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TheLastDay

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Help Please
Posted: 04-09-07 18:59pm

So, I'm an 18 year old guy and I'm really struggling to find a girlfriend. In my 4 years at high school, I've only talked to girls a dozen times. Every time I try, I get really depressed afterwards because I feel like a failiure. Everyone seems to a have a girlfiend except me. I've never even held a gir's hand. Prom is comming up and that just makes me feel ever more depressed. Sad

So, anyhow, there's this girl in one of my classes who I really like. Heck, I even record her voice with my Ipod... Every time she walks by, I just can't take my eyes of her. Whenever I get lucky enough to sit next to her, I'm on top of the world. Then, whenever I don't sit next to her, i get really depresed soemtimes with suicidal thoughts.. Sometimes she smiles at me and other times it feels like she's avoiding me .

Lots of other people seem to be having luck with her and that just really annoys me. I can't help but wonder what these people have that I don't.

I started having the crush on her at the beginning of the year and I've been working out a lot but that hasn't really gotten me anywhere.

School ends in another 2 months and I feel like I just couldn't go on.....

Any ideas?
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The Godly One

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Joined: 02 Jan 2006
Posts: 76

Posted: 04-10-07 05:41am

The reason that you will have no luck with her is that you are suffering from a temporary form of INSANITY. It is the type of romantic love that is closely linked to OCD.

With this "Prom" coming up you sound like you are in the US. There is no such hype about such a thing in my Country.

My advice would be to accept that you are not thinking in a way that a sane person does, and that it is temporary. There are ways in which you can very easily get over such a female with basic cognitive therapy techniques. You would have to read into them yourself. Because you are feeling suicidal, I would very seriously consider medication. As I say, you can find studies linking OCD with this type of experience and OCD can (and will in your case) go hand in hand with depression. SSRI treatment can help both. When you are in a situation like this, it is best to use the drug and therapy to deal with the underlying problems. These are issues for you to look into and obviously to discuss with a physician. I do not like to label things lightly, but this sounds like a nasty problem for you.

A good old-fashioned technique is simply to be around other women. Sleep with other women.

All you have to do is get a bit of game, and you are fixed.

But as I say, you are in another world right now. Realize this, because when you come out of it, you will not be able to remember why on earth you were so obsessed with this girl.

Take care.
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