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Things That Make You Go Hmmm.... :? Posted: 04-09-07 11:47am
In a couple of the news forums that I
belong to, this situation was discussed at
length and I was curious to see what you
ladies think about this matter (I'll link
to a site with the pictures for those of
you who haven't seen them on the news)...
NEW YORK - A couple can proceed with a
lawsuit against a fertility clinic they
filed after the wife gave birth to a
daughter whose skin they thought was too
dark to be their child, a judge has ruled.
Thomas and Nancy Andrews, of Commack,
N.Y., sued New York Medical Services for
Reproductive Medicine, accusing the
Manhattan clinic of medical malpractice
and other offenses. They claim the Park
Avenue clinic used another man’s sperm
to inseminate Nancy Andrews’ eggs.
Three DNA tests — a home kit and two
professional laboratory tests —
confirmed that Thomas Andrews was not the
baby’s biological father, state Supreme
Court Judge Sheila Abdus-Salaam quoted the
couple as saying.
The couple says that they have been forced
to raise a child who is “not even the
same race, nationality, color ... as they
are,” the judge said in the ruling.
The lawsuit, which seeks unspecified
damages, came to light Wednesday after the
judge issued a decision that allows them
to proceed with parts of the lawsuit while
dismissing other parts.
The judge quoted the couple as saying that
after their daughter, Jessica, was born
Oct. 19, 2004, they knew something was
wrong because of her physical appearance.
They say that “while we love Baby
Jessica as our own, we are reminded of
this terrible mistake each and every time
we look at her; it is simply impossible to
ignore,” the judge’s decision said.
The judge, in her ruling made public
Wednesday, dismissed the claims against
Dr. Martin Keltz, who had advised the
procedure and had performed the embryo
implantation.
She allowed the case to proceed against
Dr. Reginald Puckett as owner of the
clinic but threw out the case against him
as an individual.
In trying to have the lawsuit against
Puckett dismissed, his lawyer, Martin B.
Adams, told the court that Puckett “did
not examine, communicate with, care for or
treat plaintiffs.”
The judge found Carlo Acosta, the
non-physician embryologist who processed
the egg and sperm for creation of an
embryo, also could be held liable.
The couple’s lawyer, Howard J. Stern,
did not immediately return a telephone
call for comment.
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candita_sky
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Posted: 04-09-07 12:00pm
they are forced to raise her... mistake
everytime we look at her?....
she is still the mothers child regardless
of the clinics mishap sounds like they
shouldnt be parents. I would love this
child nomatter what and not take it out on
the child I am raising a mixed raise child
and I love her no matter what color she is
even if she is dark and i'm dayglo white.I
feel bad for the parents but they
shouldn't look at her as a mistake but as
a gift from god.
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Posted: 04-09-07 12:32pm
sadie lynn
wrote:
they are forced to raise
her... mistake everytime we look at
her?....
exactly what I was
thinking! who says that kind of thing
about their child?obviously their lucky to
have her because she had to get
artificially inseminated(sp?).the woman
could have *not* gotten pregnant just as
easily so she should feel lucky to have
her no matter what!
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 04-09-07 12:41pm
I understand their anger about the sperm
mix-up. But their comments were
thoughtless, cruel and frankly
unrealistic. How is her child going to
feel about being called a mistake? How is
her child going to feel knowing that her
own mother didn't even view her as her own
daughter even though she still shares half
of her dna? A child of her husband's
sperm could have come out every bit as
dark as the little girl that they now
have. I'm dominican and I understand
quite a bit about dominicans and skin
color. My mother is lighter than that
woman and I am darker than both my mother
and father. And when they say that
little girl looks nothing like them,
they're lying she looks almost exactly
like her older sister except she's darker.
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Posted: 04-09-07 12:44pm
tigresacanela24
wrote:
And when they say that
little girl looks nothing like them,
they're lying she looks almost exactly
like her older sister except she's darker.
so very true,I*just*
looked at the pic and honestly she also
looks like the mom,just darker.SHe is a
cute little girl and they should be
overjoyed! a person is a person,no matter
then skin color!
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 04-09-07 12:50pm
~*~Melissa~*~
wrote:
tigresacanela24
wrote:
And when they say that
little girl looks nothing like them,
they're lying she looks almost exactly
like her older sister except she's darker.
so very true,I*just*
looked at the pic and honestly she also
looks like the mom,just darker.SHe is a
cute little girl and they should be
overjoyed! a person is a person,no matter
then skin
color!
I honestly don't blame them for suing
about the sperm mix up but I think that
they could have handled the whole
situation better. And for her
particularly to say such effed up things
about her own daughter is criminal. I
feel like looking up their number and
telling her that if she thinks it's so
terrible to have a child that looks like
Jessica, then I'll take her because I
think she's gorgeous.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 04-09-07 12:52pm
i'd be mad too, i completely understand
why they're sueing, but those comments
were wrong. poor
girl.
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Posted: 04-09-07 13:10pm
tigresacanela24
wrote:
~*~Melissa~*~
wrote:
tigresacanela24
wrote:
And when they say that
little girl looks nothing like them,
they're lying she looks almost exactly
like her older sister except she's darker.
so very true,I*just*
looked at the pic and honestly she also
looks like the mom,just darker.SHe is a
cute little girl and they should be
overjoyed! a person is a person,no matter
then skin
color!
I honestly don't blame them for suing
about the sperm mix up but I think that
they could have handled the whole
situation better. And for her
particularly to say such effed up things
about her own daughter is criminal. I
feel like looking up their number and
telling her that if she thinks it's so
terrible to have a child that looks like
Jessica, then I'll take her because I
think she's
gorgeous.
I agree.I'd be pissed to
btu how they're acting is just inhumane
and pathetic.that poor little girl.I
wonder what she thinks about all this
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Posted: 04-09-07 13:48pm
Wow, those comments were completely
uncalled for. There are tons of different
color skin tones for hispanics. My hubby
is from a family of 8 kids, and not 1 of
them have the same exact color as the
other. They all have the same parents too.
How can they, especially the mother think
of her as a mix up? That is *her* dna!!!
As well as the other little girls sister!
I bet she doesn't care that this poor
little girl is a bit darker! Geez, that's
sickening. I can understand the right to
sue them, they have every reason to, but I
don't think it's right for them to make
comments like that about their own child.
Adriana looks nothing like me and I'm sure
when people in the store see us together
and think "where did she come from?" but I
could care less, because she is *my* baby!
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Mommy35
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Posted: 04-09-07 14:44pm
She does look a lot like her sister.
I can understand why they are upset, but
have some class and stop making comments
about the little girl being a mistake.
Like she doesn't feel that??? I'm sure it
must be a let down for a white man and a
fair skinned Hispanic woman to give birth
to a darker skinned baby. The mom does
have dark skin. There are plenty of white
people that adopt babies from other
countries. I don't even think most people
blink and eye at it anymore. There are
plenty of women out there that would jump
at the chance to have her.
Let me build you a bridge, so you can GET
OVER IT!!!!!!!!!!!!
poor
girl.
