Help.

Aww hun, .I'm so sorry all of this is happening so close to when .Gabe will be here. I'm no good at giving advice on these situations though, I just wanted to let you know .I'm sorry you're going through this & .I'm thinking of you!

.Michelle

Oh Krissy, this must be killing you. I can't believe he told you this right before you are due to give birth. I'm sure he was trying to spare your feelings but it was not a good time to tell you this.

Look I'm gonna be blunt about this...It's probably only gonna get worse after Gabe is born, so you now need to look at your options. do you want to stay with a guy who is only with you because of Gabe? Maybe you guys should live apart and he could help you out? I know your parents are not really help but there are other resources you can look into.

Babies can sense when they're parents are unhappy so it is really not a good environment for them if you guys will be arguing. (Relationships change completely after a child either for better or worse-unfortunately usually for the worst) Trey thrived once I moved out on my own.

you need to sit down with Chris and really talk things over and what you want and have to do.

I'm sending you tons of cyber hugs. I'm really sorry you have to be going through this at one of the times that is supposed to be the happiest of your life.

Thank you, .jess.. it's so hard.. i seriously don't even know what to think & i really didn't see this coming.

he didn't just come out & tell me.. just lately .i've been feeling like there's something wrong & something bothering him. yet, whenever i would ask, he denies it & blah blah blah. well finally, last night, he must've gotten tired of me asking.. or he just realized that i knew something is up & he might as well tell me.. but he told me i drive him absolutely crazy & that i make him insane. i asked him why he was still with me & he said because he loves & cares about me & because he got me pregnant.

gee, thanks.

this morning i wrote him a letter for him to read when he woke up for work. i was kind of awake when he read it, & then i got up to go pee & laid back down & he was about to leave & he almost didn't give me a hug & a kiss goodbye because he didn't know if i wanted him to.

i texted him when he left & we talked a little & i asked him if he was going to break up with me. he said he didn't know, but he's been unhappy for a long time. i asked how long is a long time. he said "before .gabe."



.i want to try to make it work.. because i know he loves me & i know he cares.. but if i really drive him that crazy.. then i just don't know.

i have nowhere to go if we break up. i'll be stuck with my parents for years. because there's no way i can get a good job to pay for my own place. not for a very, very long time.

i guess it's just a lose lose situation.

First of all I am sooo soooo sorry! I'm sure this hit you like a ton of bricks. I'm sure a part of you wants to make it work, but you'll always have in the back of your mind the things he said. This is a tough one especially with your situation. He may change his mind. I broke up with my boyfriend in high school b/c I thought I wanted to be with other people, but 4 years later we reunited and we've been happily married for 1 1/2 years. He may see the light and it'll all work out, if not, it's not the end of the world. You'll get on your feet one day and find someone who will love you no matter what, even when you drive them crazy.

i'm so sorry .krissy,thats a horrible thing to do especially right now.I never saw this coming.explain to him that there are little things about him that bother you too.if he loves you enough he won tlet those things bother him.you need to do what you fel is right.if you don't think ya'll should be together because *you* don't feel rightbeing with him since he feels that way,you do what you need to do hun.this is a horrible spot to be in right now,especialy since you can't stay with your parents.i agree with jess,its on;y gonna get worse when gabe gets here.I really wish I could do something to help you out girl,I really do.come to florida and i'll help! like jess said you need to sit down and talk with him about whats going on. even if you don't saty together,you can do it .krissy! you are a very strong person and I know you can handle it! big hugs girl!

i'm so sorry to hear this krissy. i know what you are going through. however, staying together for the kids never works out. that is what me and neil did cause we believed it is best for kids to have both sets of parents.

it turned into a nightmare. one or both of you ends up resenting the other cause you know you are only together for the kids. me and neil kept fighting like cat and dog because we shouldn't of been together under normal circumstances.

although you love someone you can't suddenly make someone be 'in love' with you. these two are completely different and you need both to be present for a relationship to work.

you could give it a try and see if it works out. maybe having gabe might bring you closer together although 9 times out of 10 it drives you further apart.

it was the hardest thing i did breaking up with neil as i was so scared of being alone but i knew i couldn't let the kids grow up with their parents hating eachother

I am so sorry that you've had such awful news - I think Chris really should have shown enough self control to hold back until .Gabe is born but at least you know where you stand now.

I haven't got anything better to say than the other girls have already said but I just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you and I hope things work out.

Oh my .god .krissy! I'm sooo sorry.

I think, if he gives you a chance to be *not* pregnant, or dealing with some sort of hormonal issue, he'll realize that it's *you* inside of that huge belly! lol...you know what I mean.

We *all* change when we get pregnant. And none of us are the same after we have a baby. But a good 6 months down the road, and you're back to the "old" you.

If he leaves, he'll miss out on not only watching his son make his every movement, but he'll miss out on you.

My brother in law did that to his girldfriend. GOt her preggy, cheated on her at 4 months. Got back together. Witnessed the birth of his child, and still cheated on her. Missed out on *everything* lil .caleb had to offer.
But they had only been together maybe 3 months, before she got preggers. They had never known each other before.

I'm so sorry again .krissy...you are a strong woman, and I know you will pull through. If not for you, for .gabriel. (ps...I can't wait to see hiiiiim!)

I'm always here for you!

Sarah

oh my god krissy i'm sorry, i went to bed lst night and got your message this morning, all i saw was "terra " and i knew something was wrong, i'm sorry i wasn't there!

I can't believe this i love you very very much and you've got lots of support here and we're alllllll here for you! you're gonna make it!!! im so sorry this happened i dunno what to say... i'm just really sorry.

i hope things get better, i hope u can talk them out or at least work on them for your sake because if he loves you then... that's that and he should want to work on things.


i love you krissy!

I'm so so sorry .Krissy. I don't know what to say.. I couldn't believe it when I read this post. I just want you to know that I'm here for you.. we all are.

I love you

<3<3<3

I don't have anything to say that someone else hasn't already said but i'm so sorry.

we're here for you. stay strong for gabe.

please guys don't jump on my a$$...

I think you should both try and talk things through - calmly.
I think you should both try and work things out. - at least try.

for both of you the situation is different now to how it was "before gabe" or even before you got pregnant the first time.

you're both a bit older and your outlooks on life are going to have changed.

You (nor any woman who is about to give birth) are probably not in the best frame of mind to try and mull things over right now.

It's probaly like that wedding night nerves - suddenly everything is iniment and very very real and that's a bit of a shock - even to couples who have been together for a long time/married/planned pregnancy.

you say he's even said that he does love you.
and most long term relationships do not continue in the same passion tht they began - you settle down in to a more "comfortable" and "relaxed" kind of love.

Try the 3 things list.
you each promise not to be offended first
then you write 3 things about the other person that really bug you.
then you write down 3 ways in which they can alter just a little bit - a compromise - not a personality change.
then you discuss those 3 things together and each try to compromise just a little bit.

Just don't throw away something potentially good because one area isn't perfect.
we all have to adapt to lots of different things in life.

look at both sides of the story and try to work something out between you.

I mean even if he isn't 100% happy with how things are doesn't mean he can't be overall happy and doesn't mean that something else would be any better.

While I don't think people should stay together for the kids at all - 2 happy seperated parents are better than 2 parent living together who hate each other.
I do think people should try to work out their problems instead of just dropping all of the relationship.

I am sorry to hear about this love. I hope that you can make the right decision for you, .Chris and .Gabe.



all the best love.

Krissy I am so sorry. Reading that made me want to cry. I can't imagine how you must feel. I hope everything works out okay for you.. Stay strong for Gabe!

ok please dont jump me for this but....


i would ask him if he really wanted to try and work it out right now and tell him dont worry about hurting your feelings that way you get the whole truth and if he says no then let him have his space....if its meant to be then it will work out in the end.

try to stay strong for .Gabe

i just did not want anyone to take it as i was trying to be mean about it.