Understanding Men And Trying to Talk to Them

I'm really sorry about your mom passing away! Your husband needs to relax a bit, because you're obviously still in heavy grieving. It will lesson over time. With men, and this is only my experience, so it certainly isn't a rule, but you just have to be as clear as possible when talking to them. They're not mind readers, so you have to tell them what's going on inside of you. Still, and again this is only my experience, men tend to like to get handed problems that they can solve. Emotional crisis, like the one you're going through is impossible for your husband to solve or really help with, so he's probably frustrated as well. I'm sure that he does want to help you through your mourning, but he just doesn't know what to do. You need to try not to take out your anger on him, and think of ways that he can help. Little things, like tasks so he will feel like he is helping. I know it might sound dumb, but you have to start somewhere.

Maybe you could do a little bit of research and print out some facts and information to share with your husband about anxiety and depression. It might make it easier to sit down and talk to him about your situation when you have some real facts about it. Ask him to just listen and absorb the information. He may not know much about what you are going through and so has his "gaurd up" because he does not know how to handle it. Once you talk about the facts, then talk about how these things relate to how you are feeling. Hopefully he will be willing to listen. Like "flipper" mentioned, he probably wants to help you out, but just doesnt know how. You will get through this, Good luck!

your husband should understand that you're depressed because of the loss of a loved one. I think that your hubbie does understand but just doesn't know how to deal with you . . .