Hey. So i've just got a new girlfriend and
we've been dating for a month, she grabbed
my penis and stroked it for like 30
seconds and i came, it was embarassing but
she seems cool about it so thats ok, but
still i would like to find some solutions
i was reading up and they were saying be
comfortable with your body, mate etc and
all the other stuff, i've tried kegels and
so far its only helping while i
masturbate, but when i'm with my
girlfriend its lasted a minute tops, i'm
going to try wankin it a few hours before
we do anything to see if that makes it
last longer. but i have a few questions,
what is the "pc" but how can i relax it
and make myself last longer when i finally
get to penetration. Also i'm only 17 but
i'm a confident person so i don't believe
that confidence is the problem, maybe
inexperience? Also i'm un circumsized so
maybe it's sensitivity?
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Steve11
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jun 2008 Posts: 2
Posted: 06-02-08 17:16pm
jprice79144
wrote:
Steve11
wrote:
hey guys is there anything i
can put inside my condom that will cover
my penis/condom touching? maybe so it
desenterizes me so i cant feel everything
when i'm inside?
i really need suggestions
there are last longer condoms yes. but you
really need to realise that ejaculation is
caused by your pc and that premature
ejaculation is caused by having a
hyperactive pc. i relaxed my pc for a week
and then jacked off and could last twice
as long. so im going to do it all summer
and then i will be cured like the other
people in this forum who did
it.
Yeah, I read that. Iv been relaxing them
for 2 day's now. But I'm talking about
maybe if i wrapped something around my
penis before I put the condom. The only
thing I can think of is getting a little
bit of toilet paper, and wrapping a little
bit around my penis, both ways so after I
put the condom on, it will stay wrapped
around my penis.
Would that work? it's only a little bit,
and I would still be able to feel inside
her I wouldn't ejaculate so quick.
EDIT: The reason I say this, is because I
have a new gf coming over tonight, and she
really wants to have sex, so I thought of
this quick-solution until relaxing my pc
starts working. I also use desensitizing
stud spray.
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EricE
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 May 2008 Posts: 3
Posted: 06-03-08 20:04pm
I do think relaxing your PC works. I tried
it out when my gf gave me a BJ. Still
after a while it becomes too hard to relax
for some reason (probably excitement).
And I'm not sure how to relax my PC (all
day long). I know it's the muscle you use
when taking a pee. When I take a pee i
have control over it and I obviously know
when I'm relaxing it and when I'm not but
after that it doesn't really give an
indication on wether I'm relaxing it or
not.
I once had a multiple orgasm by using my
pc a long time ago trying to hold in from
ejaculating.
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EricE
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 May 2008 Posts: 3
Posted: 06-03-08 20:08pm
Steve11
wrote:
jprice79144
wrote:
Steve11
wrote:
hey guys is there anything i
can put inside my condom that will cover
my penis/condom touching? maybe so it
desenterizes me so i cant feel everything
when i'm inside?
i really need suggestions
there are last longer condoms yes. but you
really need to realise that ejaculation is
caused by your pc and that premature
ejaculation is caused by having a
hyperactive pc. i relaxed my pc for a week
and then jacked off and could last twice
as long. so im going to do it all summer
and then i will be cured like the other
people in this forum who did
it.
Yeah, I read that. Iv been relaxing them
for 2 day's now. But I'm talking about
maybe if i wrapped something around my
penis before I put the condom. The only
thing I can think of is getting a little
bit of toilet paper, and wrapping a little
bit around my penis, both ways so after I
put the condom on, it will stay wrapped
around my penis.
Would that work? it's only a little bit,
and I would still be able to feel inside
her I wouldn't ejaculate so quick.
EDIT: The reason I say this, is because I
have a new gf coming over tonight, and she
really wants to have sex, so I thought of
this quick-solution until relaxing my pc
starts working. I also use desensitizing
stud spray.
Don't want to burst your bubble but if she
finds out it might be a little bit
embarassing.
Does the stud spray make you last a lot
longer?
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Damendamandaman
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 May 2008 Posts: 29
Posted: 06-03-08 21:23pm
i think about using stud spary plus a
trojan longer lasting. because if i go
limp, which i dont think there is a chance
i get a freaking hard one by her just
sitting on my lap, i will just lower the
dosage each time to see what works.
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jprice79144
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 May 2008 Posts: 30
Posted: 06-04-08 10:14am
Damendamandaman
wrote:
I can't seem to relax my pc
all day and when i have sex, when i thrust
its really hard not to
squeeze.
The position for best control of the PC
muscle to hold off ejaculation during sex
is for her to be on top. That way your
whole body is relaxed and you can
concentrate on keeping that one muscle
(PC) relaxed away from your g-spot
(prostate). You need to take thrusting out
of the situation until you get to where
people like john414 have got to. Read his
posts a few pages back.
It takes a couple weeks to get the hang of
relaxing your PC muscle in the day. I
still can't do it unless I'm stood up, so
it's not really affected sex yet but I can
last longer during oral and masturbation.
I can relax it 75% when I'm walking, and
when I'm stood still it relaxes further to
about 100% I'd say.
Stud spray and trojan/performax condoms do
work up to a point, but what I found was
that I sub-consciously used my PC muscle
to support my erection, and when I forced
my PC to relax during sex so I could
control my ejaculation, the PC muscles no
longer supported my erection and so the
numbing stuff in the condoms made me start
to lose my erection.
I take Ginkgo to support my erection so
that I don't have to use my PC muscle, so
I can relax it to last longer.
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jprice79144
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 May 2008 Posts: 30
Regulars to this forum.. Posted: 06-06-08 12:56pm
..have gone a bit quiet. Are you all
having success with the PC relaxation? I
think it's working, but I'm also looking
into male multiple orgams, where you
orgasm without ejaculation the first few
times and then burst when you're ready.
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blast00
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2008 Posts: 58
Posted: 06-06-08 22:48pm
guys, in order to solve this we all need
to work together. There is a difference
between relaxing your PC and stretching
it. I think what people are refering to
when they say they relax there PC is that
they push out, as though they are going
poop when they masturbate and have sex..
am I correct on this judgment?
I tried masterbating today while pushing
out and I lasted much longer. Everyone
should try this and post their results.
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Jimmster
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 May 2008 Posts: 24
not quiet, just practicing Posted: 06-08-08 09:04am
I have been working away from home for the
last 10 days, so i used the evenings to
get some long practice in at keeping that
old PC relaxed. I was getting really good
at it and can essentially wank forever now
without coming.
actual sex is different, though, but i
can't wait to try it out again in the next
few days (wife's period began the day I
got back - she doesn't like doing it
during that).
One thing that was very clear during
"practice" was that mojo is very critical,
at least for me. By mojo I mean that
horniness that builds up day by day if you
don't ejaculate. For me after three days
of abstinence I get much better erections
that last, but it is harder not to come
early. For ages I thought that
masturbating during the day before having
sex was a good way to get the urgency
down, but it makes my PE worse because I
struggle to stay hard and it is more
difficult to get aroused.
I have now seen that it is much better to
get your mojo right up high and practice
the relaxing during the day technique as
much as possible. I feel like it is really
going well, and with a great improvement
last time I had sex (from coming before
entry (!) to lasting a couple of minutes
inside) I can't wait to try it out again.
On the working away from home thing, too,
I am certain now that what I used to do
whilst staying in hotels for a week or
more alone, i.e. masturbate 2-3 times a
day, is what caused my chronic PE. I am
certain my body got really good a having
an orgasm when my mojo was really, really
low, and often without a proper erection,
so with my partner that meant all those
muscles were automatically tightening in
the best possible trained way to orgasm
quickly! AAAAArrrrggghh!!!
So now when I practice alone, I don't let
myself come! That is difficult, but that
way my mojo stays high, and i get better
at not falling over the cliff.
I agree, we are all in this together, and
I was so desperate with it that I swore to
myself that if i ever got over it I would
share the info here, so i'll keep you
posted in the next week or so whether it
is good or bad (because I think everyone
should know if it is slow to work or is
not working so we stay realistic).
Keep it up! Ha!
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Damendamandaman
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 May 2008 Posts: 29
Posted: 06-09-08 10:14am
desmond:
well i looked at the site, it is pretty
expensive but PLEASE keep us updated
because if it really works I would like to
give it a try.
The guys here are gonna say "THIS ISN'T A
CURE!" and say relaxation is the best way.
Maybe, maybe not, everything is worth a
shot not just relaxing your PC.
So keep us updated on how it's working!
What's the side effects you've noticed?
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Jimmster
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 May 2008 Posts: 24
all comers (!) Posted: 06-09-08 10:37am
No, I agree that everyone should report
anything successful in getting past this
terrible condition. That is the only way
we can get a wide-ranging, representative
sample of what works and what doesn't.
Personally I am skeptical about pill cures
that cost as much as that, but if it does
work for someone then we all need to know
about it.
I don't think it is right when people get
dogmatic and protective about their own
favoured answer, and some things may work
well for one guy and not for the next.
Openness.
Jimmster
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jprice79144
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 May 2008 Posts: 30
Posted: 06-09-08 14:30pm
I just want to confirm what John414 said a
while ago. That if you push your pc out it
can make you want to come quicker like
squeezing it does. The "sweet spot" he
mentioned is inbetween contracting the PC
and forcing it to relax. When I found the
sweet spot I could go a lot longer without
having to stop than I could when I was
pushing the PC out as much as possible.
So it really is relaxing the muscle. Not
forcing it to relax. Because that's not
really relaxing it.
I only got to this point by trying to
relax the muscle all the time when I was
stood up and/or walking. But I still have
a long way to go.
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John414
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Apr 2008 Posts: 32
Posted: 06-09-08 20:04pm
hey guys I've been keeping up on reading
everyones progress it helps me stay
confident to hear that people are having
success! Well here's what i want to add
I found this ebook about learning to
control pe with tantric sex. The more i
read it the more i was amazed! It is
EXACTLY this relaxation method we have all
been trying.
So this tantra sex that has been around
for hundreds of years is exactly what we
have stumbled upon here.
It doesn't focus on pc relaxation as much
as i have but all the other tips actually
do add to the overall control.
I don't want this to confuse anyone if you
guys are having success DON'T let this
tantric thing confuse you, just keep doing
what you're doing. I just wanted to help
instill some more confidence in you guys
knowing that we're not the only ones who
have tried this and had success
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treble_clef
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2008 Posts: 1
Posted: 06-10-08 07:05am
Hey guys,
I'm 18 years old and me and my girlfriend
tried to have sex for the first time the
other night. We engaged in plently of
foreplay which i was perfectly fine with
but as soon as(and i mean as soon as) i
tried to penatrate her, i came. Is that
normal for your first time. I haven't
really been sexually previously except for
oral sex but I am now terrified to try
again incase it happens again. What are
the chances are it happening again???
Thanks for any advice/infomation
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John414
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Apr 2008 Posts: 32
Posted: 06-10-08 19:30pm
Ok i learned something that makes a huge
difference for me. Now the relaxation
method was working pretty good for me. But
i started to developed this feeling like
uh oh what if i don't do this perfect and
what if i lose focus the little things
started to cause some anxiety.
Now to have total control i just go into
having sex like I WANT TO DO THIS!! and
feeling like I AM GOING TO HIT THAT
SH**T....NOT an anxious feeling like "i
hope this go goods for her". Just blow up
your confidence like your ready to rock
her world. And believe yourself Get kinda
pissed GET INTO IT!!! Show her your an
animal but all the while still keeping
that pc muscles and pelvic muscles
relaxed. This made soooo much of a
difference. The combination of PC
relaxation method and blowing up your
drive is the BEST combination i have had
so far. i mean complete control
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John414
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Apr 2008 Posts: 32
Posted: 06-10-08 19:33pm
Ok i learned something that makes a huge
difference for me. Now the relaxation
method was working pretty good for me. But
i started to developed this feeling like
uh oh what if i don't do this perfect and
what if i lose focus the little things
started to cause some anxiety.
Now to have total control i just go into
having sex like I WANT TO DO THIS!! and
feeling like I AM GOING TO HIT THAT
SH**T....NOT an anxious feeling like "i
hope this go goods for her". Just blow up
your confidence like your ready to rock
her world. And believe yourself Get kinda
pissed GET INTO IT!!! Show her your an
animal but all the while still keeping
that pc muscles and pelvic muscles
relaxed. This made soooo much of a
difference. The combination of PC
relaxation method and blowing up your
drive is the BEST combination i have had
so far. i mean complete control
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jprice79144
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 May 2008 Posts: 30
Posted: 06-11-08 09:00am
Just following up on what Jimmster said
about sharing any bit of success.
Yesterday I ejaculated on penetration, but
two days before my girl orgasmed four
times before I decided not to hold off any
longer. So it is all about perfecting the
PC relaxation.
Does anyone else notice aches in their
testicles the day after sex?
John414: I have a feeling that not only is
Tantra the same as what we are on to, but
Chikong breathing may also be the same.
I'm looking into orgasm without
ejaculation. Basically men dont realise
that they are two unique and seperate
things, because they are used to them
happening so close together.
There is apparently a split second between
orgasm and ejaculation where if you use
the PC muscle to stop ejaculation
(contracting, relaxing or pushing out, im
not yet sure which?) you still get the
orgasm, and as you learn the technique you
can have several awesome highs before you
actually choose to shoot your load.
It all seems to be about getting close
enough to feel you are going to come, but
managing not to.. This seems pretty crazy
but if it works then not only will I have
cured my PE but I will learn to feel the
orgasms that 95% of men never have.
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ToddyK
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 May 2008 Posts: 4
Instead of staving off ejaculation... Posted: 06-11-08 12:00pm
Hi all. I just turned 50 and maybe I need
to thank God for this "miracle". I didn't
know about Kegels. I just happened onto
this solution that works great for me.
When I'm having sex and the urge to
ejaculate comes, we stop and I tense up pc
muscles and most of my body actually and
block the mental release of an ejaculation
(easier said than done, I know) and while
tensing my body it seems some of the
ejaculate does release. After 15 or so
seconds the event passes and I can
continue sex with much less sensitivity,
but the final ejaculation is still to
come. It's like a mini "warning shot" that
releases much of the pressure of the
glands (prostate?) that want to "blow".
Sometimes I have to repeat it once or
twice. Oh, but what a joy to have that
sensitivity gone. I can then mount up like
a stud and give my wife the strong sex she
craves and be in control. It's great. Not
sure how this would work with others,
younger men in particular.
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MandM
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Dec 2006 Posts: 50
Posted: 06-11-08 21:22pm
Hey All,
I haven't posted in a bit, but I have
been checking back to read posts
occasionally. I decided to give the
reverse kegal technique a try for a couple
of months. Here are few things that I have
noticed for MY situation:
Upon initial masterbation, the reverse
kegal technique does seem to subside the
initial urge to ejaculate. However, during
constant stroking, ejaculation cannot be
stopped. When I fell the urge coming, I
would stop and push out on the muscle,
which would reduce the urgency, but it
would not stop it.
I also noticed if I was going to
ejaculate, and I still pushed out (reverse
kegal) on the muscle fairly hard, my
orgasm would totally suck. I would not get
the same bodily sensations like I did when
I clenched the muscle. Further, I've begun
to notice that when I do ejaculate, the
load doesn't seem to burst out like it
used to, rather it seems to come out
slower/ less dramatic.
I really haven't had much sex lately, so I
cannot comment too much on that. I am
really not so sure that I like the way the
reverse kegals have been working for me. I
haven't used any of the desensitizing
cream in a while, but I think that I may
go back to using the Stud spray. I know
that it's a bandaid, but so far that has
given me the best results.
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rambous
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Apr 2008 Posts: 2
Re: Instead of staving off ejaculation... Posted: 06-11-08 22:46pm
Hi all. I just turned 50 and maybe I need
to thank God for this "miracle". I didn't
know about Kegels. I just happened onto
this solution that works great for me.
When I'm having sex and the urge to
ejaculate comes, we stop and I tense up pc
muscles and most of my body actually and
block the mental release of an ejaculation
(easier said than done, I know) and while
tensing my body it seems some of the
ejaculate does release. After 15 or so
seconds the event passes and I can
continue sex with much less sensitivity,
but the final ejaculation is still to
come. It's like a mini "warning shot" that
releases much of the pressure of the
glands (prostate?) that want to "blow".
Sometimes I have to repeat it once or
twice. Oh, but what a joy to have that
sensitivity gone. I can then mount up like
a stud and give my wife the strong sex she
craves and be in control. It's great. Not
sure how this would work with others,
younger men in
particular.
i think this guy is onto something, i did
the exact same thing, before i ejaculated
i clenched my pc as hard as i could, for
like five seconds, and finally i gave up
and i ejaculated only i bit, which is
strange cause i haven't done it in 3
weeks. but after this my erection was
still there, the sensitivity was not and i
felt like i could do anything with it. i
think if you do the heavy breathing,
relaxed pc tecnique in conjunction with
the pc tightening it might help. anyone
try this?
