Please Help! I'm So Confused Posted: 04-12-07 22:06pm
I really don't know how to put this but
here goes. I'm a 27 year old man and I'm
having problems functioning during sex.
It seems like I get so nervous before sex
that I have a hard time getting an
erection, it's strange, almost like once I
get it in my head that I can't get one, it
doesn't happen, however if say I roll over
in the morning and initiate sexual contact
with my girlfriend, it's fine, because I'm
too tired to really think about what I'm
doing it seems. Also, once I do get an
erection and hold it, I ejaculate
incredibly fast. I get so embarrised.
I'm currently back on the dating scene and
I'm terrified when a woman wants to come
over to my place for fear that I will
embarris myself. I don't know if it's all
psycological or if I have a real problem.
Even when I wear protection I ejaculate
incredibly fast. It's easier for me once
I really get comfortable with someone but
I find that it still happens to me. I
enjoy sex, and I'm confidant that I have
nothing to be self-concious about, but I'm
still so nervous during sex. I hope I
didn't confuse anyone too much, but I
desperately want to solve this strange
issue. I feel so incredibly inferior due
to this. Should I seek medical help, or
does anyone know of a way I can overcome
this myself. Any input would be great.
Embarrised in PA
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 04-12-07 23:06pm
The doctor is always a good place start
with issues like this one just to rule out
any physical causes. It's usually
something psychological, however, and that
certainly sounds like it might be the case
with you. You could seek counseling to
help you through it if you think you would
be comfortable doing that.
Honestly, I would not have sex with anyone
that I don't feel comfortable with. Even
if it isn't a committed relationship, you
should be able to be open and honest about
these things with any sexual partner you
have. She won't mind unless she is a
really awful person or something. A
decent woman would be more than willing to
experiment, or do things other than just
sex, or talk about it, or something else
that might help. If a woman does get
angry, or annoyed, or whatever, and storms
out, then don't bother to feel
embarrassed. Her loss. She obviously
wasn't good enough anyway.
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cgort1
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Apr 2007 Posts: 3 Location: kcmo
Erection Posted: 04-13-07 03:34am
Another reason why you may be able to hold
an erection in the morning is because your
hormones are at their peak. But I totally
know what you are saying. I imagine that
it is all just a mind thing. If it is at
all possible stop thinking about
controlling your ejaculation. Just like so
many things... If you are trying to stop
yourself chances are you are thinking
about and will cave in. But when you are
more relaxed.... Blah Blah Blah. Sorry.
Just RELAX! If it makes you feel better
the average male sex time until orgasm is
like 3 min or something. You should get
married and stop worrying about it.
Marriage is awesome! Well God Bless and I
hope you find what you are really looking
for!
