anorexic-girl-with-baby
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Hi
Posted: 03-10-07 03:51am
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I took a clear blue preg test this mornin
cos Ive been throwin up every day the last
2 weeks. It went positive. What should I
do next? Im really scared now. Im 17. I
have a boyfriend but its not serious just
sex and fun. We never use protection cos
we aint been with anyone else so we are
clean and I dont get my period cos of my
eating disorder, occasionally I get cramps
and tiny bit of blood. I dont even
remember when I last had any of that. What
do I do next? I dont know what to think of
this. In shock.
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Jules
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Posted: 03-10-07 04:07am
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Well you need to make a decision as to
whether you want to continue the pregnancy
or not. You have three options: continue
the pregnancy and kep the baby, continue
the pregnancy and give the baby up for
adoption or have an abortion. Time is of
the essence and none of these options are
easy.
You might find it helpful to post on the
'medical abortion' board if you are
considering abortion because this forum is
for women who want to keep their babies.
In the first instance, it would be a good
idea for you to go and see your doctor for
some confidential advice.
I wish you the best of luck.
Jules.
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anorexic-girl-with-baby
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Posted: 03-10-07 04:17am
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thanks. im against abortion unless its
necessary for the mothers life. i want to
continue with the pregnancy then not sure.
i need time to think about it. i aint told
anyone yet who is the best person to tell
first? im scared too cos im not strong
enough physically to grow a baby im
underweight, at risk of my heart stopping,
always weak. docs is closed for the
weekend, i will have to wait for monday.
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Jules
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Posted: 03-10-07 04:32am
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Right, well done you for making a
decision, now you need to focus on making
yourself as healthy as possible for your
baby. I know it's not as easy as that
when it comes to an eating disorder but I
wonder if you can find the strength inside
yourself to try and eat a little more for
your baby, even if you don't want to do it
for yourself? Your body shape will change
with pregnancy (as you know) and you won't
be able to control that. That's a scary
thing for all us women at times but you
may find it even harder because of your
false body image.
What is your relationship like with your
boyfriend? Do you feel safe to talk to
him and tell him that you're carrying his
baby? If not, how about your mum? She
may be shocked at first but hopefully she
will support you once she realises you
have made your decision wth regards to the
pregnancy.
It's a pain that the docs shut at weekends
but get an appointment on Monday and talk
it through. Do you have a nice friendly
doc at your surgery? It's always nice to
get someone sympathetic as some docs can
be a bit old fashioned and offhand. If
you get a duff one then make another
appointment with someone else. They
should be able to refer you to someone who
deals with eating disorders and
pregnancy.
Also, keep posting here, there are some
lovely girls here who will support you
every step of the way!
Jules.
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ANGELOS MAMA
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Posted: 03-10-07 05:01am
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Well all i could say is having a baby
isn't easy.its really hard.i hope you find
the right decision for you and your
baby.im only 17 and have a 10 month old
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tinkinpink84
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Posted: 03-10-07 05:03am
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i had an eating disorder, partially
recovered when i fell pregnant with my
son. but seeing that i had therapy before
hand it was easier for me. i didnt think
of eating for me, it was for nourishing my
baby, if you do keep your child you will
need to seek counseling and a nutritionist
and find a really good OBGYN and do let
them know of your eating disorder, because
of being underweight u might gain more
then usual. Do you have medical insurance?
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Jules
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Posted: 03-10-07 06:24am
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| tinkinpink84
wrote: | | Do you have medical
insurance? |
She's from the .U.K so all healthcare is
free 
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Sunflower_pie81
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Posted: 03-10-07 07:22am
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well, first of all you need to see a
doctor straight away. if you are against
abortion then you need to see a doctor
because not eating while pregnant could
cause you a lot of problems and we all
know it's not good for the baby. since
you don't know how far along you are you
need to go right away.
second, using a condom protects you from
getting std's, but it also protects you
from pregnancy. so remember this in the
future.
you can do this if you choose too, but you
have to help yourself in the process.
good luck
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tinkinpink84
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Posted: 03-10-07 07:42am
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| PurestGreen
wrote: | | tinkinpink84
wrote: | | Do you have medical
insurance? |
She's from the .U.K so all healthcare is
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oh hehe , i realized she was from the uk
after i responded but was unaware of the
free healthcare over there, must be nice
hehe.
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Mommy35
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Posted: 03-10-07 08:52am
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You could start with starting some
prenatal vitamins.
Maybe getting pregnant will help you with
your Eating Disorder.
good luck to you and keep us all posted
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foxy
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Posted: 03-10-07 09:12am
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You should start with going to the doctor
on Monday, but go out and get some over
the counter prenatal vitamins
today....because of your eating disorder
you should be malnurished which is not a
good thing for the baby's development, so
you need to start taking them asap, as
well as trying to get some help for your
disorder not only for the baby's health
but for your health as well.
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anorexic-girl-with-baby
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Posted: 03-10-07 12:03pm
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Trying to be brave, I can't stop crying,
Im so scared.
I aint told anyone yet, was about to tell
my mum when I went downstairs this morning
but she was sat with my step dad waiting
for me to get up so they could 'have a
talk'. They want me to go into a treatment
facility for eating disorders. They said
they can force me cos Im not 18, Is that
true?
Tinkinpink I never had therapy cos I
refused when my school tried to get a
counsellor in for me. I hate the thought
of it. Talking to someone about it when
they got no idea what I feel like cos they
never went through it. Im scared to let it
go and get better too, Im not ready for
help. Im sick of having it and scared not
to have it. you understand that?
Sunflower_pie81 I have Amenorrhea, we both
thought I couldnt get pregnant my doc said
If my period stops I dont produce the egg
or summat. I aint told no one but my
boyfriend my period stopped.
Mommy35 & foxy my mum makes me take
iron tablets and a regular multi-vit/min
tablet daily is that similar? or do I need
something specific?
PurestGreen thanks again. I wanna tell my
boyfriend more than my mum now cos she
wants to send me to a clinic for weeks or
months. I dont wanna get locked up like
that. I can see a doc as emergency
appointment monday, will he make me go in
an eating disorders hospital too? Im
scared to see him for that reason, if my
mum wants me to, she will get his help to
do it.
I aint sure how my boyfriend feels about
me, or how hes gonna react to this. He
tells me he loves me, hes more into me
than I am into him cos I told him many
times I dont want a serious relationship
yet, but he does.
My mum might want me to get an abortion so
I can go into the hospital, and if I dont
tell her, she will still make me go to the
hospital then they will find out im
pregnant and tell her. If its a risk to
me, she will want me to abort it.
Im not thinkin straight cos Im stressed
panicking crying, Im thinkin of running
away. I dont know where. Help 
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 03-10-07 12:27pm
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At the end of the day no one can force you
to have an abortion, that has to come from
you
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anorexic-girl-with-baby
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Posted: 03-10-07 12:49pm
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Hope so cos i aint gonna be forced to do
that. I asked my boyfriend on the phone
just now what we would do if i somehow got
pregnant, he said we would do nothin cos i
would lose it from being too thin anyway.
so i should expect my period anytime?
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Mommy35
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Posted: 03-10-07 14:20pm
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Sweetie, if you took a pregnancy test and
it came back positive, than you are
probably pregnant. You could take another
test to be sure.
I guess the chances of you having a
miscarriage are high because of your
physical condition, but in the meantime
you have to take care of yourself and your
unborn child. It's good that you are
taking vitamins, but the prenatal ones
have extra stuff in them that promote good
fetal growth, like folic acid.
I'm not sure if a doctor would put you in
a treatment facility to help with your
.E.D. or not. You certainly have to do
something. I understand anorexia and
bulemia and the way it makes you feel and
the way it makes you see yourself, but
you have to eat. If not for you, than for
the baby. You have to nourish yourself so
you can nourish your baby. If your not
able to do that then you need to be
someplace that is helping you. It's not
going to be easy. You're going to put on
weight, it comes with the territory. But
I'm sure you will be beautiful!!!
Nobody can force you to abort, so don't
worry about that. That is your choice.
I wish you all the best!!!
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 03-10-07 16:47pm
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seriously.
Dont *not* eat just to lose the baby.
you dont believe in abortion, so by the
same token you should take care of your
body and let that baby thrive instead of
purposely making conditions unbarable for
that baby.
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Sunflower_pie81
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Posted: 03-10-07 18:47pm
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| anorexic-girl-with-baby
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Sunflower_pie81 I have Amenorrhea, we both
thought I couldnt get pregnant my doc said
If my period stops I dont produce the egg
or summat. I aint told no one but my
boyfriend my period stopped.
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Yes i know what that is and i know it
comes with anorexia....my sister had
Amenorrhea and got pregnant 2 times and
she wasn't anorexic. So getting pregnant
can always happen. you have to protect
yourself in the future.
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Jules
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Posted: 03-11-07 01:59am
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| rainfire1424
wrote: | seriously.
Dont *not* eat just to lose the baby.
you dont believe in abortion, so by the
same token you should take care of your
body and let that baby thrive instead of
purposely making conditions unbarable for
that baby. |
I don't think she said she was going to
purposely try and lose the baby, did she?
It's not like she has a choice - an eating
disorder isn't a lifestyle choice. Maybe
I misunderstood you, in which case sorry!
To anorexic-girl: I really don't know if
you could be forced to go to a recovery
clinic but I'll be honest with you and say
that I think it's very possible. I've
read stories of anorexic girls being made
to go to hospital/clinics because they are
so close to death that no other option
seems viable. There is a forum here for
people with eating disorders so perhaps
you could ask there; some of the girls
might know more about it.
I agree with those that have said you
should start taking pre-natal vitamins.
If you go and see your doctor, s/he will
give you a prescription for tablets called
.Pregaday which contain folic acid and
iron - both essential to help maintain a
healthy pregnancy. Because of your eating
disorder, it would certainly be advisable
to take a pre-natal multivitamin though (I
found .Pregnacare to be very good and
gentle on the stomach). Would you mind
taking tablets or would you worry about
the calorific content (if any)?
You certainly do have a higher chance of
miscarriage because of the anorexia which
is why it's so important for you to
address this issue now and not be
frightened. Maybe this baby has been
given to you to help get you better; you
have someone else to be well for now and
not just yourself. I know that eating
disorders are always there, like a bloody
devil on your shoulder, but you can get to
a point where you can shut out the voice
of that devil and be kind to yourself and
allow yourself to nourish your body
instead of punishing it.
Keep posting, it'll all be ok my love.
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Posted: 03-11-07 08:23am
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| tinkinpink84
wrote: | | unaware of the free
healthcare over there, must be nice
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it isn't free.
they take the money to pay for it before
it even reaches your bank.
You can't choose to pay for it - you pay
for it regardless.
unless you are an illegal immigrant that
is.
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Jules
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Posted: 03-11-07 09:02am
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Oh god yeah - we're all taxed to death
here
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