When Will It Stop Being Painful? Posted: 03-06-07 15:38pm
hey me and my girlfriend have recently
started having sex, it was her second time
and well she hurt alot, Im not some super
big massive penis and i keep on telling
her that I dont like seeing her in pain
and i dont want to have sex if she hates
it, but well isnt it suppose to get less
painful every time? How long does it
usually take or when did you stop having
pain during sex(from tightness)?
-Confused
Male
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Tylanas
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Re: When Will It Stop Being Painful? Posted: 03-06-07 22:53pm
Acadian
wrote:
hey me and my girlfriend
have recently started having sex, it was
her second time and well she hurt alot, Im
not some super big massive penis and i
keep on telling her that I dont like
seeing her in pain and i dont want to have
sex if she hates it, but well isnt it
suppose to get less painful every time?
How long does it usually take or when did
you stop having pain during sex(from
tightness)?
-Confused
Male
It can take a very long time; months even,
for her pain to be gone. Continue being
the caring man you seem to be, and you'll
do fine. Just remember to get her very
stimulated before hand, go slow, and use
lube if you need to!
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Llewellyn
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Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 03-07-07 00:51am
It should not take any amount of time
since there should never be pain to begin
with. Pain is a sign that something is
not going right. So many people wrongly
assume that women are supposed to feel
pain their first time, that their hymen is
breaking and causing them pain, and that
they are too tight which is causing them
pain. None of that is usually the case,
however.
The number one cause of pain during sex,
first time or otherwise, is lack of
lubrication. That's easy to fix. You can
make sure she is lubricated or buy some at
the store.
The second most common reason is being
tense. The vagina is very stretchy, first
time or otherwise, when a woman is relaxed
and in the mood. The vagina easily take
on the average penis even if it is the
girl's first time, even if she does not
use tampons, and even if she does not use
penetration to masturbate. Many girls
tense up their first time or first few
times, however. That can make the vagina
pretty much clamp shut just like any
muscles in your body tighten up when
you're nervous. Sometimes this happens
without the girl even realizing it.
Sometimes it happens more out of
excitement than being nervous, so it
doesn't necessarily mean that the girl
isn't ready or that she is uncomfortable
with the guy.
The third reason and least common reason
is various problems such as infections
which she would have to see an ob-gyn
for.
Many women feel pain their first time or
their first few times, but in most cases
that pain could be avoided if only the
people knew more about the human body
beforehand. Try to make sure she is
relaxed and in the mood. Buy lubrication
if you need to. If the pain persists,
urge her to tell her ob-gyn about it.
Girls are supposed to see an ob-gyn when
they become sexually active anyway, even
if they do not have pain or any other
problems. So that is something she should
do soon either way if she hasn't already.
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DLosGirl82
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Oct 2006 Posts: 47 Location: NH
Posted: 03-11-07 19:48pm
I have a friend who's pubic bone is
actually facing the opposite way of what
most women's do. She was experiencing pain
during sex for the longest time, and
finally her gynocologist (sp.?) discovered
that her pubic bone was backwards...Your
gf might want to go to the doctor just to
make sure it's nothing like that.
P.S. Even if it is something like that,
there are certain positions you can use to
minimize pain and maximize pleasure. Good
luck!
