Confused And I Hate This..

No, I talked to him. He loves you alot and he said it without thinking. He does want to be with you, but put yourself in his shoes for a second. Could you be with him if you wanted it and he had it aborted? Or lets say you want the baby more than anything but he wants you to abort it. And he said "if you keep it, I wont be with you and I wont claim it either" how would you feel? I think you should feel lucky that he is supporting you because he wants it. He helped you get in this mess, and he wants to help take care of it. Of course you are going to be confused but can you live the rest of your life thinking what could have been if you hadnt have killed that baby? But yet in a way, he does have a right to say he might not want to be with you if you kill it. Your killing his baby too. And even if you can deal with killing the baby, he cant. You should think about him and the baby. Not just you. Please talk this over again with him. You think its for the best for both of you, but he knows whats best.

Im 16 years old im im 3 months pg, if I can handle it, u can... I think that if u had an abortion ud b upset.... U n ur b/f made that baby, and your killing it.. Its a depressing thing.... N I dont see y u would want to do that to your child..

Sorry people but I didnt ask for ur opinions...Im not making a stupid mistake like ruining the both of our lives..Im sorry but im not doing it. I dont know yall..And if u say its wrong ok thats ur opinion but theres no way in hell I can have a kid...I love my boyfriend and I love myself and I want us to do it the rite way.....Not like this. Thats caca. I do respect how he feels and want whats best for both of us.....Im not thinkin about myself. Actually ..I think about him more than I think about myself.

Whatever whitney...

Ok now, be nice, even on the boards!

Sweetcheeks...Calm down honey. If ppl want to be mean, let them be, dont mind them.

As for santacruz..Dont be mean to her in public like that. Disagreement is one thing, putting a blame or shame or guilt on ur loved one is another...Be calm, let yourselves be civil and just talk things out, there is really no point to point fingers now, just sit down have some tea or coffee, talk about what each other wants, for yourself, for the baby, for her, ...Etc... And try to compromise. If neither one of you can compromise, then there is no point wasting each other's time right?

But like I told sweetcheeks "if two people truly love each other, there is never a time where enough is enough" think about that

think about why u two fell in love with each other, think about if you two are gonna spend the rest of the ur lives together, if yes, good, then work things out.

Well, sweetcheeks, the way I see it, if you did not want a baby, then you should have kept your legs closed, and thought about it before having sex, I mean come on now, you can't be that ignorant!!!!!!!!!! You new what caused you to get pregnant, so you should not have done it. I have to agree with your boyfriend. If you don't want it, have the baby and let him raise it, afterall, it is his baby to. I think he should have a sayso in this as well.




lhileman

p.S. Sweetcheeks,
you said that there were no way that you were going to destroy you life or your bf"s life, but yet, you are willing to kill an innocent living baby. Hun I think you got your priorities messed up, your parents gave you the chance to live, but your willing to commit homicide! That is god's place, not yours!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Why kill an innocent baby? Why not put the baby up for adoption if you think you cant handle 'it' at least itd have a chance to live

**lyingdownalone**

[quote="lhileman"]...The way I see it, if you did not want a baby, then you should have kept your legs closed, and thought about it before having sex, ...


It not even like that... Whitneys and I are just kicked off our feet at this time. And plus this is all to new to us. What happen... Happen you dont have to make her feel bad about it. And I cant take it back and so cant she... I tryed you tryed everyone tryed whitney just not listenin...

Im very surprised about the posts reguarding killing a fetus..And the comment about closing the legs....Abortion is a personal thing, and it should be left that way. Adoption is overrated ..It is estimated that in the year 2002, over 160,000 children were put up for adoption..And only 102,000 children were adopted...So 58,000 children will be raised in group homes until they are 18 and then are no longer the states responsibility. There is no guarantee that your baby will be adopted...And even scarier, 1 out of 6 kids raised in group homes for over 5 years, are likely to become suicidal. So whats better no pain and suffering in the womb, or 18 years of pain, abandonment, and suffering...And then taking your own life...He should have a say, but you are the one that will have to live with your decision. You are not married, except for child support, he is not responsible for anything else. He will not be legally required to give birth, change diapers, breast feed, put the baby to sleep, rock the baby when its crying, watch the baby so you can go to work/school/out, he will not be liable in anyway for the baby except for a monthly payment. He will not be responsibe for the decision...You will...Do what is best for you and you alone...You can't make someone stay...They have to decide that for themself. Live your life. That is why you are here. If both of you want be loving parents, you should both realize that waiting until you are both ready will be best..That way the baby knows it is equally loved and desired. Good luck- I hope I have provided some insightful comments and not unwanted opinions.

Hisweetcheeks,
I just want to apologise to you for being so hard this morning. I am so sorry, I just hope you can forgive me, will you please? I just want a baby so bad, and I can't have one, so this is just such a very sensitive topic for me. I have no right to judge you, for I do not know you. Whitney, I am truly sorry. Please accept my apology.



lhileman

The national council for adoption estimates that 1.3 million couples are waiting to adopt a child. Yet each year, while 1.3 million children are being killed by abortion, less than 50,000 new children are made available for adoption. This means that for every new adoptable child, thirty others are killed. For every couple that adopts, another forty wait in line. See two of the many websites available to find profiles of prospective parents wanting desperately to adopt: www.Parentprofiles.Com ; www.Adopting.Org/private.H tml. Unfortunately, most women with unwanted pregnancies are not given accurate information about the adoption alternative.