Boyfriend Gets Erection While Sleeping Posted: 04-11-07 03:58am
I am not sure if this should be an issue
or if i am just over jealouse. my
boyfriend (27 years old) and I seem to
have a great relationship, but when it
comes to having sex he very very rarely
initiates..i start to think that he is not
interested, but when I initiate he has no
problem..so i figured that lack of
interest is not the case.
but the main issue now is that i have
noticed he has been getting erect in his
sleep..from what i have read it seems to
be common..but is it normal for him push
me away (we usually cuddle while we sleep)
then split his legs apart..then let out a
moan as if he just came?..i dont really
know if he ejaculates..i am too disturbed
to check.
i am jealous because it seems like he
doesnt want to have sex with me..but he
can get aroused in his sleep..i think that
he is fantasizing about other women..i
cant stand the thought that his dreams can
erouse him..but i cannot.
also, i suspect him of watching a lot of
porn on his computer while i am at
work..so i think that may be what triggers
his dreams too..i have not mentioned any
of this to him yet..so i would like some
suggestions on how to approch this..or if
i should even mention this to him at all
thank you
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Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2007 Posts: 112 Location: Mesa AZ.,
Posted: 04-11-07 06:06am
it is common for men to have erections at
night. even several times. i think it is
also common for a man to push away from
someone or something that maybe trying to
touch the genitals while sleeping. you
should try to talk to him about initiating
sex with you. try to do it with out
confronting him. make it as friendly as
possible. just tell him somethings you
would like for him to try. sometimes it is
a very delicate situation for two people
to discuss their sex lives
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Kim_
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 6
Posted: 04-11-07 09:19am
thank you for your advice. so maybe if i
could hint toward him initiating sex more
often and it works..then i should bother
to mention to him that the erections at
night make me slightly jelouse?
he told me when he woke up in the morning
that he had a dream that he was in
university and his own dorm room..he said
that one of the teachers kept giving him a
hard time about wearing the wrong shoes to
class.
i didnt ask anymore because i didnt want
to bring up the uncomfortable topic.
but this makes me think that instead of
some chick from his internet porn
movies..it could possibly be some girl he
knew in highschool or even an ex gf..or
maybe just some hot university girl.
i know these are just dreams and i
probably shouldnt be concerned..but they
do bother me..and it is hard to face him
in the morning when i think he fantasized
about other women and most likely
remembers his sexy dreams.
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Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2007 Posts: 112 Location: Mesa AZ.,
Posted: 04-11-07 09:29am
do you ever fantasize about other men?
nobody in particular just a different
male. there is nothing wrong with
fantasies. they are in fact healthy. i
would not mention anything about your
jealousy to him. try to let it go. be
positive and just talk to him about
initiating sex.
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Kim_
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 6
Posted: 04-11-07 10:27am
i can't fantasize about other men
sexually..i have tried before..but the
image doesnt stick..or really do anything
for me at all..but i think this may be
because of my upbringing ..i keep thinking
that is wrong to fantasize about other men
while being with the one that you
love..and because that feeling has been
inputed so strong in me..i cannot do it
that is why i have come here to see what
others think.
so thank you..you have helped a lot..i
will do my best not to let it get to me.
when he mentions how he has had some crazy
dreams every morning..i wont think
negitivly unless he acctually tells me it
was some other woman.
until then i will just assume that the
dreams are of me.
if i think that they are of me then that
would be sure to help me not feel akward
having sex with him anymore.
i feel like i am fooling myself..but if
this is a common thing and nothing to
worry about..then i must get my mind
trained to understanding that.
besides deep down inside i know that he
cannot control his dreams to fix this
problem..and bringing it up to him would
just embarrass him and probably make him
feel even more akward when it comes to
initating sex.
thank you again for your promt and very
helpful replies
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Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2007 Posts: 112 Location: Mesa AZ.,
Posted: 04-11-07 10:34am
you are welcome. that's why we are here.
glad i can help. any other questions or
problems feel free to ask and discuss.
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Kim_
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 6
Posted: 04-14-07 12:37pm
hmm this is to hard for me to ignore
this morning i really wanted to have sex
with my bf, but he said that he was
feeling too tired and not in the mood..i
couldnt seem to turn him on..so i let him
sleep..then about an hour later he got a
huge erection and started jerking off in
his sleep..this is tearing apart my self
confidence and makes me not want to have
sex with him any more..i have to leave the
room now..how could his dreams overpower
the real thing...could anyone relate to
this situation or let me know why he may
be doing this
i feel that i am very attractive..i am
thin, long brown hair, brown eyes, italian
skin tone, i hear from others that i have
a great personality..so i dont think it is
because he is unattracted to me...i just
dont understand him..he turnes me down
pretty much every time i want to have sex
with him..please i need suggestions before
i loose all of my self confidence
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Azure777
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 167 Location: gloucester city NJ
Posted: 04-14-07 12:59pm
my fiance' often gets aroused in his sleep
and will wake up cause he can't role over
properly... i've never had a problem with
him masturbating though. maybe your guy
has a sexual addiction of sorts that he
feels he can't share with you and he is
working it out in his sleep.
one of my last exes did have the problem
your referring to. he would just randomly
start masturbating in his sleep. one day i
woke him up and asked him and he basically
broke down and told me that he didn't feel
comfortable asking me for anal sex and was
dreaming about it for about 2 months.
but of course there are just ideas, and
may not be the truth
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deebaby621
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Aug 2006 Posts: 251 Location: North Carolina
Posted: 08-03-07 17:49pm
hunnie first off, nocturnal erections are
a sign that your man is healthy in that
area. it is very normal. also, just
because his penis gets erect during the
night does not necessarily mean he is
dreaming of something sexual. i don't know
what he dreams, he may dream about sexual
things sometimes, but just because he has
an erection during his sleep doesn't mean
he is fantasizing of somebody else. men
usually have around 8 or 9 erections
throughout the course of one night. it's
very normal & you have nothing to
worry about.
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