I'm in quite a dilemma... My daughter is 5
months old this month (19 weeks) and my
husband said he's ready to start trying
for another! I want more kids, but I don't
know if I'm ready so soon after having our
first. My husband didn't want to have kids
right when I wanted to get pregnant for my
daughter last year but he decided to try
and here we are. Now I feel like it's my
turn to give in and try for a baby b/c he
did it for me and he doesn't regret it and
I know I won't either. What to do....
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 04-03-07 13:01pm
Were you able to get everything sorted out
with your health? I think that should be
your number one priority.
Are you agianst having a child right now,
or did you just think that you wanted to
wait longer between children?
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megums1211
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Joined: 27 Feb 2006 Posts: 883 Location: Ohio
Posted: 04-03-07 13:03pm
I just thought I wanted to wait longer.
I'm having surgery to remove the mass on
my pancreas, if that's what you mean. It's
a laser surgery. i'm having it in 2 weeks.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 04-03-07 13:11pm
Id wait until you feel ready..It is much
much harder with 2 then it is with one and
if you are the primary caretaker then you
need to feel 100% ready for it. Your body
isnt even totally healed from being
pregnant before.. If you do decided to do
it then awesome for you but i really think
you need to feel totally and completely
ready first.
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megums1211
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Joined: 27 Feb 2006 Posts: 883 Location: Ohio
Posted: 04-03-07 13:14pm
vanessalouanne
wrote:
Id wait until you feel
ready..It is much much harder with 2 then
it is with one and if you are the primary
caretaker then you need to feel 100% ready
for it. Your body isnt even totally
healed from being pregnant before.. If you
do decided to do it then awesome for you
but i really think you need to feel
totally and completely ready
first.
yeah, I am a stay at home mom now. my
husband gradutes in may and he got a job
as an executive at the hospital here. So I
am the primary caregiver. I am not 100%
ready.... how do I tell him?
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 04-03-07 13:19pm
hahah pleade the case for your mental
sanity..?
Or id do some research on the effects of
having children so close together..on your
uterus ect. show him yes people do it and
yes its possible but look at how harmful
it could be to my health..plus tell him
you enjoy sleep and for his saftey and
wellbeing you shouldnt be any more
deprived from it
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 04-03-07 13:19pm
I remember you having some concerns about
pancriatic cancer. I just wanted to see
how that was going. I'm glad to see that
they have things under control.
If you did decide to begin ttc and got
pregnant striaght away (just for the sake
of argument) your children would be almost
a year and ahalf apart. Do you think that
you would be able (or want) to handle
that? Do you think you would resent your
husband at all?
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Posted: 04-03-07 13:32pm
My brother and I are very close in age,
and my mom has told me that when she was
pregnant with my brother she looked at me
and thought that I was so old and mature
and that I would be able to help her out
so much. Well when he was finally born,
she realized quickly that I wasn't going
to be as much help as she thought. How
could I at 18 months old?
She has told me that she wouldn't change
anything for the world, but when its my
turn to have kids, she would recomend
spacing them a little further than she
did.
However, I love being so close in age with
my brother. We always were close (as we
got older). I thought we would kill each
other when we were younger though.
I think that if you are going to be the
primary care giver then you should be 100%
ok with the idea of having 2 very young
kids. If you think it might be to much,
then I would talk to dh about your
concerns and maybe come to an agreement
that you would like to have more kids, but
would just like to wait a while.
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megums1211
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Joined: 27 Feb 2006 Posts: 883 Location: Ohio
Posted: 04-03-07 18:28pm
mc4ever02
wrote:
I remember you having some
concerns about pancriatic cancer. I just
wanted to see how that was going. I'm glad
to see that they have things under
control.
If you did decide to begin ttc and got
pregnant striaght away (just for the sake
of argument) your children would be almost
a year and ahalf apart. Do you think that
you would be able (or want) to handle
that? Do you think you would resent your
husband at all?
Yeah, the cancer is under control. I am
having surgery and they don't think
radiation is neccessary.
I was originally thinking that I wanted to
have my children 3 years apart. Like,
start trying when she's 2, then maybe I
won't have 2 in diapers.
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