im 20 years old and ive tried everything
not to get pregnant the pill bgoth
injection and the tablet a coil all sorts
and i still end up going to the clinc to
have an abortion ive had 2 now and yes i
use condoms i really dont want children
and never have done i think the only was
forward is to have a hysterectomy i havent
told anyone about it apart from my friend
and she is trying to persuade me not to
have one i know my doctor proberbly
wouldnt agree to it but im all out of
ideas any suggestions
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Fairy*Godmother
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Hi Posted: 04-11-07 13:53pm
I do know most medical physicans (OBGYN)
do not want to perform a hysterectomy
until you are much older, well past child
bearing age, unless something is medically
wrong and/or this requires you to have
one. You may not want children now, but
lets say in another 10-15 years, you find
that perfect man, and you both want a
child???????????Now, you saying that ain't
gonna happen, but you can't predict the
future. I did not want children
either..............I did once I turned
26. I was glad I waited and did everything
pobbible not to get pregnant until I was
ready. I have a daughter who turns 23 this
year. Maybe you need a stronger dose of
contaceptive pills, also wearing condoms
everytime, even the contraceptive
foam..........you do what it takes, but I
would not give up the right to ever have a
child not as young as you are now. There
are ways of keeping from getting pregnant.
You just have to make sure you are
prepared....and not take the chance.
Please reconsider!
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aimey_lou
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 3 Location: birmingham
Posted: 04-11-07 14:05pm
i know it sounds bad but i hate the
thought of having to give up my life my
partner has already got a child and i do
love being around her but i couldnt handle
it full time i have polocystic overies and
i have really bad periods and they hurt to
a point where i cant move and have t
crawl i am seriously thinking about it i
havent mader any desisions yet but im
thinking it will stop all the problems
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Fairy*Godmother
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Hi Posted: 04-11-07 17:49pm
It does not sound bad or selfish...you are
only 20 years old. This should be the time
of your life! Things have changed since I
was a 20, Lord have they ever.....but it
use to be, enjoy while you are young, earn
a living save for hte future. Make sure
you have stability before even thinking
baout having a child...not
today...........an 11 year old in
Chattanooga gave birth to twins...all 3
children are doing well. Those headlines
made me sick to my
stomach................As for you. you
mentioned your partner has a daughter. I
was a stepmother to 4 kids a long time
before I even thought about wanting one
for myself. Have you discussed your
sondition wiht your OBGYN? If so, I would
tell you to at least get one or two other
opinions before making your final
decision. It is your life and you ahre the
one who has to live with the decision you
make. I am just the Fairy*Godmother
sitting in the wings hoping I can at least
try to help or offer words of comfort!
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aimey_lou
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 3 Location: birmingham
I Know Posted: 04-12-07 04:21am
i have booked an appointment to see my
gyno and it is in 2 weeks i will go over
all the options i know they prob
wouldnteven give me 1
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Kia
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Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 04-13-07 06:40am
at 20 I really really did not want kids -
uh huh no way never.
I'm 28 now - I had to have uterine surgury
including a hemi-hysterectomy.
I would do pretty much anything if it
meant I could have kids right now.
it happens - life changes around us and we
change within it.
it really sounds as if you are not using
your birth control properly.
your best option would be to have a mirena
ius fitted and to use spermicidal
lubricant (and/or spermicidal lubricated
condoms).
