I'm 16 years old and a virgin. I do
however have a girlfriend and she's has
given me handjobs and blowjobs before.
My problem is that I can't cum when she
does this. I'm all fired up while we're
making out, but when my genitals come into
play, I don't feel as aroused.
I think a small part of the problem may be
her technique, but I'm sure that isnt all,
as this has happened every time.
Maybe it is possible that my masturbation
over the years has desensitised my penis?
I don't know, i'm clutching at straws here
trying to find an answer that doesnt mean
I'm impotant.
I've tried concentrating on what she's
doing, i've tried relaxing. I've tried
thinking of other things and people. I'm,
always very anxious when she gives me a
handjob because I'm scared I won't cum
again. And I never do.
Please give me advice or tips, please.
Thank you for any help
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 04-11-07 11:37am
A lot of people face that same problem.
That issue is very often psychological.
They either worry too much having that
orgasm, or they aren't comfortable with
their partner, or something other similar
thing that kind of makes them put up a
mental block. I would suggest that you
stop worrying about having an orgasm.
It's ok if you don't. Sit back, relax,
and enjoy it. If you don't orgasm while
she is there, no big deal. You can do it
when she is gone. Once you become more
comfortable with that idea, you just might
find that you will be able to orgasm when
you are with her.
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BridgetC87
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2006 Posts: 38 Location: California
Posted: 04-11-07 11:58am
i agree with Llewwllyn.
it sounds like you are very nervous, you
just need to relax and it will happen.
maybe not right away, but it will.
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HealthySex
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2007 Posts: 414
Posted: 04-11-07 14:45pm
The advice above is good. You don't have
to make it about climaxing. Just enjoy
your time together. And someday it will
cum.
Also, don't be afraid to teach her some
things. Talk to her or take her hand in
yours and show her what you like. I like
to look into her eye as she pleases me,
turns us both on.
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