I'm Embarassed And Feel That I Need Some Help....

Hey kma_sr... There are other things out there to help increase sex drive besides having surgery. Go in to stagshop.Com they sell all kinds of really fun stuff to help with increasing sexual pleasure. Just to let you know i'm a nurse and I visit this site often. I'm 25 and my husband often go to this site together to buy eachother things for our birthdays or anniversaries. Try it, you might like it.

Hey...

Just remember, the body is the way it is for a reason...Be happy with yourself. You have three children, and a wife. Obviously your wife is satisfied with your endowment. I am not speaking for all women here, but many women I speak to about this agree with me...Its not the size, but it is how the man uses his penis. Besides, too big would just hurt. I would not suggest experimenting with any of the penis enlargment gimmicks...That is not an organ that should be experimented - there is a risk that too many things can go wrong. As the other post mentioned, go into a sex shop with your wife...There are tonnes of toys and gadgets to experiment with you are who you are..Be happy, and be proud.

Thank you for the reply's..I will try to keep those suggestions in consideration. Oh believe me, we have been to the sex shops and we both get turned on by them, but I don't want that to become a routine...If ya know what I mean.

Hey its not all about the size! My husband isnt all that big, and I had been with this guy (before husband) and he was really big and I didnt like it at all. My guy is perfect! You have to have sexual contact to bring back the desire. Not only as in sex but hold her hand, rub her back. Kiss for a long time. Like making out. Make things romantic. Sometimes im not in the mood but he will sit there and slightly caress my back with his hands and then we will kiss before a while before you know. It works. Good luck!

Viagra?

Lol- I don't have a problem getting it up...It is the desire to do so that is the problem.

However...If it's up, do you ever not have the desire?

Meaning, if it's up, you want to use it, right?

And as far as size...Truly, I believe men are more concerned with that than women are. Bigger isn't better. Especially from a woman's standpoint who likes to give oral pleasure...Not much we can do with a big one! Smaller ones - the sky's the limit!

Libby

P.S. You do know the average size of a penis is 5 1/2 inches, right? I imagine there are more men who are under the average than over.

Didn't know if you could tell, but i'm no teenage girl and i've seen a few penises in my life. I'm speaking from experience.

Libby

Lol - thanks for the input libby.

Actually, the wife does not complain. It is me who feels
un-manly" down there.

The wife and I kind of go in and out with the desire - no pun intended.

We'll go a while where it is almost every night, and then, we might go a month with out...

Sorry to say this, but you're comment, "i have seen a few in my days" tickled me....

Lol, get a porn and get the desire!Lol no just playing. Realy-size is of no importance at all. Its not the size of the boat its the motion in the ocean! Hahaha

Dear kma_sr,

i'm glad I could give you a giggle! Don't get me wrong, I really haven't gotten around a whole lot, it's just i'm 42 years old, been divorced for a few years, wasn't a virgin when I got married...So yes, i've seen a few!

I guess what i'm saying with all of this is don't worry about it so much. Not being a man, I can't relate totally with what you are feeling regarding your size, and all I can do is give you the female perspective. Sounds like your wife knows what is important. It's the way you make us feel when you are inside of us...And how you make us feel in our hearts that counts.

It's not uncommon to have "ups and downs" in desire. Unless you are hanging out in the locker room doing size comparisons, don't let it bother you. Women aren't worried about size, and you don't have to impress any man.

Bottom line, you love your wife, she loves you. Just go with it.

Libby

Do you think every penis has been measured? I imagine if every one of them were measured, the average would actually be lower.

You may now go back to your porn site and promote your wisdom and knowledge.

So far all the replies you got have been from the fairer sex trying to make you feel better. To tell you the truth, these gals are nice, but not all gals think along these lines. Some of them do want a big penis. And then some are happy with average size. The most important thing is that your wife is happy.

Women in general are about as worried about the size of their boobs as men are about their penises. Well maybe not as much as men, but the comparison can be made nonetheless.

I am not that highly endowed either and I want to tell you that I have tried a lot of things to make it bigger myself. Let me pass on some of my knowledge to you.

All the claims of the penis pump are hogwash. The only thing it will do is blow you up temporarily and then you are back where you started from.
So, dont waste your time and money there.

The other thing thats being touted these days is penis enlargement pills. I get about 1 dozen emails a week on a different kind of penis pill.
And I have tried one called "engarde". Try doing a search and you will find dozens of them. Basically, they might do some good but not much. And you can forget about 2 to 3 inches gains as they say. Its not gonna happen. They are just trying to make a buck rather than providing anything useful.

If you want a bigger penis, the first thing you must do is make sure you are in good health. A healthy penis cannot exist on a weak body. You must make sure you are totally fit and then when you have become fit, look down there and you will see something raring to go then go to the wife and you might end up with four kids!

so, make sure you are not fat, your cholesterol is low, blood pressure is normal, sugar levels are normal, exercise a lot, take vitamin c and a good mineral supplement. Also, take zinc for the prostate and take l-arginine for longer and harder erections. Also, if you smoke, give it up cos that will effect size over the long run....

Good luck to you!!

Hey niceguy,

you are right, there are some women that think bigger is better...Not many that I know though. And then it's mostly the younger women who haven't had opportunity to compare maybe? I don't know.

Your advice to kma_sr was great...And i'm sure it will mean something coming from another man. And yes...If his wife is happy, it's all good!

And yes, maybe you are partly right with those of us of the "fairer sex" wanting him to feel better...After all, that's what we do, encourage and motivate our men.

But...Don't discount our perspective. After all, it is his wife he wants to please, and evidently she is of the same mindset. He "gets it done" for her.

Regarding breast size, again, I partly agree with you...Until those of us with larger breasts have to carry them around for a few years...Along with the headaches, backaches, indents in our shoulders from our bra straps...Then eventually...

Evil, wicked, gravity slaps us in the face! Lol!

Libby

I really appreciate all the maturity on this matter. With me being new here and all I wasn't really sure what to expect. I must say that I am quite pleased.

Niceguy - no offense to the ladies, but it was really great to hear from another man's point of view. Even if it does seem quite weird to be talking with another man about my "manhood".

I will take everything into consideration. I think my main ordeal with the "want to" is the lack of diversity in the bedroom. My wife is pretty much a one position person and she is not really open to giving oral sex...She loves to get it, but..... It would be nice to see turn about as fair play every once in a while.

Now I am not blaming my wife, just throwing some ideas out there.

I am slightly over weight, but not many men my age aren't these days. Lol - no chance for a fourth right now..I had that fixed when we realized what caused the other three...

Thanks for all the advice, y'all have helped me feel better in this situation.

I'm curious, have you asked her to give you oral sex and she won't? What exactly about it bothers her?

I do know it takes some getting used to on our parts, but once she gets past the "thinking about what she's actually doing...", it's pretty great actually. It can give her a sense of power and control over you...She is giving you pleasure, and she is in charge! That's partly what I like about it anyways.

Now I think I see the "big picture"...You need some spice in your relationship. It is hard to break out of old routines.

Good luck to you and your wife. Tell her for me, "the happier she makes you, the happier she'll be!".

Libby

All of the responses on here regarding this subject were, to say the least, great! My husband doesn't have an enormous penis either, but as libby put it "it gets the job done". I've come to realize that, despite what men think about "size" it really doesn't matter. If a man is trying to please you, it doesn't take a so-called rocket to do it. The female track (vagina) is only on average about 5-6 inches long anyhow, so anything over that is basically a waste and not put to use.

Talk to your woman, tell her you want a little spice...... Infact, find out what "spices" you'd like to try and suprise her.... It always seems to work for my hubby!

Good luck!

Hi kma_sr,
I am glad you feel comfortable talking to me about your "manhood". As far as enlarging our organs, if you come across some technique, do let me know as I am not an expert in this stuff either. Do you watch porn tapes at all? I noticed when I watch them that the thinner guys have the biggest penises. I saw one guy with legs like matchsticks weighing about 90 lbs but his penis was biggggg. So if you are a little overweight, try to cut down and see if it helps. As for me, I am trying to lose about 5 to 10 lbs. I am not saying that being thin is a guarantee for a big penis, but I think it will definitely help to be fitter. As for oral sex, I think your wife is missing out on a good thing. Maybe she is a little inhibited or is she religious? Try to get her to give you oral sex. Once you get hooked on it, you might never want regular sex again just kidding....



Hey libby,
don't get me wrong. You are doing a great job of motivating the men on the board. In fact I was thinking of going to the womens board and motivating some women! As for breasts, I cant say for all the other men, but I dont like them huge myself and I dont like them flat either, just a nice average squeezable size as long as they are natural and not filled with jelly! I realize you have to carry those breasts and get backaches, headaches, indents etc. Like you said, but its worth it for all the joy they bring to us men, so keep jiggling them for us and keep them in good shape

take care...

Lol - I agree with niceguy libby...I am not a big breast man either...I like nice size breasts...Nothing overly whelming but nothing too small to grasp either.

But regardless of how it makes the men feel, I think the women's interest and health should be the first consideration...

I could stand to lose about 30 lbs myself...Maybe I can gain 30 lbs of "meat"...Lol...Nah - a couple of inches would be nice though...