My boyfriend and I live about 45 minutes
away. He works most of the time and I
have school and hockey. We arrange days
to see each other when we both don't have
anything going on. Which latley has been
about every 3 to 4 weeks. This has been
going on for 3 years now. Well we have
been having sex for about 2 years now and
it seems like it still doesn't last vey
long. My bofriend says he doesn't
masterbate(which I will take his word for
now) well he said he tried it once but
thought it felt weird to do it himself.
Well I was thinking about telling him that
he should start to masterbate every once
in a while so that maybe sex will last
longer. Or maybe that's not the case.
But if someone could give me a tip that
would be great.
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cherry_pie
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jan 2004 Posts: 599
Hello.. Posted: 02-19-04 13:47pm
When I read your post I found it very
strange that your boyfriend wouldn't (or
says he doesn't anyways) masturbate. I
thought that was just a natural part of a
teen males life! As
for your question, I think that if he did
start to pleasure himself, he would
eventually get to the point where he could
last longer in bed. Although I had a
friend and she was going out with guy who
was a virgin (she wasn't) and they had sex
many times, and she would always complain
that he never lasted longer, and im pretty
sure that he masturbates.. I mean those
maxim magazines aren't in the bathroom for
no reason! So perhaps the only solution
is more experience!!! I would ask your
boyfriend to start masturbating, and if
he's reluctant, tell him to think of you
while hes doing it.. The whole
fantasizing thing may help. As for the
distance thing I can totally relate to it
(my bf lives an hour away), but I hope
that what i've typed here may be of some
help
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cherry_pie
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jan 2004 Posts: 599
Another Option... Posted: 02-19-04 13:52pm
I just thought of another option that you
can do to help your situation... When
your playing around with each other, and
you think that he's about to ...Go... (in
mildest terms) !!!Stop!!! Whatever your
doing.. He may say thats cruel and
what-not.. But if you keep doing this a
couple times before you let him ...Go...
Eventually this could teach him to last
longer. I've read of this technique
before, and i've done it on my boyfriend
and although he sometimes gets mad at me
for it (aww, why'd you stop?!) I know for
a fact that he can now last longer..
Whether it be his own discipline, or my
hand in things.. Or maybe both.. I know
that we're now enjoying sex alot more.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 02-19-04 19:11pm
Some men do swear that they have never
masturbated and hey, maybe they haven't,
but I will say that I believe 99.9% at
least do pleasure themselves. But yeah,
tell him to start masturbating and not let
himself cum until a decent amount of time
passes. He can start with five minutes
or whatever and work his way up. And the
above advice was also good, when you two
are fulling around or whatever and he is
about to, stop. Yeah, he may get upset
or whatever, but you know he is eventually
going to get off anyway, so he needs to
hang in there until you are ready to quit.
Hope this helps.
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JasenG
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 99 Location: Virginia
Posted: 05-20-05 14:34pm
the number
system
(i created this from reading lots and lots
of books on tantric sex)
the number system is what I have devised
from reading books on tantric sex. Think
of a 10.0 as the height of the orgasm, and
a 1.0 as a completely flaccid state with
no sexual stimulation. The numbers 1.0 -
9.9 can be repeated much like riding a
wooden roller coaster. The trick is to
learn what a 9.0 feels like and to train
yourself to respond to it.
Start intercourse and do "normal" things
until you reach a 9.0. Immediately stop
and let yourself relax to a 4.0 - 5.0.
Once you are there, resume thrusting.
Repeat this cycle until you are only able
to relax to about an 8.0 state. At this
time, you should switch to other types of
sexual activity. Let your penis become
flaccid and try massages, oral, or other
types of sexual activities that do not
break the mood, but divert the focus from
your penis. After a few minutes, start
intercourse again and repeat this cycle.
The key to this is the repetition and
restraint. Over time, you will be able to
get to a 9.1, 9.2, and even to a 9.9 (like
I can) before having to stop.
Intercourse in itself feels great! The
inner walls of the woman’s vagina are
very inviting, warm, soft, and the
emotional and psychological effects of sex
are unmatched; however, the orgasm should
not be the "goal" of sex. The whole
experience should be the focus, not the
end.
When I was a "newbie" (actually from age
16 - 19), I couldn't last more than 10 min
on a good day. I met a girl who was very
inexperienced and we learned together
through books and experimentation. I
devised this method and now I can go for
hours at a time, with getting to a 9.9 and
actually have multiple 9.9 level orgasms.
The final 10.0 actually feels more like an
11.0 now. Try this and feel free to pm me
for any explanations or further details
that you need.
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shygal
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 May 2005 Posts: 10
Posted: 05-23-05 11:01am
Did you try a penis ring? They're
suppposed to make an erection last longer.
Don't know if it will work for sure but
it may be worth a try
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JasenG
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 99 Location: Virginia
Posted: 05-26-05 14:09pm
shygal
wrote:
did you try a penis ring?
They're suppposed to make an erection last
longer. Don't know if it will work for
sure but it may be worth a
try
haha that is true. Good suggestion;
however, you must be careful with those.
Don't get one too tight and make sure that
you also buy the appropriate lubricant to
apply the ring. If not, it might not fit
on right. Also, make sure that you are
fully hard first. It can be painful to
still grow with the ring on!
As
for your question, I think that if he did
start to pleasure himself, he would
eventually get to the point where he could
last longer in bed. Although I had a
friend and she was going out with guy who
was a virgin (she wasn't) and they had sex
many times, and she would always complain
that he never lasted longer, and im pretty
sure that he masturbates.. I mean those
maxim magazines aren't in the bathroom for
no reason! So perhaps the only solution
is more experience!!! I would ask your
boyfriend to start masturbating, and if
he's reluctant, tell him to think of you
while hes doing it.. The whole
fantasizing thing may help. As for the
distance thing I can totally relate to it
(my bf lives an hour away), but I hope
that what i've typed here may be of some
help 
