Need Some Advice...going Crazy Posted: 04-09-07 12:46pm
Hello,
This may be all in my mind but I need some
advice. I am married (nearly 20 years) I
had unprotected sex twice with women other
than my wife. Once 13 years ago and again
4 1/2 years ago. I am in generally good
health. I think I had maybe two sinus
infections in the last 4 1/2 years.
Currently I have had ongoing headaches (in
the temple areas) for about 4 months.
There is a slight bit of sinus congestion
from time to time. My sinus doctor
suggetested getting my eyes checked which
I did. I did indeed need glasses since I
stopped wearing glasses when I was 13.
Additionally I went to the dentist for the
first time in about 5 years thinking I may
have a TMJ issue. The dentist seems to
think that may be the cause of my
headaches in that area. She also
recommended seeing a chiropractor incase
my neck alignment may be off. She was
right. I am currently seeing the
chiropractor (after about 2 months) once a
week for adjustments. The dentist gave me
a night guard to wear because she thought
I may be clenching my jaw due to stress. I
feel she is right. This all seemed to
start when I started feeling incredible
guilt over my actions. I have kept all of
this to myself for all this time. I know I
will never commit these acts again. I
guess what I want to know is.... does a
long term headache mean I could have
contracted something from one of these
encounters. Or am I just killing myself
from the guilt. I am so scared to get
tested. Does any of this make sense or am
I just being peranoid ? Thank You for your
time.
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 04-09-07 15:10pm
We can't tell you if you got anything from
those encounters or not. The symptoms for
HIV are the same as symptoms for lots of
other things. Also, people often go years
without any symptoms. Many people have no
symptoms at all when they test positive.
That means the only way that you will know
is to get tested.
I suggest going to your doctor and being
as open and honest as possible. Tell him
any symptoms you are having just so that
he can make a note of it. Ask about an
HIV test and ask if there are any other
tests that he would recommend.
I sincerely hope that you have learned
something from all of this and also that
your wife does not end up paying for your
mistakes. It sounds like you really might
have put her at risk here, which isn't
fair to her. Maybe couples counseling
would help you two and your stress and
guilt.
