We're Excited, But He Won't Tell His Parents

21 and he still gets beat

no he doesn't still get beat... but it could always happen again... you never know. and i don't want that to happen to him

so why do you want him to tell them?
if they are like you say then you're both better off to just put them in the past and move on together.

we have to tell them... he still lives there and we can't move out together untill i get on disability and he gets his raise... we're guessing that wont be until after the baby is born... besides those reasons we need their financial help on buy baby stuff because my family is extremely poor

how old are you

i'm 19

well, I'm sure one of these ladies can tell you about available housing etc - I'm uk based so my info won't be very fitting for you.

Why on earth would his parents buy the baby things if they don't approve of your relationship? And why would you expect them to?

First off, if you are in the states, you don't get disability for being pregnant. I don't know what your disability is but it can take years to get on disability. You should go to your local welfare office and get yourself on medicaid so you can see a doctor. You need to go to your local health department and get yourself on wic, so you can get nourished. Then your boyfriend needs to go out and get himself a job so he can support you and his baby.

That is the way it works in the world. You have a kid, you learn how to support it real quick! Babies don't really need a lot at first. A cot, some diapers, a few outfits and a carseat. You still have a few months to buy that stuff. There is always the .Goodwill and second hand stores and summer is great for garage sales!

Get yourself on some low income housing lists. They can be years long, so hurry, hurry, hurry if you want to be out within the next year or two.

1: his parents would be thrilled at their little kid having a baby and getting married, but they hate me and would go off the deep end and more than likely tell him to move out. my family already has made arrangements for him to move in with me in my room. He knows his parents very well and they will support the baby as much as they can even if they hate me.

2: i've been waiting on disability for 2 years because i am physically unfit to hold a job nor can i mentally handle it.

3: i'm on medacaid and working on getting WIC

4: my fiance' has a job, he is an electrician and is working on getting into the union they told him they'd call him with their answer in December. he is well paid and can support the baby as is, but we want our child to have a good upbringing unlike what we both had.

5: i already know how the world works i've been in the gutters before, i also know what i need to do to support a kid. you don't have to rub in the fact that because of my age i don't know anything when in fact i know a heck of a lot more than most my age.

6: i don't need the goodwill and i don't need hand-me-downs from a yard sale. i have plenty of friends and family that are giving me their used clothes and things of the like. Also i have friends buying me new stuff from Babies'R'Us.

7: I don't need low-income housing. If anything i can spend a year still with my parents and save up money for an apartment and the deposit.

i hope that this response will teach you not to make assumptions in the future and teach you that questions are more welcome than uneducated responses.

and now i'm sure that every one has enough information and can now give me advice on the original question at hand.

they are going to react the way they will no matter how you try to break it to them, i know that from personal experiance. and if he doesnt want to tell them and he is set on it, short of forceing him (blackmailing or otherwise) the only thing you can do is to tell them yourself

i know thats not much help, but its the truth

sorry but now i must respond to your last post because that really bugged me and crazy pregnant lady with raging hormones its kinda hard to keep things in at the moment

1. you made it sound like they would beat him and everything, if someone would beat their child for having a kid with someone else they dont sound like theyd want to do much for that kid

2. if your physically and mentally unfit to hold a job, is it really a good idea to have a kid, kids are harder then most typical jobs

3. good for you for knowing when you need help, but why are you working on wic, all you have to do is go into the office tell them your pregnant and on medicade and you got it, they cant turn you down if your already on assistance

4. your contradicting yourself, first you say youd need financhial help then you say you could do it but you want better for your kid, well which one is it?

5. i dont think anyone was saying anything about your age, there are a lot of people here younger then you and no one has any complaints to them, sarah (oh_mommy) is 18, danni (danzibelle) is only 15, i personally am 18, its not a big deal no ones rubbing your face in anything

6. what is wrong with goodwill i have bought almost all my baby stuff either on clearance at stores from hand be downs from yard sales, and mostly from thrift shops, it is perfectly good stuff and it is wonderful if your on a limited budget

7 low income houseing isnt a bad thing either, it can be help greatly, it will give you a place of your own where you can be the parent instead of the kid

please dont jump to conclusions either, the street goes both ways dear

your not the only one who grew up without much, and you wont be the last, no one cares about that, we care about that baby you are carrying and whats best for it, and we will tell you what we know because we have been (or are) there ourselves, these things you may have overlooked, its no big deal, everyone over looks things expecially at this time

~alicia~

Bottomline the baby isnt going away and the longer you wait the more upset his parents will be. Tell him that. Also tell him that they will need time to get used to the idea and that putting it off will only make it worse..Youll be showing shortly. also he's about to be a father and needs to grow up, be a man, and handle his responsibilities.

dont worry about him not telling htem he willl evenutally.. my bf didnt tell his dad till fathers day (when i was like 5months preggers im guessing) and he didnt tell his mom and sisters till his sister heard a rumor.

Okay...if your parents have already told you that they will allow him to move in with you then what is the problem? He can move things out that he wants, for the large things he can call the police and they will supervise him moving if he feels he is in physical danger. When his parents ask why the police are there and why his is moving he can say "because my girlfriend is pregnant, we are having a child together. And I don't feel that this would be an appropriate invironment for my child to be exposed to." They can't say anything in front of the police.

well thanxs for ur reply on mine! well i think he should just tell them and if they kick him out welll then he can move with u because they will probably be mad at first but think about it this way the sooner he tells them the sooner they will get over it and have no choice because u are gonna be their daughter in law.

thanks guys... i talked him into sitting them down tonight... i hope all goes well... i'll come back with their response to the news!!

I apologize if my post was at all offensive to you. I was actually giving you some advice. It sounded as if you were expecting his parents to help you financially - when you won't need that at all.

As far as the disability goes, it will take some time to get that going - especially if it is not an obvious physical disability - and sometimes even if it is. Expect to wait a few years.

I was not looking down on your age either, sweetie. I was 16 years old and living on my own for a year when I had my son - so please don't talk about hardship or how I wouldn't understand your situation. I understand plenty.

Goodwill and rummage sales aren't too good for you. Don't expect a handout. Washing machines are meant for washing clothes - use hot water and soap and the clothes will be fine.

I'm glad your parents are supportive of you and are letting you stay in there house until you and your boyfriend can get on your feet.

Good luck with his parents tonight!