My appointment is tomorrow. I've probably
driven the nurse crazy because I've called
her several times during the day with
questions. I can't help it though. I've
actually never had a medical procedure
before so I'm a bit nervous. Is this a
common feeling for women who are going to
have an abortion?
There is one consolation, though.
Tomorrow this whole, horrible ordeal will
finally be over and we can get on with our
lives. I have not felt anything positive
since the moment I discovered the
pregnancy and that's nothing to say of the
physical exhaustion, nausea, and throbbing
breasts that I've been dealing with the
past few weeks. I'm nervous but very glad
that it will all be over tomorrow.
Thank you to those of you who listened to
me over both of these posts.
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Tylanas
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Re: I'm Anxious. Posted: 03-13-07 02:45am
hill_al
wrote:
My appointment is tomorrow.
I've probably driven the nurse crazy
because I've called her several times
during the day with questions. I can't
help it though. I've actually never had a
medical procedure before so I'm a bit
nervous. Is this a common feeling for
women who are going to have an abortion?
There is one consolation, though.
Tomorrow this whole, horrible ordeal will
finally be over and we can get on with our
lives. I have not felt anything positive
since the moment I discovered the
pregnancy and that's nothing to say of the
physical exhaustion, nausea, and throbbing
breasts that I've been dealing with the
past few weeks. I'm nervous but very glad
that it will all be over tomorrow.
Thank you to those of you who listened to
me over both of these
posts.
Our consolations go out to you
I think you've done a very good thing in
calling the nurse with all of your
questions and staying informed ^_^
You'll be fine! it is a very safe
procedure, and quite common.
I hope you feel better soon!!
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Moo
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Posted: 03-13-07 07:59am
I did feel anxious before my abortion but
I agree with eiri, call the nurse with any
questions you have, it doesn't matter how
many times you do!
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Birch
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Posted: 03-13-07 11:13am
I hope your appointment went well! I was
really nervous beforehand, too.
Going through any medical procedure is
nervewracking!!
I hope you come back on here and let us
know how you are.
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hill_al
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Posted: 03-14-07 20:00pm
Birch
wrote:
I hope your appointment went
well! I was really nervous beforehand,
too.
Going through any medical procedure is
nervewracking!!
I hope you come back on here and let us
know how you
are.
Thanks. I'm doing just
fine. I had some cramping yesterday
afterward but today I took a couple of
tylenol and I've been fine since then. My
husband has been a real sweety, he ordered
in some chinese food and ordered some
pay-per-view movies.
We arrived yesterday early but there were
already protesters there. I was extremely
annoyed by their presence, presumptions,
and gall. One of them, a fat woman in her
30s, brought her children with her, all 6
of them, and they ran toward us when we
got out of the car. They were all young
but it seemed like some of them should
have been in school. They danced around
my husband and I shouting, "mommy, mommy,
don't kill me mommy. Mommy, I'm your
baby, I'm your son. Mommy I'm your
daughter. Mommy I'm your baby boy. Mommy
I'm your baby girl. Mommy let me live.
Mommy I love you already. Mommy my heart
is beating so strong. Mommy you'll braid
my hair one day, it's just like yours.
Mommy you'll teach me to read and write.
Mommy I'm going to take care of you when
you get old. Mommy I'll always love
you."
The oldest boy in the group, who was
probably 8 or 9, ran up to my husband and
said, "Dad, don't let her do it! Daddy,
don't you want me? Dad, don't you love
me? Dad, we'll play baseball in the
backyard together, just you me. Dad,
don't you want to teach me to ride a bike?
Daddy I'm going to be a doctor, you'll be
so proud of me. Daddy don't let her kill
me. Daddy I have your eyes already.
Daddy we'll watch football together."
They were very vicious little brats and
they kept looking back towards the fat
woman who kept smiling and encouraging
them on. We finally wound around them and
then were in the midst of all of the
protesters before we could safely cross
the street and they were even worse than
the coached children.
An older fat man waved a very wrinkled $50
in my face and said, "there's more where
this comes from if you don't homicide your
baby. You need help with the bills, we
can help you just don't go in there today.
You need anything else we can get it for
you just don't homicide your innocent
baby."
When I continued walking an old woman,
probably around the age of my grandmother,
came up and began speaking very gently,
"you know you don't want to kill your
baby, that baby needs you honey. You're
his mother."
But then when I kept walking down the
sidewalk toward the crosswalk she began to
get more irate and in my face. She
started screaming, "you're his mommy,
you're supposed to protect him from
everything, from harm, from death! You're
supposed to give your life for him! How
can you be so selfish?! That baby didn't
ask for you to spread your legs and now
you're going to mu-der him because it's
inconvenient for you! This life is not
for your comfort and pleasure but for the
Lord's! Mu-derer!!!!!"
When she screamed that, the rest of the
protesters rushed around me and I was
afraid that they would do something or
hold me back or hurt my husband or myself.
They were all screaming at once because I
kept trying to walk past them and ignore
them. It was very, very hard to ignore
the things that they were saying and if a
volunteer escort hadn't come up to help
us, my husband would have lost it and
gotten into a fight.
I would have never thought it was possible
for someone my grandmother's age to scream
such profanity at me. I'm still in shock
about that. That, more than anything
else, bothered me deeply. That people are
so concerned about my body that they would
block my path on a busy street and call me
all manner of profane things. That they
think it's any of their goddamn business.
That they think they have the right to do
it. That anyone else thinks this behavior
is acceptable and that women going to a
health center must tolerate it is beyond
me. I still can't get over that. I'm
very angry about it.
When we finally did get into the health
center, the staff was so incredibly
wonderful, respectful, compassionate, and
answered all of my questions. I couldn't
stop telling them "thank you, thank you,
thank you." I said it to everyone. The
front desk people, security, volunteers,
doctor, nurses, secretaries, everyon. I'm
thinking of sending them some baked goods
from this wonderful company that sends
big, packaged goodies. I couldn't be more
thankful of them and for them and for what
they did for me.
When we left, the disgusting protesters
tried to put pamphlets into my hands and
bag. They tried to talk to me about
getting after abortion counseling, as if
I'd ever go to them for anything, ever,
after they put me through all of that.
And I rather don't think I need it. I
feel fine about the abortion, good in
fact. And I doubt that they would be
encouraged by hearing me say what a great
abortion I had. I got the distinct
impression that they wanted me to feel
horrible about it so that they feel
justified in treating me like crap before
I got into the building. They'll get no
justification from me.
Why do we put up with this? It was hard
enough to come to this decision in the
first place without walking through all of
that and having no other option but to
take it, walk through it. I still hear
their voices and see their faces. If I
ever see their faces again, I may have to
slap some sense into them. It was
unneccessary and beyond rude to a place
where I don't think there is a word in the
english language to define it. I'm still
enfuriated about them, the way I was
treated by them.
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Birch
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Posted: 03-14-07 21:34pm
Holy
schiit.
I read your message with a wide open
mouth, shaking my head in incredulous
disbelief.
I am so sorry people are the way they are;
I'm so sorry you and your husband had to
go through that awful mess.
I just, wow, I'm blown away with how
terrible that must have been for you.
Those children!!! Their parents know not
what they do. I am horrified by this.
They clearly do not care about women. And
trying to "buy" you off. It makes me
disgusted.
I can't imagine someone who is truly
prolife who would support these tactics.
What a horror story. I hope that you
continue to tell your story and post it
all over the internet. I want people to
know what reality is. These aren't your
gentle, sensible prolifers, these are
deceptive, manipulative, brainwashing,
aholes.
Best of luck to you, and thanks for
sharing. I'd love to know your general
geographic area, if you felt comfortable
telling me. You could pm me. Thanks so
much for sharing.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 03-14-07 21:42pm
What a horrible experience. I'm so sorry
you were subjected to that! You're a much
stronger person than I am - I think I
would have had a panic attack with those
people swarming me! And shame on
that mother egging her children on for
harrassing you! I couldn't imagine forcing
my child to stand outside a clinic and
teaching her to do such things. What
mother in their right mind would put her
children on that path?
I'm so glad you're feeling better -
emotionally as well as physically. And I
agree with .birch that, if you're
comfortable with it, you should share your
story with others. People should know what
others are capable of.
Good luck, and I wish you and your husband
the best.
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Moo
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Posted: 03-15-07 05:03am
That is terrible, I'm so sorry about the
protestors and using their children (who
probably have no idea what abortion
actually is) is just disgusting.
I'm pleased the staff were good though and
that the abortion went well
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Jules
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Posted: 03-15-07 07:17am
Wow. You never see that kind of behaviour
in this country; I don't think so any
way... Moo, have you ever come across it?
It's crazy!
I can understand that if you feel
passionate about your pro-life beliefs
then you may want to feel you are doing
something to help prevent abortions but
those kind of tactics are simply
disgraceful. It would be far more
constructive to have a stand/stall outside
where women could go and speak in private
if they are not sure about what they are
about to do.
The more I learn about pro-lifers, the
less I think I am one
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Moo
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Posted: 03-15-07 09:53am
PurestGreen
wrote:
Wow. You never see that
kind of behaviour in this country; I don't
think so any way... Moo, have you ever
come across it? It's crazy!
Not one of the women I know or have spoken
to in the UK has had this kind of
behaviour, it's just absurd!
Even if these people are pro-life these
clinics provide birth control etc so they
have no idea about what's going on. It
makes me mad
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hill_al
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Posted: 03-15-07 12:12pm
Birch
wrote:
I'd love to know your
general geographic area, if you felt
comfortable telling me. You could pm me.
Thanks so much for
sharing.
We had to drive into
Houston, Texas, but we live a couple of
hours south of Houston.
The security officer there told me that
they have been receiving a lot of
complaints about this particular group of
protesters. Apparently, they aren't
affiliated with the other group that is
regularly there quietly praying. They
showed up a couple of months ago. The
officer also told me that they aren't the
worse protesters that they have ever
experienced. He told me that they used to
have it far worse than that on a daily
basis in the mid and late 90s. And, he
said that another one of their clinics
several hours away actually have worse
protesters than they do. So, apparently,
it could have been far worse though I
can't imagine how.
As long as they don't come within a
certain number of feet from the front
doors and as long as they don't physically
bar a woman from entering, nothing can be
done and they are free to do pretty much
whatever they please.
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Posted: 03-16-07 17:03pm
Sometimes that happens, that patients must
park across the street, and then the
protestors can do a lot of damage..
Yikes.. I have seen scenes like this, it
is irritating, funny, sad, and awful all
at the same time.
I am so glad that the clinic staff was so
good to you!
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jenn_smithson
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Posted: 03-19-07 11:02am
hill_al
wrote:
Birch
wrote:
I'd love to know your
general geographic area, if you felt
comfortable telling me. You could pm me.
Thanks so much for
sharing.
We had to drive into
Houston, Texas, but we live a couple of
hours south of Houston.
*sings 'It's a small
world after all'*
I live North of Houston. PM me if you
want to talk about anything.
I'm so sorry you had to deal with all of
that crap walking into the clinic. The
only thing I can say is forgive them, they
know not what they do. You're a much
stronger person than I am, I would have
probably been in a fight that day.
Best of luck to you!
Peace,
Jenn
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blue_snafu
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Posted: 03-22-07 15:51pm
Woah.
I'm so glad you made it through and that
you had the support of your husband that
day.
I imagine that if it had been me...gaaah,
>.<
Every time I hear about some of the
tactics supposed pro-lifers use, I'm
shocked and I just hope that other women
out there are able to stay as strong as
you did.
