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lexyw
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Reassurance...advice...
Posted: 04-11-07 22:24pm
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ok. i had a miscarriage this past
november. and i still can not get over the
loss. i still want a baby and financially
i feel that i am ok. but i still know
that i should wait, i just don't want to.
does anyone have advice, maybe a way to
get past this. or possibly a good talk to
help me get on with my life and finish
college (i'm going for nursing, so
excited!)
maybe i just need someone to talk to?
please help me.
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littlesqueaks
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Location: Caldwell, Idaho
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Posted: 04-11-07 23:08pm
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I am sorry for your loss. I imagine you
are feeling a lot of pain at this time and
it is probably hard for you to keep
focused on other things. Waiting for
something that you want so badly can also
be a difficult thing to do.
There must be a reason of why you must
have to wait, I don't know what that
reason might be but if it is for medical
reasons then waiting for the right time
would be a good reason to wait. You don't
want to harm yourself or rush into
something that might harm the baby.
I am sure that you are extremly busy with
school and while you are in class it
probably helps to keep your mind off of
the miscarriage and want for a baby. If it
does help to keep yourself busy maybe
finding a hobby that will help take your
mind off of it as well might help.
I know you probably hate hearing the words
"be patient" but sometimes thats all we
can say. If you ever just need to talk to
someone about anything that might help you
in anyway you can PM me and we can talk
about the weather or our home towns, tell
eachother a few jokes or stories. Anything
you want that might help. I hope you have
a good night and keep your chin up it will
take some time but it will get better.
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Mabel
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Re: Reassurance...advice...
Posted: 04-11-07 23:09pm
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| lexyw
wrote: | ok. i had a miscarriage this
past november. and i still can not get
over the loss. i still want a baby and
financially i feel that i am ok. but i
still know that i should wait, i just
don't want to.
does anyone have advice, maybe a way to
get past this. or possibly a good talk to
help me get on with my life and finish
college (i'm going for nursing, so
excited!)
maybe i just need someone to talk to?
please help
me. |
You sound like you know what you should
do. Waiting isn't always a bad thing.
There are many things to do in this life
before having kids. Finish school. Travel
(even if it's just 'around' and not
extravagant). Go out with friends. Having
a baby is not as easy or as fun as it
sometimes looks like it is. It is a lot of
work and people give up a lot of their
former lives for kids.
I'm sorry for your loss.
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lexyw
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Posted: 04-12-07 22:14pm
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i really want to finish school. i'm just
scared that i will never be able to have a
baby. for some reason i keep thinking
that.
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Azure777
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007
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Location: gloucester city NJ
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Posted: 04-13-07 15:48pm
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hunni, i've have 14 miscarriages in the
past 3 years. not one of the babies was
planned, and the one that's growing
healthy in my belly is also not planned.
you seem to have the plan... so all you
have to do is wait for the right time and
the right situation. i wish i had
ambitions in my life to have made me wait,
you have those...
i believe that you get what you get when
your suppose to get it. i wasn't suppose
to get those babies, this one i AM
supposed to get. wait, and if it happens
along the way then that's how it's
supposed to be.
hoping all is well!
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lexyw
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Posted: 04-13-07 17:33pm
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thanks!!!
that really helps alot 
i just have to keep tellin myself that i
need to get things done first.
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Bridget
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Posted: 04-13-07 19:07pm
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| Azure777
wrote: | | hunni, i've have 14
miscarriages in the past 3 years.
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 is this a typo?
| Azure777
wrote: | | not one of the babies was
planned, and the one that's growing
healthy in my belly is also not planned.
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so birth control failed you 15 times?
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Mabel
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Posted: 04-13-07 19:08pm
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| IHeartMyBostonTerrier
wrote: | | Azure777
wrote: | | hunni, i've have 14
miscarriages in the past 3 years.
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is this a typo?
| Azure777
wrote: | | not one of the babies was
planned, and the one that's growing
healthy in my belly is also not planned.
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so birth control failed you 15
times? |
Well I certainly didn't want to be the
first to say something here. So glad you
did 
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musikmaker
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Posted: 04-13-07 20:06pm
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I was going to say something too because
if you haven't been using birth control
and you got pregnant that many times I
consider those babies planned. If you
aren't using protection you might as well
plan on getting pregnant. It happens that
is why the make condoms, IUDs, the pill,
etc.
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lexyw
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Posted: 04-13-07 20:57pm
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so true!
i had a miscarriage a few months ago and i
am currently on birth control.
its crazy how the pill can REALLY mess
with you emotions 
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Azure777
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Location: gloucester city NJ
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Posted: 04-14-07 09:06am
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well i'm not supposed to be able to have
kids, so i figured seeing as how me and my
fiance' are monogamous, if i get pregnant
than awesome! if not then it's not ment to
be... so i wasn't trying.. i was just
taking what came
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Mabel
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Posted: 04-14-07 19:24pm
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| Azure777
wrote: | | well i'm not supposed to be
able to have kids, so i figured seeing as
how me and my fiance' are monogamous, if i
get pregnant than awesome! if not then
it's not ment to be... so i wasn't
trying.. i was just taking what
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I'm curious how, at your age, you know you
aren't supposed to become pregnant. If
you've had 14 miscarriages, what is making
this one different? Are you seeing a
specialist? Are you on bedrest? What are
your PTL risks?
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Azure777
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007
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Location: gloucester city NJ
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Posted: 04-16-07 11:44am
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i'm just making my appointments now.. i
finally got insurance so i'm happy about
that... but when i was 7 i had a really
bad accident where i got pinned between a
car and a guard rail and it severed my
fallopian tubes... they said one of them
had healed but that my ovary might be
damaged also.
and hopefully this one IS different... i
was pregnant before at the age of 17...
there were complications with the
pregnancy and it had to be terminated...
but this one doesn't feel like that one...
and i've made it much further on this one
that that one without feeling the pain, so
i'm guessing i'm fine and the baby's
fine...
as for your other questions i have no
answer due to me not being able to get to
a doctor just yet
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