This Downward Spiral... Is It Over? Posted: 03-15-07 04:41am
Hi. I'm a regular poster on preg. forums
but decided to switch over a bit today
A few months ago 1 or 2, my boyfriend and
I broke up. I'm pregnant and he just wasnt
taking care of himself, he was being bad
towards me and it was just time to get
away. I still talk to him a lot, just
because I'm so scared he is going to hurt
himself, and even after all the terrible
things he has done I care very much about
him. I've been trying to be supportive of
his serious depression and whatever other
mental issues he may have, but I'm angry
over a lot of things and can be cruel with
my words, and sometimes lose that urge to
be understanding. When someone constantly
hurts themselves, attempts suicide, uses
drugs and just flat out digs themself a
hole it is very hard to just sit by and
watch, especially when you are the one to
blame, but can't do anything about it. I
do think though it has finally gotten to a
point where he knows he needs help. it is
so scary for me, because I am just waiting
for that phone call, but he has agreeed to
make some calls with me today, I dont
think it's just depression I think its a
lot deeper than that and I think he needs
an assessment and then some serious
guidance and help , from a professional,
Ive explained 100 times I'm not equipped
to deal with this on my own, and I hope he
finally gets that.
what kind of people should I be calling to
talk to about this?
where do I turn now thats hes willing to
get help and is it covered by ohip?
( i'm in ontario, yay for ohip! )
or will we have to figure out a way to pay
for it all.
I just need guidance as well im kinda
getting in too deep, and I dont wanna
offer him help and then not have the means
to get it for him.
any ideas, thoughts or answers would be
very appreciated.
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Stan
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Posted: 03-15-07 08:08am
First off, you aren't the one to blame for
anything, he makes his own choices
regardless of what you do. Maybe you're
cruel sometimes, but this does not
eliminate the fact that he chose his own
path. My best suggestion would be to
first see if your local mental health
center has a crisis hotline. These are
people you can talk to on the phone and
they can come to your home to talk to you
and explain different possibilities. The
fastest way to get help is for him to sign
himself into psychiatric treatment through
the ER at your hospital. He will stay for
up to three days, more if he seems to be
bad, and then when he is released they
will give him follow up services,
appointments and so forth.
