18 Yrs Old In High School - Single Posted: 04-13-07 07:56am
Heres my story... im not ugly but im not
the most attractive guy you will meet i
have alot of good quality and alot of bad
quality i accept them for what they are...
im a typical "Nice Guy" but i am very
anti-social i hate the feeling of being
around new people because im always scared
what they will think of me.. same goes for
girls... im from a small town and the
girls in my class im all friends with but
they have all made it perfectly clear that
they dont like me and they wouldnt dare go
out with me although i find this kinda of
a strange reponse because 2 of the girls
that have said that i have had sexual
occurences with them im still a virgin but
one of the girl is always sending me
nude/partially nude pictures on msn and
one of them let me fingerbang them once...
If they said they didnt want to go out
with me why would they let me see or do
this stuff?
I go to alot of school parties and its
funny cause all the girls that are 14-15
find me super attractive and are always
trying to get with me im not shy when im
drunk so i dont find it hard meeting girls
when im drunk... but im not gonna be drunk
all the time just to meet a girl... back
to the young girls part.. like i said
there all 14-15 and some of them a really
like but where i live its considered being
a pedafile if u are 18 or over and go out
with a 14 or younger girl.. damn my age
cause some of these girls that find me
attractive i really like and would like to
ask them out but i cant it seems that no
girl my age wants to go out with me and
only wants to be friends? im not just in
it for the sex i want a relationship first
and if so happens sex should follow after
so be it but if theres no attraction i
wont stay in the relation ship for the
sex...
what my question really is how would i
improve my self esteem to make me feel
that i have courage to go up to a girl and
ask them out, How can i stop being so
anti-social and get a job and my drivers
license so i can get money and
transportation to go out on dates... How
can i get rid of my fear of meeting new
people?
im not one those guys that thinks he so
ugly that he will never get a girl.... and
finds all the faults he can in him self im
just really shy and dont like approaching
girls... why the heck wont girls make the
first move it be alot easyer.. lol i just
wanna know how to get rid of my shyness...
is it true "Nice guys finish last?"
Thanks for reading any help would be
greatful.
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 04-19-07 05:52am
Well, you got it right near the
end....................your painfully
shy......not anisocial. Not everyone can
be the "life of the party" or .Mr/Mrs
Popularity.............but if that's part
of your goal...................watch
carefully someone you admire and emulate
them..............how do they approach
people?do they show interest in the other
person or is it all about them?
It's normal to want a relationship,
however at this age, I'd be careful what
you wish for..................there's high
emotions, power trips and little games
played especially for the
novices.................all about learning
and growing up, but not an absolute need
for the ups and downs of teenagers.
All for improving self
esteem................get the drivers
license, get the job..................part
time.................thru
friends/family.............thru the
school..................if you want it bad
enough.............you'll find a way and
do it!
For shyness, a public speaking
course.................like
Toastmasters............but ultimately it
doesn't matter which course or skill you
acquire as long as you do
something..................remember the
last time you did something new or
mastered some
skill.......................how did you
feel?on top of the
world?............................and how
does it feel to sit around doing
nothing?absorbed in self
pity?....................get
moving...................and the rest will
follow
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paul995
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Apr 2007 Posts: 140 Location: ,
Posted: 05-03-07 19:11pm
know yourself first. . . do you exactly
know who you really are? i think the
reason why girls don't approach you at all
is because you give them the
don't-go-near-me look. thus, they become
hesitant. you already said that you're
notthat "ugly" and that younger girls like
you. So, girls are definitely attracted to
you, although not of the same age.
Start thinking that if you don't change
your attitude of being anti-socia, it
won't get you anywhere. learn to
aprreciate yourself first. then you'd be
able to appreciate other and vice versa.
how do you overcome your shyness? try not
to be! it's a conscious effort. it can be
done. i bet there are some girls out there
who like you but think twice because they
think you are unapproachable.
however, don't think that not having a
relationship implies you're a loner or
something is missing. It'll come, probably
not now, but someday. . .
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any help would be
greatful.
