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spooled2k3

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Your Sex.. Posted: 04-10-07 02:41am


Ok, So me and my girlfriend were talking about this a few nights ago and I would like some input from other ladies... if anyone cares to share that is. So we were talking about sex and she tells me that it is more intimate if sex ends with internal ejaculation. I personally dont think that it does, but I guess for the guy its always the same condom or no condom. Do you have a preference to this. I know some women hate having their man come inside them and others, well thats the only way they have sex. Does this really make a difference to the girl? Does it change the sexual experience any? Also, those of you who are on B/C do you feel comfortable if and when they finish in you?

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Posted: 04-10-07 12:16pm

spooled2k3 wrote:

Ok, So me and my girlfriend were talking about this a few nights ago and I would like some input from other ladies... if anyone cares to share that is.

So we were talking about sex and she tells me that it is more intimate if sex ends with internal ejaculation. I personally dont think that it does, but I guess for the guy its always the same condom or no condom. Do you have a preference to this. I know some women hate having their man come inside them and others, well thats the only way they have sex.

Does this really make a difference to the girl? Does it change the sexual experience any? Also, those of you who are on B/C do you feel comfortable if and when they finish in you?

For me, I'm on birth control so a condom is optional, and we often don't use one.

I prefer sex without a condom; the warmth of his body feels good to me as opposed to the cold condom.

I cannot feel when my bf ejaculates inside of me, so as far as that adding to the sexual experince, it does nothing. In fact, I can't tell very well when he's coming at all - he's a rather quiet person in bed Wink

I know when he's getting close for sure, but unless he stops once he's done, I'm clueless.

So from the point of knowing he's come increasing my sexual expereince, he has to pull out and come on me or himself. Personally, I like that; I like to see him coming and actually know he's coming.

Then again, there is the mental satisfaction of knowing he is inside when he comes. I can't feel it, but I do feel very powerful and sexy when I know my body has made him come inside of me.

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Posted: 04-10-07 12:23pm

Eiri wrote:

I know when he's getting close for sure, but unless he stops once he's done, I'm clueless.

I agree except for the not knowing part.I can feel it,because he kind of like pulsates inside of me,he also grunts a bit,lol

Eiri wrote:

So from the point of knowing he's come increasing my sexual expereince, he has to pull out and come on me or himself. Personally, I like that; I like to see him coming and actually know he's coming.

I agree,thats hot!

Eiri wrote:

Then again, there is the mental satisfaction of knowing he is inside when he comes. I can't feel it, but I do feel very powerful and sexy when I know my body has made him come inside of me.

I agree on this also.I feel more close to my man when he comes in me though.it makes me feel like he loves me more and wants to be closer to me,like i'm not just some sex toy.

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Posted: 04-10-07 12:59pm


I think condoms suck the life out of sex. They are cold, slimy, and they smell. (latex ewww) I like it when my man comes in me too. It's erotic and often times we come together, and that's super hot.

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Posted: 04-10-07 13:04pm

Mommy35 wrote:

I think condoms suck the life out of sex. They are cold, slimy, and they smell. (latex ewww)
I like it when my man comes in me too. It's erotic and often times we come together, and that's super hot.

condoms dry me out faster for some reason,so when I try to use one it last less than 5 mintues and it comes off.It's a waste of money!

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Posted: 04-10-07 13:06pm


Like eiri, I can't feel it when a man ejaculates in me. However, there is something nice, a psychological turn on I suppose, in knowing that he did. However, if you need a condom for birth control or STD protection, then I would have to say it certainly isn't worth not using one. As eiri and Melissa also mentioned, some women prefer one way or the other, but both ways can be used to kind of change it up a little. Switching back and forth could help to add a little variety and maybe be an aid in role playing!

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Posted: 04-10-07 14:20pm


I have always been able to tell when a man is at his point. I guess being very sexual in tune helps...I think that it's very satisfying knowing that i am able to please my man that way. If i couldn't feel my man coming then i dont' think that having sex would be woorth it. I say if she is on birth control and without runing the risk of std's then go for it.

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Posted: 04-10-07 20:14pm


Well, Thanks for the insight. To me, It doesnt really make a difference if i come in her, or if its in a condom. Well, the condom doesnt have a mess, but more or less its pretty close to the same. I have come in her before, but it was just a strange topic we were talking about.. She says it makes sex better, but I think its the Psychological part probably. She has been on depo for just over 2 years, so I think there is really nothing to worry about. No missed shots, no late shots. Although, At times i still get paranoid. She always says shes not feeling well, and i tend to jump to conclusions, even though I know better As far as changing it up from inside to onto of her, or myself.. She absolutely hates getting anything on her, but myself.. It doesnt bother me.

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Posted: 04-10-07 20:46pm

spooled2k3 wrote:

She has been on depo for just over 2 years, so I think there is really nothing to worry about. No missed shots, no late shots. Although, At times i still get paranoid. She always says shes not feeling well, and i tend to jump to conclusions, even though I know better Embarassed

Depo is very effective, but like all other methods of birth control it isn't 100% effective, so there still is a small chance that she could get pregnant. Depo has lots of side effects, so I would not get paranoid every time she doesn't feel well. Also, naturally, it might be non-depo related too when she does not feel well.

Now, I would like to bring up something only semi-related here. Just within the past couple of years, that FDA has said that Depo is not as safe as they thought. Teens and young women should avoid it the most, and no woman should take it for more than two years unless she has to, pretty much as a last resort, as it can cause a lot of problems, some of which are irreversible.

For more information on that: "Depo is not recommended for long term use and especially not recommended when the young woman is still growing her bones."
http://www.fwhc.org /birth-control/bcdepo.htm

Just something that I thought I would bring up in case you two were not aware of it. I did not find out until I had been on Depo for five years. A lot of doctors also don't seem to sit down and make sure their patients understand all of this stuff.

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Posted: 04-10-07 21:02pm


I have no problems with condoms (as long as they are not latex! It's true they stink yikes) Neoprene condoms don't smell at all. I like condoms because of the no mess/easy cleanup. However I don't use condoms as i'm on birth control and my df is not fond of condoms. I too can't feel when my man is comming but I can tell most of the time he is by his movements. You just know. And yes we women like when the man comes inside, you know we like to know he is satisfied. Sometimes it happens to me he comes faster than i do so on those occasions the experience would be greater if he lasted longer hehehe.

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Posted: 04-11-07 16:38pm


Personally, I love it when my bf comes inside me, with or without a condom. For me it just feels so emotional, sort of symbolic of how much you trust them, but for others it may be different. The only thing is, when he comes in me without a condom it's very messy when he pulls out, and I end up walking a bit funny cause I can feel it for a while afterwards lol

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Posted: 04-11-07 18:29pm

Lion79 wrote:

The only thing is, when he comes in me without a condom it's very messy when he pulls out, and I end up walking a bit funny cause I can feel it for a while afterwards lol Laughing

yep, it's like you inmediatly have to go the toilet.

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Posted: 04-11-07 19:27pm


I think that it makes it more sensual when my husband is inside me. If you are having a romantic night it makes it better having him inside me. That is my opinion. BUT if you are not trying to have a baby or if you dont know for sure about what the other person is doing you need to wear a condom because you can get STD's !!

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Posted: 04-14-07 19:18pm


there is nothing more silly than the sight of a laminated penis. i am all for safe sex, don't get me wrong. but once in a safe, clean, faithful relationship, i ditched condoms. they interfere with the flow of sex. they smell. they dry you out. they almost make it feel like his penis is sticking on your skin... it doesn't slide nicely like it does with flesh on flesh. i'm on the pill now, i have been for years. i could never go back to condoms. i love the feeling of skin on skin. it feels more loving, more intimate. i cant actually feel him ejaculte inside me, i doubt many girls can. i feel his penis get longer and harder though, that's how i know. psycholgically though, it really arouses me knowing he's coming inside me, and it makes me feel special that i have made him reach that point. it feels like we've shared something. and i like knowing there is a bit of him inside me. i was always under the impression guys much preferred sex without condoms too. i'm surprised the original poster hasn't a preference.

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Posted: 04-15-07 22:07pm


Some guys do like the advantage of a quick clean up and that they last longer.

spooled2k3

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Posted: 04-22-07 14:03pm

fiona05 wrote:

i was always under the impression guys much preferred sex without condoms too. i'm surprised the original poster hasn't a preference.

Its not that I dont have a preference. I do like sex better with no condom, but they do make for easier clean up. My girlfriend likes the skin on skin, but sometimes we will put a condom on, but most of the time its annoying to stop and put it on. It does dry on faster and kinda takes the fun out of it. However, for the longest time I was always paranoid to come in her even though shes on Depo and has been for over 2 years.. She is completly fine with it.. She either perfers a condom or just to finish inside. A few friends I have talked to all say the same thing, they dont both using them since they 'suck the life out of sex'

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Posted: 04-22-07 16:26pm


I've never liked condoms. Don't get me wrong i've always used them and it doesn't feel extremely different to me but my boyfriend says that when he put it on he couldn't feel it nearly as much as he could with skin on skin, and just the idea that it wasn't as pleasurable for HIM made it alot less pleasurable for me.

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I Love It When My Boyfriend Cums Inside Posted: 04-24-07 02:36am


It makes the sex more personal. I feel more connected. I am usually really turned on when hes about to cum so if its inside then he keeps going. But if its on me then the momentums gone. Also because we don't do it very often so its a treat when we do.

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Posted: 04-25-07 18:23pm


it used to be alot lost often.. maybe once in 30 times, but now its a bit more frequent.. She likes it i think.