the Ultimate Premature Ejaculation Discussion

...And to Bravo, thanks for the idea, mate. I think that would help a lot but spontaneous sex has been one of the biggest problems of my married lovelife (15 years) i.e. she NEVER initiates lovemaking. I've given up asking, threatening, pleading and coaxing. If I didn't start it we would never make love. The funny thing is, she never says no and always enjoys it (except now that I'm so upset about PE).

I think it is a good idea for others, though, because I agree that the buildup begins (for me, at least) in the afternoon! LOL

And in answer to Blast, um, right at the beginning, and I can have a rock hard one for ages with no urge to come at all, so, for me at least, they are not linked.

Hi guys.

Quick update for ya, its interesting to say the least...

So, I took my gf out for a meal on Saturday and saving you guys the details we had a good time. When we got back to hers we cuddled and then started play around.

Now I had had a few beers and was in a semi confident mood, but I did the usual and came within a few seconds, but such as it was I forced myself not to blow entirely and was able to continue a few minutes afterwards... blam, again I somehow managed to pull the trigger but again I was resolute not to stand down, third times the charm eh?

Well on this occasion that old idiom seemed to be true, we had sex for about 5minutes and my god was it a relief for both of us, though she didnt' say it at the time, I still left her unstatisfied but I was privatly proud.

She told me tonight, after we tried to have sex (back to the old routine of putting the trousers back on while they are still warm) she was not only outstanded by the fact I could cum 3 times and still (not everytime) be hard but by the sheer quantity of my ejaculate... She's never been with a bloke who cums that much. Now I've no idea how much the next bloke produces but it's got me thinking (a PE sufferers worst nightmare... thinking).

I've also noted that when penetrating my foreskin is pulled right back and my penis head (sorry for being 'graphic') is overly sensitive, its not so much the thought of sex that empties the tanker (though I do think too much), but being overwhelmed with sensation. It wasn't untill the 2nd time I came on saturday night that I felt little senstation which was why I lasted longer.

Any thoughts?

Hi all,

I'm new here and I have to say sorry for my bad english, because I'm not very good ant this language (I'm spanish).

I've been trying to manage PE problem for quite a long time. At te beginning, I was using preservatives with my girl friend and I was able to have sex for 5 / 7 minutes. But now we are not using preservatives any more, because she is taking the pild, and then like I feel so much (or maybe is something phsycologic) I'm not able to spent more than 1 / 2 minutes. After ejaculation, If I try to have sex for the second time after 15 minutes, then I'm able to stay longer, like 10 / 15 minutes.

I'm looking for some book or ebook in order to learn some exercices, have more information, etc. Can anyone tell me some good book you know?

Thanks!

Well the thought of making out with my ex-gf or the action of kissing my ex girlfriend got me hard immediately. I could stay hard and not cum during foreplay, but I cum in 2 minutes with a blowjob and in about 25-30 seconds during sex.

I still dont understand how to know when you are clenching your PC muscle during the day and how to relax it. Would like someone to explain.

I'm also not sure if premature ejaculation can be treated for everyone, its not just mental. The reasons SSRI's work is because it messed with your serotonin levels. Obviously premature ejaculation deals with chemicals in your brain that you can adjust just by thinking about it.

Also, sensitivity has got to be a cause. My head is very sensitive and the more pressure I put on it the quicker I go.

When masterbating, if I put a ton of pressure on the head as if i was entering something extremely tight, even with my PC relaxed for some reason cum just starts squirting out almost 5 seconds later and I cant hold it back no matter what. If I have a looser grip but still with a nice hold on it I can last much longer. Therefore, sensitivity and friction on the head is the #1 cause of me premature ejaculation and I have no clue how to fix that. Anyone?

i'm now sure if there is a cure for that, i mean i would definitely try desensitizing condoms just for starters, see if that does something...


to everyone else also, can you guys let me know what relaxation techniques you guys have tried using and stuff? relaxation is key... I have been working on deep breathing, I have noticed that when inhaling hard, you also do a reverse kegel!! alot of websites say deep breathing is a key to lasting longer.. i wonder if this is why and this is the connection?!?

Great forum. Thanks to all who posted. I have some good and some bad to share.

The bad first: All the advice about age, experience, health/fitness, confidence, etc., is cr@p. Oh, it's probably true for some, and if getting older, getting laid, getting in shape, or getting a grip works for you, then congratulations. But I'm 45, fit and healthy, married 20 years, and nothing has changed since I was 17.

Here's an analogy: If you have a pretty decent metabolism, and you want to get a sexy bod, try this: Work out 45 minutes each morning six days a week, with two or three of those workouts being weights, change up your workout frequently, and cut out a couple of desserts. Inside of six weeks you'll see a noticeably sexier body staring back at you from the mirror! But if you struggle with obesity every day, that advice isn't just ineffective, it's offensive. Similarly, if eight minutes in the sack isn't enough for you, try the start/stop technique, relaxation, and muscle building. But if you're a 10-second spot, the start/stop technique is more like the start/don't start technique. As one earlier poster nicely put it, pulling out for four seconds after every two strokes isn't sex, and she won't stand for it.

I can go a minute from a cold start, but that won't satisfy any woman. A woman needs 30 minutes of foreplay and 10 minutes of pounding, and since I can't provide that, I have to provide something different. I settled into a routine of an hour of providing pleasure with my hands and mouth and 15 seconds of sex before I even met my wife.

Now the good: I've been married for 20 years to a wonderful woman. We have children and a great life together. It can be done. Sexual incompatibility can destroy a relationship just as certainly as religious, intellectual, financial, or any other kind of incompatibility. Be yourself. Try to please your woman as best you can. Don't apologize for being who you are. If sex is more important to her than you are, she will leave you and you'll move on.

If lack of sexual performance makes you feel like less of a man, do something else to compensate: learn to box, or get a black belt. Become a millionaire, war hero, or activist for the people. Buy a fancy car, suit, watch, boat, house, or all of the above. Learn to play an instrument, sing or dance really well. Does it help? Only a little.

hey jsm why would you come on here and tell everyone that if you have pe you need to learn to live with it. I had pe bad and i am doing great now. If i would have followed your advice i would have just lived the rest of my life thinking this is it. BUT i didn't and now i am better than ever, maybe your ok with how you are but some people aren't and they all have a chance

Guys, people have different opinions.

It's like living with a type of cancer. Some learn to live with it, some want to do something about it, and some try but fail.

It's all up to yourself, if you try everything then you will find something that makes you satisfied with yourself. Whether that be a cream, relaxation, or technique.

Hello has anyone out there ever had any success curing PE with any of the Hundreds of ebooks online all promising to cure it with Money Back Guarantees ? If so please state which one.


dj

I want to warn the Other Members here to Avoid that site as i ordered their products last year, not only did NONE of them actually work, but they failed to honor their Money Back guarantee. I contacted them NUMEROUS times over 6 months to recieve my refund and they totally ignored my phone calls and emails. It was not until i threatened them with my Attorney that i FINALLY got my money back.

Their products are worthless and they are scam artists , stay away from these guys !


dj

This would describe My PE as i ejac immediately upon insertion. I have tried Relaxation, PC exercises, Deep Breathing, start stop etc. all to No avail with all the ''conventional'' Methods. It seems that my PE has got Nothing to do with any Mental or Emotional causes , its 100 % Physical.

Its my Opinion that this is the Case with many more guys than People are willing to admit. My PE is the same regardless of My Mental State, its irrelevant. The Problem is an abnormal intensely senstive Penis. There it is plain and simple.

The slightest touch or stimulation to my Penis and im 1 second away from ejaculation. Its instantaneous and totally out of my Mental control. Does anyone know of anything out there that can help guys like Me ?

dj

So far on my trial and error Journey , the ONLY thing that has given me any degree of Results has been Viagra, which although not designed and intended for PE, i find does delay my ejaculation. And once i do Ejac, the forcing of the Erection to stay Hard immediately after means i can engage in Sex for few Mins.


Obviously i would very much prefer a more Natural Solution to this problem, its astounding there are SOOOOOOOOOO many sites out there all promising to have the answer ! So many ebooks, and sooooo many different Herbal Pills, its insane ! Hundreds of different herbal pills all promising the ONLY cure. I think a great service to this group would be to report on all the different Pills out there as far as results.... for instance Climinax and DetainX are by far the most Popular in an Online search....anyone try them out ?


I recently ordered some Herbs from a site named SOLID36.COM which is like a Natural Viagra, claim keeps you Hard for 36 hrs if you wish. they have a very professional mature presentation so i ordered from them...will be testing them out this week with my gf


dj

I have heard mixed things about climinax, but still not enough positives to order it, yet...

can people please respond to my previous post

I ordered CLIMINAX and will be testing it out this week. I have found that Relaxation is only for mild PE it will do Nothing for Severe PE. If the cause of PE is Penile super sensitivity, than obviously relaxation is useless and wont help at all.


I have been VERY Relaxed and in Deep mental tranquility and have found i ejaculate just as quick as if im stressed, literally NO difference. You have to 1st identify if your PE is caused by Mental or Physical causes. Mine is 100% physical as i believe most mens is, but no one wants to admit that and i have a theory as to why that is.

dj

Well I will most likely use a desensitizing condom and stud spray when I have sex because that gets rid of most all sensitivity. Some people complain about not being able to stay hard when they use it, sometimes they just spray too much.

I mean, it's not a cure but I don't mind having to use it and I will live.

and also, I think one of us should take a hit and try this

(edited to remove link)

they say they have a 100% success rate with a clinical trial, and 100% money back guarantee take a look at the site. of all the sites I have looked at this is the one I am most willing to try.

Yes, they are a Popular online product also. To be honest ALL the companies out there offer a Money Back Guarantee ! but the thing is do they actually honor their guarantee ? I have found 1 company that Wont give you your Money back when you ask for it , which makes the guarantee Useless on a computer screen , they can say anything they want yet not back it up


We all Need to start testing these products and reporting back on our Experiences so we can help each other cut through the b.s out there !!!!!

dj

okay guys this is an important post so read it!

I saw the urologist today, at the university of pittsburgh medical center, for all of you that don't know its a very good hospital, and the urologist I saw is very good.

He said he would be willing to perscribe me paxil, but he gave me samples of a product called prolasta. There was a little bit of talk about it earlier on this thread.

He said that he has given it to some of his patients before, and they have had tremendous sex, it is an OVER THE COUNTER, non perscribed drug, so that makes it easy for many of us to aquire. He gave me enough samples for 2 weeks.

So guys, I am going to test it, but the problem is, my girlfriend is not around for another month or so, so I need to test it via masterbation. Could you guys provide a controlled, well thought out scenario in which I should test this? How should I measure its effectiveness??

let me know. once again, the fact that a well known urologist gave me these samples, and said people have had tremendous amounts of sucess with it seems to make it seem like for once, it isn't a sham..