienced either method, what do
you suggest? And if you've experienced
both methods which would you recommend to
me?
Thanks.
Hi.
Medical abortion can only be used within
the first eight weeks of a pregnancy, and
if you opt for this method over this time
the consequences can be highly dangerous
and life-threatening. Medical (or
chemical) abortions are usually utilised
by the women who prefer to terminate their
pregnancies in the comfort of their own
home surrounded by their partners and
other family members, although the pain
can often be extremely painful, like a
very heavy period, I believe; surgical
abortions are performed either in a
hospital (UK) or a clinic and the most
common method used (suction-aspiration
abortion) lasts just ten minutes. The
cervix is dilated and a suction mechanism
is attached to a long tube which removes
the foetus and other embryonic tissue.
This method is usually preferred for its
quick, easy, and safe procedures.
The choice is up to you, at the end of the
day. Where would you prefer to be?
Good luck anyway and I wish you the best.
Kypros.
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mc4ever02
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Joined: 08 Feb 2007 Posts: 3636 Location: Orlando, FL Usa
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Posted: 03-07-07 00:09am
I have not been in the position that you
are in. Nor, have I ever had an abortion.
Therefore, I will be unable to assist you
in making any decisions. However, I just
wanted to make sure that you have done
extensive research about the location
that you have chosen. Many clinics are
not abortion clinics but are "crisis
centers". There is a very significant
difference between the two. A crisis
center will bring you in with the
impression that the do abortions at their
location. This is not true. They will
corner you into a room, and show you
graphic pictures and recite horrible
testimonies. They are there to discourage
you against having an abortion, and they
can be very aggressive. All that this will
do is make a situation that is already
undesirable, into something traumatic.
Just thought I would throw in my 2cents.
Good luck with your decisions.
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hill_al
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Mar 2007 Posts: 13
Posted: 03-07-07 15:57pm
I had the pregnancy confirmed yesterday.
I was (and am) more than a bit depressed
about it. I keep feeling like an fool
because even though I know better, it just
seems as though there was more that I
could have done to prevent it (we were
using condoms, correctly, and spermicide -
I had to go off the pill for other
unrelated health problems).
I'm going to keep my appointment for next
week. The clinic is very reputable and is
not a "fake" clinic (but thank you for
your concern that I not see those terrible
people). A friend of mine tried to get me
to go to the crisis pregnancy center here
in town but I said no because I am well
aware of their practices and tactics. She
had never visited but had heard good
things from her cousin.
From reading your experiences and
everything, I am going to follow through
with the surgical abortion. I really do
want this to be over with and I don't want
to be in any undue pain as several people
who described their medical abortions
were.
My husband and I are okay right now. Just
taking things in stride, really. He's
only asked me once if I was sure of my
decision and I emphasized that I am very
certain. Even if he had a sudden change
of mind, I would still seek the abortion.
I'm not ready in any sense of the word.
We've decided not to even think about
having children for another five years and
I think that's a sensible plan. Hopefully
by then my business will be healthier,
we'll have some debt paid down, will have
some savings, and will be more secure.
Again, thank you all for responding and
for not being judgemental or
self-righteous.
Well done for keeping a mature, sensible,
and determined approach to this crisis.
I'm pretty sure you'll feel relieved after
the abortion, since it appears it's the
pregnancy that is depressing you rather
than the termination of it. Unfortunately,
birth control failure is just one of those
things we cannot control beforehand, but
you have been a responsible individual for
trying.
After describing your problems with The
Pill, it may be worth having an IUD fitted
at the same time as your termination. You
will find more information on the IUD on
the Internet and particularly www.wikipedia.com .
If you want to give it a try I would
suggest you consult your doctor as soon as
possible to discuss having it implanted
immediately after your operation.
We understand
without them.
