im not sure if i should be concerned.
all of my friends have already lost their
v-cards, even the friends that are younger
than me. also, basically everyone that
ive met has already done "the naughty"
before.
i DO think about it, and i do have my
fantacies, but i'm not sure what is
holding me back. Part of it might be my
shyness, part could be influence from my
parents/religion, but i also tell myself
that i want to save it for after marriage.
whatever the case... i want to see what
others think about it.
in your opinion do you think you would
commend me or laugh at me concerning my
case? praise me or flame me, i dont care.
i want to hear the honest truth.
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 03-06-07 01:26am
I don't think it's a big deal at all. I
know many people older than you who lost
their virginity only recently or have not
lost it at all yet. I can't imagine why
it would matter. Not everyone is ready at
the same time, and not everyone defines
"ready" in the same way.
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HealthySex
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2007 Posts: 414
Posted: 03-06-07 09:36am
A lot of people are virgins that long and
longer. It's your choice. The important
thing is to own it. If your friends laugh,
then realize it doesn't matter what they
say and don't be bothered with it. If
you're not humiliated by jokes, then
they're not funny, even to those making
the jokes. They might still jab at you,
but that's what friends do. If it's more
than jabs, they're not friends.
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laura_friesen
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Feb 2006 Posts: 610 Location: , Canada
Posted: 03-08-07 15:51pm
HealthySex
wrote:
A lot of people are virgins
that long and longer. It's your choice.
The important thing is to own it. If your
friends laugh, then realize it doesn't
matter what they say and don't be bothered
with it. If you're not humiliated by
jokes, then they're not funny, even to
those making the jokes. They might still
jab at you, but that's what friends do. If
it's more than jabs, they're not
friends.
ya totally agree! If your friends are
bugging you about it they're not really
your friend i mean, its not written
anywhere you have to get laid at a certain
time, its when you are ready, and when you
want to. dont feel bad about not having
sex yet even though i know its like " the
thing to do " But ya, just wanted
to say not to worry about it, i look at it
as that you're more respectful of others
and yourself, but thats my opinion good luck hun!
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healthy-model
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Feb 2007 Posts: 93 Location: Arcadia, California
Posted: 03-09-07 13:35pm
this sounds more like a peer problem than
your v-card. friends that don't respect
you are not your friends.
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DLosGirl82
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Oct 2006 Posts: 47 Location: NH
Posted: 03-11-07 20:08pm
I think you should totally do whatever YOU
think is right. It's your body and your
decision. Good luck!
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nightangel73
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2005 Posts: 2504 Location: ,
Thanks: 14
Thanked:10
Posted: 03-11-07 20:29pm
I lost my v-card in my now 30's. I wasn't
ready to have sex in my 20's being
unmarried. Particulary at 20 sex didn't
even crossed my mind. I was busy studying
in college and didn't felt ready to have
an accidental unwanted pregnancy not to
mention an abortion at such a young age.
If you want to have a sexual life you need
to forget peer pressure and think more of
what the consequences are going to be.
Like std's and unwanted pregnancies. Are
you are ready to deal with both if they
happen?
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Jaydensmommy
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 28 Jan 2004 Posts: 1705 Location: Wisconsin
Posted: 03-11-07 20:30pm
Power to you!!!! Not many people have
that train of thought now a days. And
it's sad to say most men don't. I think
you need to trust your gut and go with
what makes you feel right. I don't think
it is any reason for someone to laugh at
you. I personally would love to meet a
man who is saving himself for marriage
that really is a special thing. And to be
honest I wish I would have (except my
daughter I don't regret that).
But ya, just wanted
to say not to worry about it, i look at it
as that you're more respectful of others
and yourself, but thats my opinion 
good luck hun!
