About to Lose the Love of My Life! Help!! Posted: 03-23-07 00:12am
Hi, I'm relatively new to this whole thing
but I have a big problem and was hoping
from some outside advice. I'm with the
absolute love of my life right now. He's
sweet, caring, giving...everything a girl
could ask for. We've been together for two
years. Lately Ive been having a terrible
attitude issue. Its actually been going on
for a while and we've had a break up
because of it. Things cooled down and
we're back together, but its very obvious
that I'm not better, and my constant
nagging, starting stupid fights, and being
negative is taking a terrible tole on our
relationship. I often times find myself
bringing up issues we've had in the past,
like him breaking up with me, and although
we realized we want to be together, I'm
still holding a grudge. Not to mention,
while broken up, he kissed another girl.
That hit me pretty hard, and I just cant
seem to move past it despite the fact that
he literally beats himself up over it
because he feels so terrible that he hurt
me. He's getting sick of the fighting and
I cant blame him. I dont know why I keep
starting petty fights and acting this way.
I'm miserable without him, and if we do
break up, I only have myself to blame. I
love him with all my heart, and I DO NOT
want to mess this up. Why can't I control
these behaviors and emotions!?!?! I've
gone through a lot of hard times, losing
my mother to cancer when I was 17, and my
brother to a boating accident a year and a
half later (I am now almost 20). Anyone
with any suggestions or tips to help me
out, please let me know.
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matt182
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Feb 2007 Posts: 93 Location: Australia
Posted: 03-24-07 04:40am
For every action there is a cause, im sure
those past event can be attributed towards
it, im sure a psychologist would be very
helpfull.
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v00d00cita
Advanced Support Team
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Posted: 03-24-07 06:56am
Well.. there's always hope, right?
Sometimes it's better for people to break
up - I can speak for myself.
My grandma and grandpa died of cancer as
well and that affected me too, so I can
understand you. There's so much you can do
for them, for example. Is there any cancer
hospital or association near you? You can
give them help as a volunteer and give
things you don't use that can be useful to
them That will make you
feel better and you'll be helping. When
you start feeling better, the other things
will seem easier to deal with, okay? :*
Have a conversation with you bf, if you
haven't and straight things up! Be strong!
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brookster29
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Aug 2006 Posts: 28 Location: ,
Posted: 03-24-07 12:21pm
Thanks guys....I'm confident I can turn
things around. I'm really going to try my
hardest.
