Well.

awe hunny, i wish i was here for the last couple days to help but i was in victoria with my grandparents inlaws (that sounds odd) anyways things will look up, they always do... theres always a soft spot at the end of a bumby road

I am so sorry that you are going through this. Did he move far? Have you discussed if he is going to come visit...or is that just to much to think about right now?

~Big Hugs~

he isn't moving far. he's moving back into the trailer he owns. its just 10 minutes or so away. i'll see him tomorrow. gabe has a doctor's appointment & i want him to be there for those types of things. it's just going to be so hard seeing him. he said he'll take .gabe for the day anytime i need a break or anything, & i said he can come see .gabe anytime he wants. so. yeah.


i just need to figure out how to set up child support, now.

It is going to be hard to see him, but it is a good thing that he will be invoilved in .Gabe's life. And he will be close enough if you really need him. Have you decided if you want to go after him legally for child support or if you want to work out personal terms and get it noterized?

see, i have no idea what any of that even means, lol. i am so clueless as to what i should do or what i have to do? i didn't know there was more than 1 kind of child support?

i'm so sorry. i'm really hoping things will work out.

be strong for gabe.

It is all the same. It kinda comes down to the individual relationship. I will always suggest that you go legally. That is were you will have a setlement decided by the court as to how much he pays, when he pays, and how he pays. That is also when you will probably set up some visitation schedules. (though that is not mandatory).

However, if you have a good trusting relationship with him. And you know that he will pays what he promices to pay or you think he will change somehow if you take it legal (manipulative, yes) then you might want to concider just sitting down and figuring out what you feel is best for the both of you. It will be in your best intrest to have it in writing and to have that noterized.

It really is a personal choice.

well i know he said he wants to go through the court for child support, just in case anything were to ever happen between us & go sour. so we're definitely doing it legally, i think.

but we aren't going to mess with custody right now. if he or i ever feel the need to do that, then we won't hesitate. but i don't see a need for it right now.

Custody is not mandatory. That is something that you elect (or are forced) to do if you can not work out a schedule that you can both agree on. It is very mature of him to realize that it should be handled through the court.(Most men will try to avoid this) Things can turn quickly when there is money involved. I hope you are feeling better soon.

~Another Big hug~

.Krissy, i am going though this too! i am considering going to the DHS office and getting the child support in order...mike would have no idea its coming. im sick of his excuses telling me he doesnt have money for traces medicine...because before we broke up i would find reciepts and things he bought and he hid in his car...then he would tell me he didnt have money for traces things...it drives me nuts. so i really dont know what to do, i feel like he will hate me if i go get the paperwork, he will just want to give me payments, but i dont trust him to do that. ugh, what a crappy situation.

nat, definitely get some child support from his ass! it sucks really bad, but at the end of the day, we have to do what's best for us & our sons, ya know?

how are you holding up?

i hate that we're having to go through this.

I'm so sorry, .krissy. Gabe is so lucky to have a mother as strong as you. I hope things work out between you and .chris, but if not I know you'll turn your sadness into determination.

We're always here. Always.

Feel better Krissy!! You know we love you.

Take care of yourself.

You never know what strength you have until you are forced to use it.

*hugs* .krissy, I'm sorry he moved out. Hopefully he'll realize how much he really does love you once he's gone for a bit. Sometimes you don't know a good thing until it's gone. Try to hang in there, and you can make it through this!

i'm really dreading tonight.

going to bed alone, sleeping alone, waking up alone.




.he texted me earlier & he said he was feeling really down, & i asked him why, & he was like "because of us."

*sigh*

Sometimes a seperation after all the stress that the two if you have gone through can put some true light on your relationship to focus on what is right for the both of you. To start a fresh either as really good friends for Gabe's sake or to put the spark back in what the two of you had. Only time will tell. During your quite times try to find something to keep your self busy that does not relate to the two of you. Sewing, painting, or what ever might help you let your mind escape the thoughts that are going through your mind right now. I built a doll house that took me 3 months to build during my seperation it really helped me put my mind somewhere else when it was not on the kids that is. You will get through this I promise it's a tough road but remain strong for Gabe he needs you more then anything right now. From someone that has been through the divorce process with children if you ever just need to vent, talk or ask anything you can tak to me as well I will try to help you where I can. Keep your chin up it will get better I promise.

aw Krissy im so sorry. i wish there was a magic button to fix stupid sh*t that clouds our happiness