Can't Get On Pills ... Are Condoms Really Safe Enough? Posted: 04-03-07 08:21am
Me and my boyfriend just recently decided
that sometime soon we want to have sex.
He's a virgin, and he's very nervous about
the whole thing. Especially the
possibility of getting pregnant which
worries me as well. I'm not able to get on
birth control pills right now to pay for
them because I don't have a job and I
don't want to ask my mom to drive me
because she's very strict and doesn't
agree with sex before marriage. My resort
to go to now is condoms, but everyone says
they're very very risky. Are they safe
enough to use??
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Tylanas
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Re: Can't Get On Pills ... Are Condoms Really Safe Enough? Posted: 04-03-07 10:29am
BeautifulLiesx3
wrote:
Me and my boyfriend just
recently decided that sometime soon we
want to have sex. He's a virgin, and he's
very nervous about the whole thing.
Especially the possibility of getting
pregnant which worries me as well. I'm not
able to get on birth control pills right
now to pay for them because I don't have a
job and I don't want to ask my mom to
drive me because she's very strict and
doesn't agree with sex before marriage. My
resort to go to now is condoms, but
everyone says they're very very risky. Are
they safe enough to
use??
If you use them properly they are very
safe. The most important thing is to make
sure that he stops right after he
ejaculates and takes the condom off right
away. If you haven't orgasmed it's okay,
put on another condom or switch to
oral/fingering!
I used condoms for five months until I was
able to get on birth control. I didn't get
pregnant
I can understand your difficulty with
getting to a clinic. My closest clinic
used to be 30 minutes away via car.
Fortunately I can now walk to one if I
really need to, then again I also have a
car now.
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 04-03-07 10:46am
I would also suggest that you get a dose
of plan b to have on hand just in case
something does happen. That way you won't
have to panic, you will have everything
you need to give you peace of mind. That
will make the whole experience better.
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Posted: 04-03-07 12:29pm
Latex male condoms (the most common kind)
aren't all that risky in my opinion
(female condoms are not as effective as
male condoms). When used as intended
(which isn't hard to do), they are almost
as effective as the pill. The problem,
however, is that a lot of people don't use
them correctly. Same thing with the pill
though. A lot of people don't take that
as intended either. Obviously, neither
one is going to as effective if it isn't
being used like it's supposed to be used.
We can't blame that on the condom or the
pill though. That does not make them
risky. It isn't their fault that people
don't use them right!
Condoms often come with spermicidal
lubricant. This, hopefully, acts as extra
protection. Its job is to kill any sperm
that might leak out.
I have used many condoms, often as my sole
method of birth control. I have never had
a problem. I have never been pregnant,
and I have never had one break.
To get the most out of your condom:
1. Read the directions
2. Keep them around room temperature.
Even your pocket is too hot for them!
3. Don't reuse condoms
4. Check expiration dates
5. Throw the condom away right after he
ejaculates. If you want to continue sex,
get a new condom. A condom filled with
semen is slippery inside and may slip
right off.
6. If you want to add lubrication, make
sure it says that it is water based.
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Posted: 04-03-07 15:44pm
You have many more options than just
telling your Mom. You can get several
types of birth control pills at planned
parenthood for next to nothing. Also, call
your local health department. If you don't
have a job they will normally give you at
least a depo shot for free. I'm guessing
they will do the same for pills. There are
MANY more options out there than just
pills, and frankly a few of them are
safer.
Lastly, I would not recommend only using
condoms. Though it is tempting, it isn't
recommended to only use one type of birth
control, as accidents do happen quite
frequently. The statistics that you hear
regarding any medication are only if
correct if the medication was taken under
the supervision of medical professionals
in a medical facility. They are not a
representation of the actual use by the
public, which is in fact a much lower
effective rate.
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Posted: 04-03-07 21:21pm
gobucks21
wrote:
You have many more options
than just telling your Mom. You can get
several types of birth control pills at
planned parenthood for next to nothing.
Also, call your local health department.
If you don't have a job they will normally
give you at least a depo shot for free.
I'm guessing they will do the same for
pills. There are MANY more options out
there than just pills, and frankly a few
of them are safer.
Lastly, I would not recommend only using
condoms. Though it is tempting, it isn't
recommended to only use one type of birth
control, as accidents do happen quite
frequently. The statistics that you hear
regarding any medication are only if
correct if the medication was taken under
the supervision of medical professionals
in a medical facility. They are not a
representation of the actual use by the
public, which is in fact a much lower
effective rate.
Her problem is that she has no way to get
around town... her bf can get condoms, but
he can't get her birth control or a pap
smear XD
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Posted: 04-04-07 19:39pm
Condoms are very risky because they
break.
I would say to use a "Today sponge" with a
condom, that way you are double
protected.
The today sponge is a sponge with
spermicide inside of it, and it kills
sperm.
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Posted: 04-05-07 15:45pm
Just make sure you use them exactly how it
says on the box, me and my boyfriend used
a condom everytime and now i'm 28 weeks
pregnant, back it up with spermicide to be
on the safe side
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