Well, I have been with my boyfriend for
over a year. We now live together. We tend
to argue a lot and have started working on
our relationship. We still however argue
about once a week. Sometimes our fights
get down right ugly. He says some of the
most horrible things to me. The other
night he told me I was to uneducated and
to stupid to have an opinion about
anything. He calls me names and makes fun
of my weight. I then get back at him by
calling him names. I don't like the person
I become when we are fighting. How do I
defuse the situation? Walking away just
does not seem to work becuase he will
follow me.
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Willa Weintraub
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Re: Abuse? Posted: 04-17-07 07:53am
js07
wrote:
Well, I have been with my
boyfriend for over a year. We now live
together. We tend to argue a lot and have
started working on our relationship. We
still however argue about once a week.
Sometimes our fights get down right ugly.
He says some of the most horrible things
to me. The other night he told me I was to
uneducated and to stupid to have an
opinion about anything. He calls me names
and makes fun of my weight. I then get
back at him by calling him names. I don't
like the person I become when we are
fighting. How do I defuse the situation?
Walking away just does not seem to work
becuase he will follow
me.
Wow,thats
mental/emotional abuse.You need to talk to
him and tell him how it makes you feel
when he says things like that and tell him
if he can't stop you can't continue the
relationship.You don't belittle and say
things like that to the people you
love.rust me,I was in that position a
while agp and it turned into physical
abuse and I left.If you want,before it
gets ugly get in your car and leave.go to
a friends house or just go on a drive.If
he threatens to lock you out,tell him to
keep his mouth shut then! I'm sorry you
are going through this and I wish I could
help more,but really it's all upt o you
girl.
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Akkette
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Apr 2007 Posts: 50 Location: Australia
Posted: 04-17-07 10:02am
The questions you need to ask yourself is
do you love him?, how much? and is the
relationship worth saving?. If it is then
you need to seek councelling. Verbal abuse
may also adventually become physical
abuse. A relationship is a partnership and
needs to be treated like one. Remember you
are worth so much more than the names and
the way he makes you feel. Also think
about if the good times out weigh the
bad?. You just dont want to get into the
situation where it might be to late.
Seek some help. He has no right to treat
you this way.
