After 5 days my wife and I had sex again
this morning. This method worked again.
There's a big difference in taking all
kinds of measures to hold back the dam
bursting .....and letting off some
pressure (and thus sensitivity) and then
being able to "get after it". If the urge
returns (usually much weaker) I repeat,
tensing nearly my entire body and after
5-10 seconds start to relax and I feel
some ejaculate leaking out. This makes the
immediate sensitivity pass, the pressure
reduce and still saves the "real"
ejaculation for later, almost upon will.
Actually, using this method leaves me a
tad concerned that I'll be able to do the
final ejaculation. 99% of the time it
does. This is almost THE OPPOSITE of PE.
Wow. From lack of control to nearly
complete control. I can then give my wife
the strong thrusts she really likes. I can
tell, believe me. I can also tell when
she's fulfilled and "done" I usually
change to a position that turns me on
(from behind..I could never do that
before...wouldn't last 15 sec.) and
"finish off" We both are greatly
satisfied. I just wonder how successful
this might be for others. Like I said, I'm
50 and maybe my testosterone is down and I
can do what a testosterone filled younger
man can't. I hope this helps married
couples (I'm a Christian). I know what a
difficulty PE is. My doctor gave me Zoloft
once, but ugh, the side effects weren't
worth it and PE was better, but not that
much improved.
Let me know if anyone gets helped by this.
I assume the kegels would help. I'm fairly
active and think mine work as they are.
Good luck all.
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Frozen72
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Joined: 12 Jun 2008 Posts: 4
Posted: 06-12-08 13:43pm
I'm 14 and I'm a virgin and when I
masterbate after or while watching porn I
only last any where from 30 sec. to 3
minutes. What should I do to last longer?
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ToddyK
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Joined: 28 May 2008 Posts: 4
Huh? Posted: 06-13-08 07:01am
14? You either wear a police badge and
have an earlier birthdate or need to go to
disney.com. This is a health issue posting
site for adults.
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Damendamandaman
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Joined: 06 May 2008 Posts: 29
Posted: 06-14-08 08:26am
atreus, explain about the book please and
what it taught you.
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blast00
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Joined: 03 Jan 2008 Posts: 58
Posted: 06-16-08 00:35am
do any of you guys ever feel slight
discomfort or pain after masterbating when
trying these techniques out?????????
should I be worried if I am?
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Damendamandaman
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Joined: 06 May 2008 Posts: 29
Posted: 06-16-08 09:16am
If you just feel sore, maybe not. But if
anyone other kind of pain like tension or
squeezing trying stopping the technique
for a while to see if it goes away and if
it does you should not try it again.
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blast00
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Joined: 03 Jan 2008 Posts: 58
Posted: 06-16-08 14:20pm
just I mean it goes away after 15 minutes
or so its a soreness pain
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Damendamandaman
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Posted: 06-16-08 20:16pm
Well it is a muscle you are working out so
I would think it is normal.
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Jimmster
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not good... Posted: 06-17-08 03:56am
Hi guys,
after 3 weeks of practicing and relaxing
my PC muscle, I'm afraid I was back in the
same old trouble. Blew on entry. That
said, I am so distraught about sex now I
am ridiculously nervous and uptight before
and during and I just can't get over it.
I have to say I DO think the relaxing your
PC muscle is the main solution. The
possibilities are that I need to keep
going with it for longer and try to gain
some mental control mentally, but in the
meanwhile I am going to get my prostate
checked out for a possible infection. I
think that would add up since this
condition occurred overnight for me. Also
it (prostate is generally described as
a"about the size of a walnut", but mine
feels hard as a rock and tiny and tight).
Not sure about that, but it is certainly
quoted as a possible cause of PE, so
despite never going to the doctor for
anything, I'm going to eliminate that as a
possibility whist pressing on with reverse
kegels.
Jimmster
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Damendamandaman
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Joined: 06 May 2008 Posts: 29
Posted: 06-17-08 07:59am
I wish you good luck Jimmster I hope
everything is all right
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blast00
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Joined: 03 Jan 2008 Posts: 58
Posted: 06-19-08 00:04am
Yes, Jimmster I wish you the best of luck
with your exam, let us know how things
go.
Additionally, I am curious what you guys
have to add about the following that I
believe was being touched upon earlier,
when I feel the urge to cum and I squeeze
my PC really hard for like 10 seconds I
stop the cum, getting retrograde
ejaculation, but then I stay hard for
about as long as I keep stroking...
I don't feel any tension, and I can't cum
again, but this may be a possible method
if I can thrust really fast to keep myself
hard and prolong having sex... any
thoughts?
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Damendamandaman
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Joined: 06 May 2008 Posts: 29
Posted: 06-19-08 09:59am
Blast:
I have tried the same thing as you said
and yes I get the same results most of the
time, sometimes though it doesn't work.
For it to work in sex I think you would
have to stop thrusting for that ten
seconds but I don't think the lady would
mind. Yeah, orgasm and ejaculation are two
different things. If you use this method
you can find that out. if you hold for
about ten seconds and then let go you will
cum a little and then after that feel your
orgasm. At least that's what happened for
me, and it feels great.♠
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Brav0
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Joined: 19 Jun 2008 Posts: 8
At wits end Posted: 06-19-08 17:59pm
Hi all.
I've been lurking on this forum for a bit
and read some of the posts but I am at a
loss!
A little info on myself:
I'm 23 and have been seeing my
understanding (for now anyway) girlfriend
of 29 for 3 or 4 months. Prior to this
relationship I had never had sex so
naturally when we first tried I was a
little quick to get there, but after 4
months I am no nearer to getting any
better.
My PE is quite 'serious' in that sometimes
I get so worked up I blow my load before
anything really happens. When I penetrate
I can only last for a few seconds, as
embarassing as that is to admit! Even when
we try again 10/20min later its the same
story..
Tonight we tried and I just couldn't hold
it back, we didn't even have sex and now
I'm at wits end. I worry that she'll just
give up, she said tonight that whether its
worth even trying sometimes and thats left
me feeling worse than ever, but I can
hardly blame her, I sometimes think to
myself do I really want to have sex? I'll
just cum early and we'll both be
fustrated..
When we try to have sex sometimes I'm so
hard that anything to set me off, I don't
know if reverse kegals will do the trick
as I am on my feet all day and can't
concentreate on keeping myself relaxed. I
used to be over weight and now I have
continious habit of holding my stomach in
which, as you might imagine, keeps my
abdominal muscles/PC tight/clenched (I
guess). Would trying to reverse this and
relaxing my abdominal muscles help?
Any ideas? Is it worth visiting the doctor
to see if he has anything to say?
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Damendamandaman
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Joined: 06 May 2008 Posts: 29
Posted: 06-19-08 18:43pm
Brav0:
Definately visit a doctor. He will not
laugh or take it lightly and they have
better advice to anything we can offer. I
suggest trying NEW things, not just normal
sex. Try games, try lotions and creams.
Making love isn't just having sex and
doing these things can take your mind off
of how bad PE is and just enjoy the
moment. There's no reason to not try
sprays and pills because if it is as bad
as most of us have it we would do anything
to get rid of it. Don't let it get to you,
there is more to a relationship than sex.
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sgLoki
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Joined: 20 Jun 2008 Posts: 1
Posted: 06-20-08 10:18am
Hello..
So obviously im here for PE problem and im
desperatly seeking advice. Here is a short
bio on me:
Im 22 ive been sexually active for 5
years. Ive had only 2 previous partners
and ive had this problem since the very
beginning. I was addicted to Oxycontin for
4 years. At the point when i hit bottom i
was using roughly 120-160mgs daily. I am
currently on a Methadone Detox treatment
that ends sunday after 3 months of
decreasing doses. I had the problem before
i started using and then when i started to
use it went away. In fact being high would
make it virtually impossible for me to
orgasm. It was awesome, and sometimes i
wonder if its worth going back to using
but i really dont want to go back to that
lifestyle. Its been about 8 months since
my last sexual interaction and im
currently seeing someone who i have been
mostly honest with. She knows that i am
unable to perform and is willing to wait..
but i dont want too. I want to be with her
as much as she does with me. Also i spoke
briefly with a doctor and she said to just
wait til im off treatment and see if it
will improve but im terrified it wont.
Can anyone please suggest anything i can
do? ive tried flexing the muscles and all
that and im kinda leaning towards some
kind of medical treatment if there are any
like it at all. Are there? and are they
effective?
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jprice79144
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Joined: 07 May 2008 Posts: 30
Posted: 06-20-08 12:01pm
[quote="sgLoki"]Hello..
quote]
Hi Loki. You need to read back from page
31. Most people in this forum for the last
month or two have been working on relaxing
their PC muscles to control ejaculation.
My initial feeling is that when you were
on the drug that made it hard to orgasm,
you subconsciously taught your PC muscle
to contract against your g-spot as you
tried to reach orgasm, and now that you
are not on the drug this muscle
involuntarily stimulates your g-spot to
make you ejaculate so quickly.
For a quick fix: (please note these do not
cure PE, they just make you last each time
you use them) you can try stud100, though
this weakened my erection so I use a
herbal desensitiser called Chinese Brush
Lotion (Kwang Tze solution) because it has
ginseng in which helps with erections.
If you want to work on what many feel is
the cure to PE, then start from page 31,
particularly the posts by John414, Tito
and Depression610 something or other.
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brad172
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Joined: 21 May 2008 Posts: 11 Location: Pheonix, AZ
Posted: 06-21-08 04:38am
Brav0- I definately know what you mean
when you say "I sometimes think to myself
do I really want to have sex? I'll just
cum early and we'll both be fustrated.."
My PE has caused me at times to puposely
avoid sex to avoid the frustration that
would come with it. Anyway you mentioned
that you were thinking about seeing a
doctor about your issues with PE and
that's good because it is a proactive step
on your part. General practitioners will
generally refer their PE patients to a
urologist. Once you visit your urologist
he or she will recommend one of three
things: SSRIS (usually Paxil), Behavioral
techniques such as the stop-start and
squeeze technique, or a topical anesthetic
agent (such as stud spray). SSRI'S are
becoming more and more of the first line
treatments that urologist recomend to
their patients. It of course is an "off
label" use but has a proven track record
of being effective in delaying
ejaculation. Other than SSRIS many
urologists still recomend the stop and
start method which was developed in the
50's or the squeeze technique which is
very similar. Many people have mixed
results with these methods; I have never
had any success with them and neither have
many other people on this thread. However
these techniques emphasize that much
dedication needs to be given to these
techniques which I have admitidly have not
given. Lastley topical anesthetic work
very well for some and not so great for
others, it's all about finding what works
best for you.
sgLoki- You mentioned that you had PE
"from the very beginning." Is this before
your addiction to oxycontin? Oxcontin is
an Opiod anagesic medication and Opiod
withdrawal can be a cause of secondary pe
which will eventually resolve once you are
done withdrawling. However if you have had
PE before you ever did the drugs you
probably have primary PE which is PE that
is lifelong and not caused by any other
extraordinary factors (such as a
prostatitis or opiod withdrawal). You also
asked about medical treatments for PE.
Besides the ones I have mentioned above
the only other "medical technique" that I
have come across is hyaluronic acid gel
injections into the penis head. This
injection was primarily used to augment
the size of the head of the penis but was
also found to greatly reduce the
sensitivity of the penis head. This
procedure is an option for men looking to
reduce penile sesitivity and prolong
ejaculation time. A study done on this
procedure in realtion to premature
ejaculation: http://www.medscape.c
om/viewarticle/495107 or
http
://www.koreamed.org/SearchBasic.php?RID=19
8279&DT=1
I'm still looking for more answers too
but
hope that helps
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thelaws
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Joined: 22 Jun 2008 Posts: 8
Posted: 06-22-08 00:52am
HealthySex
wrote:
I also find that after
ejaculation my penis is extremely
sensitive. Not sensitive like feels good,
but sensitive like an extreme tickle. It's
not painful at all, but it's uncomfortable
to the point of wanting to stop all
movement. Sort of like when you were
tickled to death as a kid. Feels good in a
way, but too extreme. Stopping ejaculation
by pressing on that spot still brought
this on, but not quite as much.
My penis is the same way, actually. I've
always wished I could try to stop this
from happening so that I could get more
out of the "aftershocks" of an
ejaculation.
It also liked to drip drip after I pee,
too. I heard this can be a symptom of PE.
I can shake it all I want, but well after
(no more than 2-mins at most) it still
drips a little.
To stay on topic: When I first got with my
girlfriend, I used to last 20 minutes, but
somewhere down the line, maybe 4 years in,
that time has been degrading. I am 28
years old, fyi.
It's really been dragging on my mind that
maybe I am developing PE. I barely last
2-3 minutes now.
To let you all know, it also has felt that
our relationship has been growing
stronger, I feel I get more affections out
of my girlfriend than ever before. She
expresses herself well (she is an artist,
after all.) We've been together for 6
years and 5 months now, all of my doubt
about her was erased a few years ago.
Also, nothing has changed with my life,
things are actually going better for me.
So I am not sure why this is happening.
However, last year I developed an
inflamation of the skin in my epidermis
(around my testicals), which I thought was
an STD, but turned out to be caused by a
varicose vein on my scrotum (just to the
left side of my testicals.)
When I went to see a urologist about it,
he asked me some questions, felt my
testicals up, and then sent me home. I
received no kind of treatment for it, and
he just told me to contact him if it ever
caused any more problems, which it hasn't.
I can feel around for it, and actually
touch it, too.
I guess I am not sure where I am going
with my ramblings, but it has me worried,
and am wondering if anyone else has had a
similar situation.
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Damendamandaman
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Joined: 06 May 2008 Posts: 29
Posted: 06-22-08 06:50am
thelaws
wrote:
HealthySex
wrote:
I also find that after
ejaculation my penis is extremely
sensitive. Not sensitive like feels good,
but sensitive like an extreme tickle. It's
not painful at all, but it's uncomfortable
to the point of wanting to stop all
movement. Sort of like when you were
tickled to death as a kid. Feels good in a
way, but too extreme. Stopping ejaculation
by pressing on that spot still brought
this on, but not quite as much.
My penis is the same way, actually. I've
always wished I could try to stop this
from happening so that I could get more
out of the "aftershocks" of an
ejaculation.
It also liked to drip drip after I pee,
too. I heard this can be a symptom of PE.
I can shake it all I want, but well after
(no more than 2-mins at most) it still
drips a little.
To stay on topic: When I first got with my
girlfriend, I used to last 20 minutes, but
somewhere down the line, maybe 4 years in,
that time has been degrading. I am 28
years old, fyi.
It's really been dragging on my mind that
maybe I am developing PE. I barely last
2-3 minutes now.
To let you all know, it also has felt that
our relationship has been growing
stronger, I feel I get more affections out
of my girlfriend than ever before. She
expresses herself well (she is an artist,
after all.) We've been together for 6
years and 5 months now, all of my doubt
about her was erased a few years ago.
Also, nothing has changed with my life,
things are actually going better for me.
So I am not sure why this is happening.
However, last year I developed an
inflamation of the skin in my epidermis
(around my testicals), which I thought was
an STD, but turned out to be caused by a
varicose vein on my scrotum (just to the
left side of my testicals.)
When I went to see a urologist about it,
he asked me some questions, felt my
testicals up, and then sent me home. I
received no kind of treatment for it, and
he just told me to contact him if it ever
caused any more problems, which it hasn't.
I can feel around for it, and actually
touch it, too.
I guess I am not sure where I am going
with my ramblings, but it has me worried,
and am wondering if anyone else has had a
similar
situation.
If nothing at all has changed as you say
the only thing I know of that it could be
is an enlarged prostate. Or it could just
happen with no reason at all I suppose, PE
is a health forum like that.
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Jimmster
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Joined: 21 May 2008 Posts: 29
And more... Posted: 06-22-08 14:25pm
Hi everyone, and thanks for the support.
I haven't been to the doctor yet, but now
that I'm resigned to going, partly excited
because there may be a physiological
reason for me suddenly developing PE
virtually overnight, but partly also wary
that they say all's well and I'm back to
the position of no improvement, it feels a
bit surreal. I still walk around doing my
relaxation technique, and I am absolutely
certain that I do have more control over
my PC than I did, so either there is a
prostate cause that is overriding my
control, or I need to carry on and get a
grip on the psychological side because my
apprehension now about sex is just
overwhelming. I think John 414 mentioned
believing you are going to be in control
is very important for him, and that sounds
right to me, but it can be very hard to
do, especially when you crash and burn
whilst being confident!!!
I meant to ask the forum, has anyone, or
does anyone know of anyone who's PE was
caused by a prostate infection? I believe
it is very difficult to treat, too, so to
know about it may not solve anything. Has
anyone suspected they had a prostate
infection (thinking "great, a reason!")
then been tested negative?
I'm off to the GP tomorrow, but he
probably won't be up on the detail and
will refer to a urologist, so probably
another week before I know anything.
but
hope that helps 
