My husband's been having some real trouble
and his having a duece of a time figuring
out what's wrong with him! He doesn't
want to see a counselor because he doesn't
want to sit and talk to a stranger about
his problems when he can talk to his wife
instead - also he has a really bad picture
of all counselors as people eager to just
prescribe medication, drug people up, and
send them on their merry way.
For years now my husband has periods of
time when he feels angry, sad, or upset
and doesn't know why. Because he doesn't
know why, he's reached a point where he's
practically given up on fixing those
emotions, so instead he goes and plays
video games because they distract him from
those feelings. This leads to him playing
video games well into the night when we
both have to get up fairly early in the
morning and has caused arguments between
us from time to time. It wasn't until
this last 'episode' that he opened up to
me about these feelings he has.
As we discussed it this last time, I think
I was able to reignite hope in him that we
can find a solution to this problem, so
now he's really trying to figure out what
the problem is. Other symptoms that he's
mentioned involve leg tapping (he often
jiggles his legs when sitting, something
I've noticed) and difficulty stopping in
the middle of things (particularly his
video games - even though he knows he can
save and quit and come right back to that
moment later, he has an extremely hard
time pulling himself away if he's in the
middle of a quest or has some goal set in
his mind).
The poor guy is so eager to find a name
for this problem that, the other night
when I was relating his difficulty
stopping to some autistic kids I used to
work with, he was ready to label himself
autistic! I'm sort of leaning toward
dysthymic disorder or possibly cyclothymic
disorder, but I'm hesitant to tell him
it's a mood disorder because the first
course of treatment with such things is
usually drugs, and he's so opposed to
that. Anyone know of any other
possibilities? Or other possible ways
that we can help him cope when these mood
episodes happen?
Thank you so much,
Aggeloi
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paraphobia
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Mar 2007 Posts: 5
Hi Posted: 03-29-07 11:02am
hello im having same problems they are
quick to give people meds but i dont
belive thats the answer ither they also
say its stress too , i hope you get
support and help you need ,i carnt and its
hard
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Aggeloi
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Mar 2007 Posts: 4
Posted: 03-29-07 11:15am
Thanks. Nice to know we aren't the only
ones!
We'll certainly be praying that you find
the help you need and we'll let you know
if we find anything! So far things have
been good for him - it's been a while
since he had a 'down' swing.
Take care!
Aggeloi
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san54
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Dec 2003 Posts: 227 Location: Virginia
Re: Need Help Posted: 03-29-07 11:58am
It is great that he talks to you, but you
cannot help him figure things out. The
counselor doesn't prescribe meds unless it
is warranted. And only shrinks can do that
a therapist cannot. There is nothing wrong
with seeing someone. It helps to talk to
someone you don't know because you
sometimes say things that you wouldn't
tell a friend or loved one. Do you have a
minister or a priest that he can talk to.
He needs to get his feelings out and not
let them build up. He may end up doing
something he regrets in the end. Please
get him to a doctor.
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Lion79
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Joined: 29 Mar 2007 Posts: 307 Location: Sunderland, UK
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Posted: 04-02-07 09:36am
Is it possible for you to go to a doctor
with him? That way, he might feel more
comfortable telling them his problems with
your support.
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Stan
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Posted: 04-02-07 20:17pm
He can always try natural means first
before going the medication route. There
are plenty of herbs and foods that can
boost mood, do some research and have him
try, it won't hurt him.
