Well you need to make a decision as to whether you want to continue the pregnancy or not. You have three options: continue the pregnancy and kep the baby, continue the pregnancy and give the baby up for adoption or have an abortion. Time is of the essence and none of these options are easy.

You might find it helpful to post on the 'medical abortion' board if you are considering abortion because this forum is for women who want to keep their babies.

In the first instance, it would be a good idea for you to go and see your doctor for some confidential advice.

I wish you the best of luck.

Jules.

thanks. im against abortion unless its necessary for the mothers life. i want to continue with the pregnancy then not sure. i need time to think about it. i aint told anyone yet who is the best person to tell first? im scared too cos im not strong enough physically to grow a baby im underweight, at risk of my heart stopping, always weak. docs is closed for the weekend, i will have to wait for monday.

Right, well done you for making a decision, now you need to focus on making yourself as healthy as possible for your baby. I know it's not as easy as that when it comes to an eating disorder but I wonder if you can find the strength inside yourself to try and eat a little more for your baby, even if you don't want to do it for yourself? Your body shape will change with pregnancy (as you know) and you won't be able to control that. That's a scary thing for all us women at times but you may find it even harder because of your false body image.

What is your relationship like with your boyfriend? Do you feel safe to talk to him and tell him that you're carrying his baby? If not, how about your mum? She may be shocked at first but hopefully she will support you once she realises you have made your decision wth regards to the pregnancy.

It's a pain that the docs shut at weekends but get an appointment on Monday and talk it through. Do you have a nice friendly doc at your surgery? It's always nice to get someone sympathetic as some docs can be a bit old fashioned and offhand. If you get a duff one then make another appointment with someone else. They should be able to refer you to someone who deals with eating disorders and pregnancy.

Also, keep posting here, there are some lovely girls here who will support you every step of the way!

Jules.

Well all i could say is having a baby isn't easy.its really hard.i hope you find the right decision for you and your baby.im only 17 and have a 10 month old

i had an eating disorder, partially recovered when i fell pregnant with my son. but seeing that i had therapy before hand it was easier for me. i didnt think of eating for me, it was for nourishing my baby, if you do keep your child you will need to seek counseling and a nutritionist and find a really good OBGYN and do let them know of your eating disorder, because of being underweight u might gain more then usual. Do you have medical insurance?

She's from the .U.K so all healthcare is free

well, first of all you need to see a doctor straight away. if you are against abortion then you need to see a doctor because not eating while pregnant could cause you a lot of problems and we all know it's not good for the baby. since you don't know how far along you are you need to go right away.


second, using a condom protects you from getting std's, but it also protects you from pregnancy. so remember this in the future.

you can do this if you choose too, but you have to help yourself in the process.

good luck

oh hehe , i realized she was from the uk after i responded but was unaware of the free healthcare over there, must be nice hehe.

You could start with starting some prenatal vitamins.

Maybe getting pregnant will help you with your Eating Disorder.

good luck to you and keep us all posted

You should start with going to the doctor on Monday, but go out and get some over the counter prenatal vitamins today....because of your eating disorder you should be malnurished which is not a good thing for the baby's development, so you need to start taking them asap, as well as trying to get some help for your disorder not only for the baby's health but for your health as well.

Trying to be brave, I can't stop crying, Im so scared.

I aint told anyone yet, was about to tell my mum when I went downstairs this morning but she was sat with my step dad waiting for me to get up so they could 'have a talk'. They want me to go into a treatment facility for eating disorders. They said they can force me cos Im not 18, Is that true?

Tinkinpink I never had therapy cos I refused when my school tried to get a counsellor in for me. I hate the thought of it. Talking to someone about it when they got no idea what I feel like cos they never went through it. Im scared to let it go and get better too, Im not ready for help. Im sick of having it and scared not to have it. you understand that?

Sunflower_pie81 I have Amenorrhea, we both thought I couldnt get pregnant my doc said If my period stops I dont produce the egg or summat. I aint told no one but my boyfriend my period stopped.

Mommy35 & foxy my mum makes me take iron tablets and a regular multi-vit/min tablet daily is that similar? or do I need something specific?

PurestGreen thanks again. I wanna tell my boyfriend more than my mum now cos she wants to send me to a clinic for weeks or months. I dont wanna get locked up like that. I can see a doc as emergency appointment monday, will he make me go in an eating disorders hospital too? Im scared to see him for that reason, if my mum wants me to, she will get his help to do it.

I aint sure how my boyfriend feels about me, or how hes gonna react to this. He tells me he loves me, hes more into me than I am into him cos I told him many times I dont want a serious relationship yet, but he does.

My mum might want me to get an abortion so I can go into the hospital, and if I dont tell her, she will still make me go to the hospital then they will find out im pregnant and tell her. If its a risk to me, she will want me to abort it.

Im not thinkin straight cos Im stressed panicking crying, Im thinkin of running away. I dont know where. Help

At the end of the day no one can force you to have an abortion, that has to come from you

Hope so cos i aint gonna be forced to do that. I asked my boyfriend on the phone just now what we would do if i somehow got pregnant, he said we would do nothin cos i would lose it from being too thin anyway. so i should expect my period anytime?

Sweetie, if you took a pregnancy test and it came back positive, than you are probably pregnant. You could take another test to be sure.

I guess the chances of you having a miscarriage are high because of your physical condition, but in the meantime you have to take care of yourself and your unborn child. It's good that you are taking vitamins, but the prenatal ones have extra stuff in them that promote good fetal growth, like folic acid.

I'm not sure if a doctor would put you in a treatment facility to help with your .E.D. or not. You certainly have to do something. I understand anorexia and bulemia and the way it makes you feel and the way it makes you see yourself, but you have to eat. If not for you, than for the baby. You have to nourish yourself so you can nourish your baby. If your not able to do that then you need to be someplace that is helping you. It's not going to be easy. You're going to put on weight, it comes with the territory. But I'm sure you will be beautiful!!!

Nobody can force you to abort, so don't worry about that. That is your choice.

I wish you all the best!!!

seriously.

Dont *not* eat just to lose the baby.

you dont believe in abortion, so by the same token you should take care of your body and let that baby thrive instead of purposely making conditions unbarable for that baby.

Yes i know what that is and i know it comes with anorexia....my sister had Amenorrhea and got pregnant 2 times and she wasn't anorexic. So getting pregnant can always happen. you have to protect yourself in the future.

I don't think she said she was going to purposely try and lose the baby, did she? It's not like she has a choice - an eating disorder isn't a lifestyle choice. Maybe I misunderstood you, in which case sorry!

To anorexic-girl: I really don't know if you could be forced to go to a recovery clinic but I'll be honest with you and say that I think it's very possible. I've read stories of anorexic girls being made to go to hospital/clinics because they are so close to death that no other option seems viable. There is a forum here for people with eating disorders so perhaps you could ask there; some of the girls might know more about it.

I agree with those that have said you should start taking pre-natal vitamins. If you go and see your doctor, s/he will give you a prescription for tablets called .Pregaday which contain folic acid and iron - both essential to help maintain a healthy pregnancy. Because of your eating disorder, it would certainly be advisable to take a pre-natal multivitamin though (I found .Pregnacare to be very good and gentle on the stomach). Would you mind taking tablets or would you worry about the calorific content (if any)?

You certainly do have a higher chance of miscarriage because of the anorexia which is why it's so important for you to address this issue now and not be frightened. Maybe this baby has been given to you to help get you better; you have someone else to be well for now and not just yourself. I know that eating disorders are always there, like a bloody devil on your shoulder, but you can get to a point where you can shut out the voice of that devil and be kind to yourself and allow yourself to nourish your body instead of punishing it.

Keep posting, it'll all be ok my love.

it isn't free.
they take the money to pay for it before it even reaches your bank.
You can't choose to pay for it - you pay for it regardless.
unless you are an illegal immigrant that is.

Oh god yeah - we're all taxed to death here